This is made for personal use, listening, to get an impression, idea, of content of this book, here then as google translated from German language, book, the afterlife and the spiritual world. Of kim-anne-jannes. About the author: Kim-Anne Jannes has known about her media skills since she was a child and is known for her appearances on TV. She regularly organizes seminars on topics related to human personality development, especially in the Zurich and Mannheim area. Her topics include the correct handling of one's own ego, setting personal boundaries and the inner child. For more information, visit: www.kim-anne-jannes.ch This book is dedicated to my children, as they always help me understand the miracle of life. Foreword. Even as a teenager I always said: "One day I'll write a book!" However, I said it more as a joke when something unusual happened in my life. Strangely enough, I still had the feeling now and then that it could really happen. Back then I had no idea what life would have in store for me, and that was a good thing. A lot has come together since then, and it seems to be time to record everything that has happened to me. In this second book I have tried to describe the most important things about the spiritual world and contact with the afterlife in a simple and understandable way. I hope that I have succeeded in giving you many interesting insights and entertaining moments. It would be a great pleasure for me. And perhaps I can also offer you some comfort with my words if you are currently grieving for a loved one. Death is just a door that we all go through at some point, and there is actually no real reason to be afraid of it. Because without death, this wonderful life would not exist. With deep affection, yours Kim-Anne Jannes. Introduction. While I was writing this book, I repeatedly asked people around me to read passages from it. It was important to me to find out whether what I had written was easy to understand or whether I had to change one thing or another. After my mother-in-law had read a large part, she said: "I really like it and I understand what you write. But I still have one question: How do you know all this about death and the afterlife? I mean, you lead a pretty normal life - not much different to me. And yet I have no clue about any of these things." I realized that her question was actually justified. Since it was completely normal for me, I had never had to ask myself this question. The fact that there is an afterlife was always a given for me. The question of why? had therefore never occurred to me. I thought about it for a while and quickly realized the reason for this: Ever since I came into this world as a human (actually, since I was growing in my mother's womb), I have been able to glimpse through the door to the spiritual world. In fact, I believe that it has been was always open. And that is the simple explanation for the fact that I already had this comprehensive knowledge about life after death as a child. That is why there was no separation between my spiritual existence and my physical existence, as is normally the case. I did not have to laboriously remember everything and dig out this knowledge of the spiritual world, like most people do, but was able to draw on it from the very beginning and use it more or less consciously. That is why I also perceive my spiritual helper very clearly; we were closely connected from the very beginning. Even if every human being has such spiritual support in the form of a helper at their side, it is not a given that the connection to each other works as well as it does with me. Unfortunately, many do not even know that they have this spiritual helper. Perhaps the book will help some of you to access this area again. In any case, it would be an honor for me to have contributed to this. 1, My path to mediumship. I have often asked myself why God gave me such a gift. I probably shouted "Here" too loudly when the distribution of perceptual abilities in heaven before my birth was discussed. I should perhaps have listened to God a little better. When it came to the distribution of patience or slowness, I was probably on the toilet in heaven. And that's how my life here as a citizen of earth began. I was in such a hurry that my mother didn't even make it to the front door after the contractions had started. My head was already getting some air, and so I was born two weeks early. The amniotic sac was on my head like a little hat. This speed caused all kinds of moments of horror in my family again and again after my birth. A sentence that was often heard when I was suddenly not found again - and that happened frequently - was the following: "She was just there!" I must have chosen my guardian angel based on speed, otherwise I can't explain his performance. I often found myself in life-threatening situations, and each time, help came around the corner at the crucial moment, as if on cue. There really would have been plenty of opportunities for me to go back to the spiritual world. I don't envy my guardian angel (or rather, my dear spiritual helper, as I now call him) his job, because he had his hands full making sure I stayed alive so that I could fulfill my life's task today. Fortunately, I didn't even perceive the life-threatening nature of all these situations as such, because it always turned out well for me. My helper did a great job in this regard too. For example, I slept through a bad car accident and only woke up when the car stopped and my father called out: "Get out of here quickly, child!" Neither of us was injured, although we had turned around several times and rushed down an embankment. Miraculously, we hadn't rolled over. Another critical event for my life and limb occurred while I was on vacation on a North Sea island. I was maybe four years old. My parents, my brother and I were out for a walk when I spotted a great horse in a paddock further away. I ran off and had only one goal: the horse. My parents only noticed that I was no longer near them when it was already too late. Again, the sentence was repeated: "She was just there!" The animal's black tail attracted me magically. I stood behind the horse and let the hair slide over my face again and again. To my mother's horror, as she already suspected that the stallion - restless as he was - would try to get rid of me somehow. That's exactly what happened the next moment. The animal gave me a well-aimed kick in the face and I flew a few meters. My parents' hearts almost stopped as they had to watch the event from a distance. Amazingly, I neither lost consciousness nor did I seriously hurt myself. Of course I cried, but more out of shock. At the doctor's office, it became clear how incredibly lucky I had been. The horse's hoof hit me so well that today only a small scar next to my eye reminds me of the incident. My eye, my brain, my neck, all of it remained intact. The eye patch that the doctor stuck on the small laceration I used that same evening to make contact with people who were eating in the same restaurant as us and to start a conversation, which of course worked perfectly. Another time I was with my beloved grandma Hilde on the way to the gym, where a small sporting event was taking place that we wanted to watch. I knew the way through the changing rooms like the back of my hand, as my grandparents were caretakers at the neighboring school and my mother taught there as a PE teacher. The gym was built on a slope, so you had to go down stairs from the entrance to the changing rooms and from there to the hall, down more stairs to the gym door. So I took a run and ran down the steps to the changing rooms, through the changing rooms and down the next few steps. By now I had so much momentum that I lost contact with the ground and flew purposefully toward the closed hall door. My grandma had no chance of catching up with me and had to hope for a miracle. Which is what happened. Just before I could hit the door, it opened and a southerner came around the corner. He realized the situation in a flash, opened his arms and caught me almost as planned. My grandma got weak in the knees and showered the rescuer with speeches of thanks and then with chocolates. These are just a few examples, but these stories could go on and on. However, they all have one thing in common: In the end, a small to medium-sized miracle always happened, which always ensured that I remained unharmed. I have thought a few times about what should be written on my gravestone when I die. The typical saying of my family - "She was just here!" - is definitely on the shortlist. As a child, I didn't particularly notice my talent for being in contact with the spiritual world. For a long time, I assumed that everyone perceived the same things as me, which is why I never felt like an oddball or anything like that. I used my expanded perception to master my everyday life as a child with all its challenges as well as possible. My life was shaped by competitive sports from an early age, which I am very happy about today, as it enabled me to develop discipline and a strong sense of my body, which is very helpful to me today in pursuing my vocation. When I think back to my childhood, I notice a few things that should have made my parents suspicious. For example, as a child, my mother often asked me for advice when she couldn't find certain objects. When I asked her a few years ago whether she wasn't surprised that I always knew where to look for them, she just said: "That was practical, and I just thought you had hidden the things and therefore knew where they were." During the conversation, however, we found out that some objects were stored far too high for me to put them there or see them. When I once told her about a friendly old lady with long, white hair who sat by my bed in the evenings, even though I was actually completely alone in my room, she simply put it down to my vivid imagination. I now know that it was my great- grandmother, who has often appeared to me since then to help me. She died before I was even born, so I didn't know her at the time. I still feel a great connection to her today, because she was and is something like a good spirit for me. I learned from my mother that this woman was a very special person. She had very progressive thinking for the times and was already using homeopathic remedies to treat illnesses. My life has also always been marked by déjà vu. For example, when my family and I went on a holiday trip to the island of Brac, which was still Yugoslavia at the time, we passed through a very old, small fishing village on the way there. Everything there seemed somehow so familiar to me, and I always knew a few moments in advance what we would be driving past next. I thought: Oh yes, there's a little shop coming up soon, then a well, then the harbor on the other side, etc. I knew the village and the way to the harbor without ever having been there in this life. I thought that was completely normal at the time and that's why I didn't talk about it. Today I know that I once lived in this village in a previous life and that's why I remembered many details. The fact that my extended perception was pigeonholed as fantasy by my family had one crucial advantage: I could use it in everyday life and thought that was normal, since more or less everyone has imagination. So in my eyes this gift was part of a normal human being's makeup. That was probably also the reason why I was never afraid as a child when I saw my great-grandmother or something else that wasn't actually there. I was completely unbiased about these phenomena. After all, nobody had ever told me that this was scary, strange or negative in any way. I prayed every evening and spoke to God. I knew that he was listening to me and helping me when I really needed him. Getting very helpful answers in the form of thoughts was also part of my everyday life. Today I am sure that I was not communicating directly with God, but with my spiritual helper. Things got a little more difficult in secondary school. In religious education classes, I always had the feeling that something was wrong with what the teacher was trying to teach us. His picture of life, death and heaven did not match my perception at all, and so it often happened that my mother had to speak to the teacher because I had asked "why?" too often. I basically asked "why?" about everything that really interested me until I got a satisfactory answer. You can imagine that such a child can be very annoying at times, but my parents took their fate in their stride. On the one hand, they were happy to have such an inquisitive child. On the other hand, they thought that this "why" phase would also pass at some point. But my parents were wrong about that. Otherwise, I only stood out because of my compassionate, helpful and social nature. I never belonged to a particular group. Even if there were exceptions now and then, I basically liked everyone in this world. Even the children who regularly beat up others and were therefore very unpopular were sometimes part of my closest circle of friends. Somehow I felt sympathy for everyone and that hasn't changed to this day. I feel a basic level of love and understanding for all people and living beings. Of course, there are some who are closer to me than others, but even as a child I didn't know feelings like hate or envy. I was therefore all the more irritated when I was consciously confronted with envy for the first time. I had to understand and accept that there are people who feel envy and resentment - even if that wasn't exactly easy for me. Now you might get the impression that I grew up in a particularly sheltered environment, which could have led to a certain naivety. However, I can't exactly say that I was treated with kid gloves. My brother, who is five and a half years older than me, didn't really go easy on me either. While he was able to stand out with his strength and size, I had to use cunning and trickery to assert myself against my beloved brother. We argued passionately, but on the other hand we stuck together like glue. Depending on what was going on at the time. I now believe that God has endowed me with a certain naivety so that I don't lose my love for people. It is a kind of protection. Because if I didn't believe in the good in people, I wouldn't be able to authentically carry out many aspects of my current work. If I thought miracles were unrealistic, I would no longer have any hope or faith. I have never seen death or dying as something negative or even threatening. I first encountered these topics when animals that lived on my grandparents' farm died at some point. I felt that was natural and would never have thought of arguing with God because of it. The animals that were close to me and died were given a proper burial and so death was always a part of life for me. Even when my beloved grandpa Herbert became seriously ill and had to go to the hospital again and again, I wasn't afraid for him. I knew where he would go if he died. I still remember my last visit to him in the hospital very well. He was wearing a white hospital gown and long white thrombosis stockings. He was joking and making fun of me the whole time. He said they were his ballet stockings so he could dance better down the hallway. I wasn't sure if I should believe him, but I did find the idea of my grandpa skipping down the aisle like a prima ballerina very funny. From that day on, I unfortunately didn't have the opportunity to see him again. At some point my mother told me that he was very ill and asked me if I wanted to write him a letter. She would then read it to him as soon as she was with him. (Because of arguments between my parents, I was no longer allowed to visit him and my grandma, as they were my mother's parents and my father had forbidden me to have contact with them.) So I wrote a letter - every word in a different color and in very large letters, because he could hardly see anymore. For me it was a kind of farewell letter, but without sadness. I was simply happy that I could do something nice to cheer him up and that I could tell him how much I loved him. Shortly afterwards he died without us seeing each other again. Unfortunately I was not allowed to go to the funeral, which I couldn't understand at all at the age of nine. After all, it was the farewell party in honor of my grandfather. But my father saw things differently. He said that children had no place at a funeral. Over the next few years it became increasingly clear that my father saw many things very differently from me. At this time there was already a huge crisis between my parents. They argued often and disrespectfully, and my father left no stone unturned to offend my mother. He lost control of his life and probably tried to control and manipulate everyone else for exactly that reason. That was a real shame, because my father had many positive sides too. Unfortunately, controlling everyone else didn't work out for him. First my mother left, then my brother, and finally I left too. At the age of thirteen, I told him that I was now going to move in with my mother. I had spoken to God for weeks and asked him for strength to take this step. For various reasons, it took a lot of courage and effort. On the one hand, my father had tried to prevent contact between my mother, my brother, and me. To achieve his goal, he told me all kinds of stories, such as: "Your mother doesn't want to know anything about you." So I was a little unsure whether my mother even wanted me to be with him. On the other hand, I also felt how much my father needed me so that he wouldn't feel like he had completely failed. However, in his personal campaign of revenge against my mother, he forgot something essential: love. No matter what he did or said, it couldn't harm my love for my mother. It was only a matter of time before our close bond would win. I knew that leaving my father alone would destroy him forever. He had already driven away everyone he loved. The illness that would ultimately kill him three years later was not long in coming after I moved out. Shortly after he married for the second time (incidentally, in the same church where he had said "I do" to my mother twenty years earlier), he was diagnosed with cancer. I was now living with my mother and very close to my beloved grandmother Hilde, who had given up the farm in the Eifel after the death of my grandfather Herbert and moved to Solingen, near my mother. A week before his forty-eighth birthday, my father had to go to the doctor unexpectedly because of back pain. But nothing unusual had been found. When I went to visit him on his birthday, I found him lying in bed. He was in a lot of pain and his stomach was as hard as a board. The strange thing was that I wanted to give him a very special present on this birthday of all days. For this reason, I had written him a short story myself a few days before. This story was about an old man in a wheelchair and a little girl. The girl often passed him on her way to the market and they always looked intensely into each other's eyes. However, they never spoke a word to each other. The story ended like this: ... It was market day again. The girl decided to speak to the old man this time. Full of anticipation, she walked the well-known path to the market square. But this time when she turned the corner, the entrance to the house where the old man had sat in his wheelchair every Saturday was empty. I was firmly convinced that I had the greatest gift in the world, because what child writes their father a story? My father's comment surprised me a little. He said: "That's a strange birthday present." Today I see it the same way as he does. But back then I had written with inspiration and hadn't been aware of the symbolism of the lines. I was much more interested in the idea. In any case, over the course of the following night it quickly became clear what had already been announced in my story. My father was taken to the hospital that same evening, and my mother drove me to him. She let me out of the car with the following words: "No matter what happens and no matter what kind of situation you find yourself in, you stay with him tonight and call me if you want me to come and get you tomorrow." I didn't quite understand the drama. In my opinion, as has often been the case recently, a huge fuss was probably being made about nothing. However, my mother insisted that I should stay there. Unfortunately, she herself did not have permission to come with me. My parents were simply too divided. On the way to the ward, I met a doctor. I spoke to him directly and asked him if he could tell me anything about my father's condition. Although I looked quite young at sixteen, I was surprisingly able to get very specific information from him straight away. He said that the whole body was now affected by cancer and that it was only a matter of hours or days before my father would die. Strangely, I was not shocked, but simply prepared accordingly when I entered the room. My father was asleep and only realized that I was with him half an hour after I sat down next to him. But he was very happy to see me. At that moment, I realized that I would be staying with him for the night. All of a sudden I felt nothing but love and compassion for him, which surprised me, because our relationship was anything but good at that time, as many things between us were still unresolved. The love that flowed through me was of the same kind as the love that I feel today when I accompany people who are dying or when someone asks me for help. In this situation, I knew intuitively what to do without anyone ever explaining or teaching me. So I sat with him and talked to him - even when he fell into a coma around midnight. I simply tried to give him strength for the path that lay ahead of him, which was already clear to me. I knew that he would find dying difficult because of all the guilt, and so I tried to simply be there for him so that his fear would be lessened. His wife at the time was also with us, but she was struggling with the impending farewell. I, on the other hand, felt surprisingly calm and accompanied him on his final earthly journey. In my mind I was talking to him and noticed that he could even understand me. After he had finally taken his last breath, I left the room and informed my mother and the rest of the family. Then I sat down on a chair in the hospital corridor and only now did I really realize that my father had just died. I thought I would probably have a breakdown or at least burst into tears, but nothing of that happened. On the contrary - I still felt a sense of calm, love and certainty. Only today, many years later, do I know that this was my first time accompanying someone through the dying process. I feel it is a blessing to be able to help the dying and their relatives in these difficult hours. Therefore, contrary to what you might expect, my father's death had a lasting impact on my life. This intense experience did not throw me into deep grief and despair, but I experienced God's love in that moment. I realized for the first time how easy it can sometimes be to help other people. My father met me in a dream for the last time a few weeks after his death to say goodbye to me. I dreamt that I was at my old school. He was standing in a gallery and was watching me from above as I took part in the drama rehearsals. Suddenly I saw him standing there, immediately ran up the stairs and asked him, very surprised, what he was doing there, after all he had died. He answered me that he was allowed to say goodbye to three people in this way and I was one of them. I was very happy about his choice, hugged him and went back down to the others. I waved to him again and then went back to the rehearsal. When I looked up at the gallery shortly afterwards, he had disappeared. After my father's death, a new chapter in my life began. I didn't realize that my ability to perceive and the intensity of my feelings had been activated and strengthened by accompanying my father through his dying days. Doors had opened in me that I didn't even know existed. From that point on, I was confronted with death so often that I simply couldn't avoid the subject. I had to deal with it whether I wanted to or not. The last hours with my father had opened the floodgates of compassion and comfort in me, and now this power wanted to penetrate further into my consciousness and to people. But since I had made up my mind to become a goldsmith, God had to come up with something else so that I could find the way to my true calling. So it came to be that i spent the next two years, as a regular visitor to funerals for years. One person after another who was close to me died and left this world. It didn't matter whether it was my father's mother, various acquaintances or, last but not least, my dear friend Gerhard. He took his own life by diverting exhaust fumes into his car. I had seen him less and less in the weeks before because he finally had a girlfriend, and so I thought he was finally well and happy. So at the age of eighteen I found myself in the cemetery again - as had been the case at regular intervals over the past two years - to say goodbye to someone and bury them. When my mother and I went home together after the funeral, I slowly got angry and asked her: "What's the point of this? Why am I becoming a regular here? What's going on that I'm constantly confronted with death?" My mother was at a loss and unfortunately didn't know the answer. Instead, a thought flashed through my mind: "Why don't you buy yourself a book about life after death?" I was surprised by this stupid idea, but I now know that it changed my life in an instant. But since I had no better idea, I actually got myself a book about the afterlife from an English medium. After reading it for a while, I thought: "Why should I read that? I know what this man writes about the spiritual world and death. It's logical!" And another thought came to me, this time in the form of a question: "Do you think that everyone finds that logical?" And suddenly I realized that I was somehow different from others. Because I had never asked myself whether death was as much a part of life for other people as it was for me. I began to reflect on the last few years and realized that my perception was actually very different from others. For example, shortly after my father's death, there was an incident that I had successfully repressed until this moment of insight: I had driven with an acquaintance to visit his friends to see a concert with them. The people and the house where we stopped before the concert were completely unknown to me. But when I entered the house, I suddenly felt uneasy. My chest felt tight and it was difficult to breathe. I noticed a dark cloud in the room and had the feeling that I could actually see it. The cloud connected two people standing in the room. It seemed to me as if they were having a heated argument about breaking up. In fact, there were only friendly, smiling people in the room and nothing indicated the scenario that I had so clearly perceived. I slowly calmed down and thought that I was definitely a case for the nuthouse. On the way to the concert, after some effort, I asked my acquaintance whether these two were a couple and whether they were thinking about breaking up. It just wouldn't leave me alone. He looked at me, completely stunned, and asked how I knew, because he was the only one they had told. I tried to explain to him that it was just a feeling. Fortunately, he was satisfied with this answer, and I decided to ignore such perceptions in the future, because I didn't want to end up in a closed institution. But the more I suppressed these things, the worse I felt. I developed chronic physical complaints and doctors regularly sent me home with the words "we can't find anything, you're perfectly healthy," even though I was doubled over in pain. There were symptoms such as cardiac arrhythmia, stomach cramps and severe back pain. And in between, as already mentioned, there was always a funeral. Today I know that my body served as an organ of expression at the time. It showed symptoms that I had partly adopted from other people, and brought to light perceptions on a physical level that I had not given any better opportunity to express. For a while I even developed a strange fear of dying. I had to suppress my previous image of life, death and the afterlife so as not to be reminded of my expanded sensory perception. This created a gap that I filled with the widespread image that everything is over after death. And that is exactly what triggered this incredible fear in me. An inner battle raged within me and resistance reared up within me against the idea of nothingness. The idea that everything around me would be black after life seemed so infinitely senseless to me. I could not and did not want to imagine that this wonderful creation could work like that. It was simply against the laws of nature, which can be observed year after year, for example in the changing seasons. I asked myself how it could be possible that we humans should be subject to completely different laws. Nature awakens anew from every hibernation to continue growing. Why should it be any different for us humans? No matter what I tried to accept this image of final death (ultimately to be more convenient for others), I just couldn't succeed. Everything that humans do would lose its meaning and purpose, and I simply couldn't imagine that God would go to such lengths to achieve this. So I had to develop the courage to face my own truth, because all these questions would not remain unanswered. They didn't get quieter, but louder, the more I tried to push them aside. I am now very happy that my spiritual helpers were so persistent, because their perseverance has brought me where I am today. I can do what gives me joy and what deeply fulfills me. In the meantime, I had the proverbial block in front of my head that prevented me from recognizing my true interests and needs. Since the power of compassion had become very strong within me, it inevitably had to find its way into my consciousness, since I did not allow it to voluntarily. I realized that I should no longer suppress my view of things, because the last few years had shown how unhealthy that was for me. As you can see, life catapulted me onto the right track and fortunately just did not let go. When I finally realized these connections, I began to perceive myself and my environment differently. I used my difference and tried to integrate it into my everyday life. I was no longer frightened by myself, but tried to accept myself as I was. That was an important step in the right direction, but I was still a long way from my current work as a medium. That was not what I was after. I would never have dreamed of this idea. I put my energy into my artistic development and tried my hand at performing and visual arts. Inspired, I painted without knowing what inspiration actually was. I followed my intuitions without knowing that they were intuitions. For me, they were simply thoughts. But the decisive factor was that I began to accept myself. I no longer asked myself how I knew this or that. I simply accepted it and I began to feel better again. My chronic complaints, which had manifested themselves in the meantime, gradually disappeared. Then came the next turning point in my life. I met my first husband. He was, tellingly, an undertaker and worked in his parents' family business. They, in turn, were the landlords of the goldsmith's shop that I had rented. It didn't bother me in the slightest that the undertaker's business was in the courtyard of my goldsmith's studio. That's why I didn't mind that my new love was an undertaker by profession. I had no negative or strange feelings about it. On the contrary, I got on very well with his parents as landlords. When we became a couple, I encountered new facets of death. And through this marriage I found my calling as a medium. There are an incredible number of key moments that I was able to experience with my first husband. Our time together was extremely intense and it put us both on our predetermined path, which still binds us deeply today. I believe we agreed to meet in heaven before we were born. I am now quite sure of that. One of these important key moments was a trip to the cinema. We actually went to the cinema to see the advertisement for my goldsmith's studio. That also meant that we could watch the following film for free. However, we had no idea which film would be playing. So after the advertising part we stayed seated and were surprised by what would be shown. What came next was a film about four young girls who all had a special talent. One could summon the elements of nature, the other could see the future, etc. The film depicted the girls' inner struggle over whether they should use their abilities to serve or abuse others. Later, as we drove home in the car, the film was still having an effect on us and we didn't talk much. Until my husband suddenly asked me: "Are you as interested in this topic as I am?" I was astonished because it was the first time someone had asked me something like that. For the first time in a long time, I was able to talk about my innermost thoughts and feelings without fear. We started to talk about it more and more often and these conversations were a huge relief for both of us. I found out that he also saw things differently than most people and so our development took its course. We soon decided to move in together and to celebrate our future together. We found a house that we both felt magically attracted to and we moved in there a few weeks later. It was extremely remote in a beautiful spot and we had no idea how many groundbreaking experiences were waiting for us there. Not even two days had passed after we moved in when a girl with a pony stood on our terrace. We greeted her and asked who she was. She introduced herself as the neighbor's daughter and told us as if it was the most natural thing in the world that her mother was a witch and that she lived in the house next door with her parents and two siblings. Strangely enough, we didn't doubt it either because she spoke about it so naturally that it seemed completely normal to us that our new neighbor should be a witch. Of course, it didn't take long before we met the girl's mother, and it quickly became clear what the daughter meant by witch. Her mother worked as a healer and knew a lot about medicinal herbs. A nice, young and natural woman with whom we quickly came into contact. A close friendship developed between us and this family, which had a great influence on and helped to shape my spiritual development. I admired the mother's knowledge of nature and soon I had found someone to talk to who thought my perceptions were completely normal. Eventually I got to know some of her friends and learned that I wasn't as alone with my way of perceiving as I had thought until then. To this day I am grateful to God that I met this woman, because through her I remembered everything I once knew and learned what I was missing. She encouraged me in my interest, and apart from that we had a lot of fun. From then on my mediumistic development was unstoppable. Among other things, I was able to consciously feel and hear my spiritual helper again, just as I had done as a child. But of course, despite his support, I also made mistakes and sometimes had to learn, painfully, how to use knowledge and how not to. Sometimes I overshot my goal in my enthusiasm for newly acquired knowledge. I call it the phase of esoteric arrogance, when you think you've "eaten wisdom with a spoon". I always had good advice, regardless of whether I had been asked for it beforehand or not. Fortunately, my spiritual helpers (there are several) quickly brought me back down to earth and thus prevented me from causing greater damage. They showed me that there are limits that must be respected. I urgently needed this realization, because it was never my intention to overwhelm others or to disregard their limits. This is how I also learned what healthy limits are and what they are for. I am very, very grateful for these experiences because they gave me a solid foundation for really meeting people and serving them with humility. Because when I realized that I was sometimes lacking healthy boundaries, I also realized why they are important: They are the "vessel" for all feelings, for respect and consideration. Without the ability to set boundaries, you cannot clearly define yourself and your relationships with other people and you lose your own identity. And if, like me, you also have to deal with "disembodied beings" such as the deceased, healthy boundaries are really useful and important, because without them, true contact and connection are not possible. Another day that was to be very impressive and groundbreaking for me was the day when I attended a seminar on clairvoyance for the first time. My husband had encouraged me to go. It was my first spiritual seminar ever, so I came there completely unbiased and quite naive. I was just curious about what you could learn there and had no idea what to expect that day. We began with preparatory concentration exercises and then moved on to partner exercises. It was as if a switch had been flipped inside me; suddenly everything was back. With absolute clarity, I saw and sensed intimate things and facts that I could not possibly have known about these strangers. I could read the course participants like open books and was given very specific, helpful tips for each one, which I then also expressed. The course leader was phenomenal. He did not push me away, but instead gave me the opportunity to get my messages across so that the other participants could receive them. His behavior is not at all natural for me, because there is a lot of competition and egoism in the esoteric field in particular. He must have sensed that I was not trying to put myself in the spotlight or to take the lead of his seminar away from him. To this day I don't know how he actually felt about it, but it can't have been negative for him, because we still see each other now and again and these encounters are always very warm. On the evening of the seminar day, we finally talked for a while. During this conversation, he told me that he couldn't teach me much more. I should turn to English mediums in the future, because there would probably be more for me to learn there. I was pretty stunned by this, because I had expected anything but that. It seemed as if our meeting was not an everyday encounter for him either. Despite these experiences, I was still not really aware of the dimension of my perceptions and the nature of my gift even after this seminar. That only came with time, step by step. Of course, my curiosity was now aroused and I wanted to find out more about what exactly I was perceiving and, above all, where it came from. Emotionally, I could classify most of it, but I was looking for explanations for my mind. I wanted to understand what was happening to me, why, how and what for. There were a lot of questions that were crying out for answers. There were explanations in books, but usually something didn't quite fit with my feelings. There was always a problem somewhere if I questioned what I was reading persistently enough. I wanted to find explanations that didn't reach any limits, that could be linked together so that new levels and new options for action could be opened up. Today I know how high the demands were, but I had these ideas as a child, so what could I do against this urge to explore? After attending the clairvoyance seminar, things happened very quickly. Many key moments in my spiritual development took place during this time. The seminar had triggered more in me than I had initially realized. A few weeks later, I was sitting in my bed. I was listening to quiet music and wanted to relax a little. Suddenly a film ran through my mind's eye and I could no longer feel my body. My spiritual helper took me by the hand in this inner film and told me that he urgently needed to show me something. Since I felt the deepest trust in him, I did not resist. We moved further and further away from the globe with our light bodies. My physical body remained in bed. I felt like an astronaut. At some point my helper stopped and I turned around and took a look at the earth. At that moment I saw this beautiful, blue planet below me, like you see in satellite images. I was deeply touched and impressed by the glow that emanated from it. I felt a little uneasy, so I asked him what we were actually here for. He pointed to the globe and pointed out some bright lights to me. Some were larger, some smaller. He explained to me that these were the souls of the people I had already "ignited". I was very surprised, as I hadn't really been aware of it. I thought there were quite a lot of them. He grinned and said: "I'll show you what a lot is." And suddenly countless lights shone beneath us. He explained to me that I was only at the beginning of my work and how many souls would shine at the end depended on me. I asked what I had to do to make them shine and he said: "Just be yourself, do your work with our help and have fun doing it. Show people your respect and love. No more and no less is needed. It is and remains your decision whether you want to do that, but this is how your view of the world could look when you die." I replied that I had to digest that first and although it was quite pleasant up here, I would now like to go back to my body and to earth. "Of course," he said. "I just wanted to show you this view." I slowly came back into my body and realized that I had just had an out-of-body experience. I felt my body again and was so deeply touched that I sat in my bed for quite a while, silent and thoughtful. I thought a lot about this trip in the months that followed and took my time to make my decision. After all, I was not only flattered by these prospects, but I was also sure that I would be able to take the trip with me. above all, I was aware of the great responsibility that would be associated with it. Especially since I wasn't quite sure how switching on the lights would work in practice. My personality probably had to mature a bit for that, but it did so inexorably. It was as if someone had switched on the turbo. When I was once again on my way to the Eifel with my husband and a friend to visit my mother, something very dramatic happened to me. We were driving through the countryside and from a distance I saw a deer standing on the side of the road. It was clearly visible and I assumed that my husband, who was driving, saw it too. The closer we got, the more I suspected that he hadn't seen it yet because he hadn't slowed down. I was paralyzed and couldn't bring myself to tell him to watch out. I became more and more aware with every meter that he didn't notice, and I stared at the deer and the deer stared at the car. At the moment when we were only two meters away from the animal, it jumped out onto the road in front of our car instead of disappearing into the forest in fright. There was a terrible bang and then the car came to a stop. I jumped out of the vehicle and saw the animal lying in front of our car. As if remotely controlled, I grabbed it by the legs, pulled it off the road and laid it on the grass at the side of the road. I suddenly remembered what my neighbor and friend had recently explained to me about first aid for animals. That's exactly what I did: I put one hand on the animal's head and one on its rump. Since the animal was still alive, I hoped I could do something useful. Strangely, the animal only tried to get up for a very short time, but then lay back on its side and relaxed. Since I didn't have any emergency drops (Rescue) with me, I just imagined that I would give them to the deer to calm it down, which it did. Then energy somehow flowed through my hands and I remembered what my friend had said: "Either the animal gets the strength to get back on its feet quickly, or it is too badly injured. Then you use this flow of energy to help the animal die more quickly and painlessly. But the animal still makes the decision, and you only give it the strength to make that decision." After a few seconds, the animal suddenly overextended, its spine made a cracking noise, and it died. My husband drove off to fetch the forest ranger, and I sat with the deer until he came back. I noticed that the insides of my hands were burning like fire, even though my hands were physically cold. The feeling did not go away even a few weeks after the accident. When I then went to see another friend to learn about healing, I got the explanation for my burning hands. She said in her typical, direct and unmistakable way: "How convenient! This experience has opened up energy channels for you, something that others have to attend expensive seminars for. Be happy about this gift from God!" Fortunately, she then explained to me how I could control this constant flow of energy. Without her, I would not have known what a gift God had given me that day. On the one hand, I am still dismayed by this event, but on the other hand, the deer did not die in vain. Since then, I have used this power as best I can to help others, which is why I was finally able to accept the death of this animal and forgive myself for my speechlessness. A lot of things began to change. Everything around me and within me was in a phase of change, including my friendship with my neighbor, the witch. The trigger for this was probably a specific situation that our friendship was not up to. As so often, I sat at my painting table and looked out into the valley that opened up in front of my window. It was a really beautiful piece of nature where we lived. Suddenly and without warning, a whole film played before my inner eye, taking place at the edge of the forest on the other side of our valley. I saw a naked child's corpse lying there in my mind's eye, saw a man next to it, heard his name and saw a date. It was summer and there were still four weeks to go until that date. When I looked more closely, I recognized the girl as our neighbor's youngest daughter. I had never had such a vision before, but I knew intuitively that it was one. Now I was faced with the great dilemma of what to do with these images, because I had no experience with them that I could draw on. Would it be right to go to my friend and tell her? Or should I keep it to myself? and not take it so seriously? I spoke to my husband about it and he encouraged me to tell my friend. He thought that she would understand it and would be able to deal with it. First, however, I spoke to another friend who also knew this friend and her family well. She was an astrologer and after I confided in her, she told me that she had also noticed this theme in her daughter's horoscope. She also thought that I absolutely had to tell my friend. Of course, I would never have been able to forgive myself if something terrible had actually happened and I hadn't said anything beforehand. I really found it very difficult and it took a lot of courage to finally tell the girl's mother about my vision, including the date and the name of the man. At first, she reacted very understandingly and calmly. I tried to explain to her how torn I was because I didn't want to overstep any boundaries with her either. So I told her everything I had seen in my mind's eye on that film, and I felt somewhat relieved afterward. I left it up to her to decide what to do with that information. The date was getting closer and closer, and it was etched in my mind. I would only be truly relieved when that day was over. In the meantime, my neighbor had told her husband about our conversation, and he just said that negative thinking can also attract things. There is certainly some truth in that, but such a tragedy is the last thing I would wish on anyone. It made me quite sad to be misunderstood like that. On the other hand, this was a really tough situation for everyone, so I had some understanding for her reaction. In the next few days, I learned that a friend of this family had caught a man on the other side of the valley secretly taking photos of their house. This friend confronted the man and took the film from him. I don't know, however, what the photographer's real motives were. The date from my vision had finally arrived. It was a Saturday and extremely hot. My friend's three children were playing in an inflatable paddling pool down by the stables near the road. My friend was up in the house on the slope. As I passed the children, I told the eldest daughter that I would be home if anything happened. I didn't say anything else, of course. Towards the afternoon, an old acquaintance of the family who hadn't visited for years showed up unannounced. The day developed in such a way that we all ended up sitting on our terrace and having a spontaneous barbecue. Suddenly there were ten of us, my friend's children and the acquaintance they hadn't seen in ages. The daughter I had seen in my vision was flirting with this guest in an unusually challenging way, and it was clear that there was a different atmosphere in the air than usual. I had never seen the girl like that before, and never again after that. I had the feeling that the issue I had seen in my mind's eye was being discharged in a good way and that no one was harmed as a result. When the next day dawned, I felt liberated and a huge burden was lifted from me. Today, fortunately, I am wiser and know how to deal with visions, although fortunately I don't have them all that often. You can influence or change situations that you see in such a vision if you behave accordingly. I don't get any information in advance about things that are set in stone and are supposed to happen. I think that it makes sense that way, because I now know that visions don't come to torment me. Today I know why I hesitated to tell my friend about the images I had seen. I had already sensed that our friendship would break up because of them. Unfortunately, I can't say whether there were other reasons why our friendship slowly but surely ended, because despite various attempts, there was no longer a really open and clarifying conversation between us. I regret that very much, but I can now accept it, because I am still grateful for everything that I was able to learn and experience during this time together. Another, far-reaching change took place in my perception. Until now, I was used to getting clear images of deceased people when I was in contact with them. Or I perceived the actual emotional states of the people I met. But suddenly I saw demonic beings in my mind's eye when I was in close contact with a person. It didn't frighten me, it just irritated me, simply because I couldn't classify and understand these images. At some point I asked my spiritual helper, with whom I now had very good access and intensive contact, what these images meant. He explained to me that they were symbols for people's egos, which I perceived in this way. Now curious, I asked myself what my own ego symbol looked like, and I immediately had it in my mind's eye. I began to work with this image and thereby recognized parts and potentials of my personality that I had not previously been aware of. Negative habits or characteristics that quickly lost their horror when I no longer repressed them, but instead asked myself what their positive sides could be. Because every coin has two sides. In this way a method was created with which I can now help people in a simple way to recognize, accept and learn to love themselves. This method has become one of the most important foundations of my work, something I could never have imagined at the time. My husband developed spiritually just like me, but in a different direction. He was fascinated by Celtic rituals, nature spirits, read tarot cards and, like me, occasionally perceived the deceased. I admired his ability to perceive the spiritual world and communicate with it. I hadn't realized until a specific experience that I could do it at least as well as he could. One day we had a visit from a lady and her adult daughter who were looking to contact their deceased son and brother. She had somehow found out about my husband's gift and so she came to our house for his first official session. We had no idea that it would also be his last. I asked my husband if he would mind if I were there, because I was really extremely curious to see how he would do it. So I sat expectantly in the corner after we had assured each other that it was okay for the two women that I would be there. My husband began to talk, but I quickly sensed how excited he was and that it wasn't working the way he wanted it to. He tried to get started with his tarot cards, but he just couldn't seem to get it right. Instead, during his efforts, I heard a male voice I didn't recognize, telling me lots of details. I was a little confused and decided not to go into it any further. When my husband stopped trying after a while and decided to end the session, I asked him carefully whether it was possible that he couldn't hear anything because the young man was talking to me the whole time? And so I passed on the information that the deceased son and brother of the two women had given me. The statements were so specific and accurate that it was easy to rule out any mistakes. Contrary to expectations, contact did take place after all, and the two women found certainty and comfort and now knew how the deceased was doing. My husband was totally unsettled after this experience, although we were both initially happy that the two women had been helped. Ultimately, it didn't matter which of us had done it. He decided not to make any more such attempts and said that I would be much better suited to the task. I saw things differently at the time, although I was still amazed at the ease with which I had made contact with the deceased. The relationship between my husband and me became increasingly problematic. It was really strange: although we loved each other very much, our life together became more and more difficult. His mother interfered in our marriage, I felt very lonely, and we withdrew from each other. Strangely, I had the feeling from the beginning that we would not have children together, even though we had married and had always wanted children in our lives. I suppressed this inner voice because it did not match my external image. I had the impression that my husband was no longer happy in our relationship either, but he did not express it directly. He simply spent a lot of time in front of the television and came home later and later. A very bizarre situation made me realise that our marriage was beyond saving. At some point I noticed that he was no longer wearing his wedding ring. I asked him why he no longer had it on his finger and he answered me rather uncertainly that it must be in some pocket and he just hadn't found it yet. But a few days later, on what had actually happened to his ring. He and his colleague from the funeral home had picked up an old lady who had died at home. After he had decorated the coffin, the old woman was lifted into the coffin. Then he took off his rubber gloves in the coffin, as undertakers usually do after someone has been placed in the coffin. The ring slipped off his finger as it was (symbolically) too big for him. Unfortunately, he noticed it too late. Namely, only when the old lady had been buried with her wedding ring. When he then confessed this to me, my first comment was: "That's a great omen for our marriage." But somehow I wasn't really surprised. It only took a few months before my husband and I decided to separate. We had developed too differently and by now we both had different ideas about life. Nevertheless, we still felt affection for each other, and so the separation phase was not particularly stressful. I helped my husband to look for an apartment, because I wanted to stay in the idyllic little house for the time being. Suddenly we stopped arguing and divided everything we had bought together - except for one CD - "in a brotherly manner" between us. My first week of training with an English medium also fell during this period, where I had the next important insights. Actually, the place in this mediumistic training had originally been intended for my husband, but he had lost interest in it, so I went in his place. I had a clear idea of this seminar week: to meet lots of people there who had a similar talent to me. I was so excited and incredibly happy that I would soon meet lots of like-minded people and exchange ideas with them. What awaited me there, however, was anything but that. Most of the participants had lost a very important person through death at some point and now wanted to learn how they could get in touch with them themselves. That was the overwhelming motivation of the people who attended this seminar. There were only a few who perceived with the intensity that I did. After my initial surprise had worn off, I was still looking forward to everything I could learn there. And that was a lot. I finally had concrete techniques at my disposal with which I could train and satisfy my need for proof. I received so much proof that there is an existence after physical death and that I can rely on my perceptions that I can no longer count them all. And yet that was not enough for me to be able to devote myself fully to this work. I kept finding a but. At some point I became aware of the next step that would take me further: I had to allow complete trust in the spiritual level; the proof alone was simply not enough. For someone like me, who was always looking for explanations, that was a huge challenge. You can imagine the emotional situation I was in as if I were standing on a five-meter-high diving board and there was no water in the pool. Nevertheless, there is something like an angel hovering in front of you, saying: "Jump and you won't fall for even a moment. I'll catch you, but only when you can't go back." At first I thought: This is blackmail. But then I realized that it would have nothing to do with trust if I first made sure that he would really catch me before I actually jumped. My gut told me: Let yourself fall and take the step into your calling. It's right. But my mind said: There's no water in the pool, and besides: How are we supposed to live if you officially work as a medium and neglect your down-to-earth profession? And just think about it, goldsmithing is a respected profession. But a medium, what will people say? It was a nice attempt by my mind to keep me from my predetermined path, but my feelings, my curiosity and my love for people were simply greater. So I jumped - and didn't fall for a single moment. Since then, I personally no longer need proof to know that there is life after death. When proof comes, I am happy, but it is no longer my main focus, and that is indescribably liberating. I am glad that I have overcome my fear. Because this deep trust in God, creation and, above all, in life has made me a fulfilled person. Word gradually got around that I had this talent, and more and more people came to me wanting to take advantage of my help. My goldsmith's workshop saw me less and less, but I worked more and more with my mediumship. I began to give talks and show that contact with the spiritual level is possible. At first two, then five, and eventually ten people came to the events and one thing led to another. I was amazed that people reacted very positively to my new profession. I found out how many people were secretly concerned about this topic and was surprised that no one said to me: "You're crazy!" or something similar. No matter where I went, I was treated with respect and even if people had different opinions, our two points of view could simply remain side by side. What I had prepared myself for, namely hostility, attacks or people trying to make fun of me, did not happen. In the many years that I have now worked as a medium, I can still count unpleasant encounters on one hand, and that still amazes me, but of course it also makes me happy. Because it shows how many people think about life, death, etc. and would like to deal with it. And it is always an honor for me when I can contribute something to that. My mother did not like my spiritual development at all. She was anything but enthusiastic and made it clear. This situation was very stressful for me because if I wanted to be true to myself, I had to assert myself against my mother and, if necessary, accept that she would reject me for it. So it happened exactly as it had to. I was visiting the Eifel again and had taken my then neighbor with me. Our conversations got my mother so "riled up" that I made a decision. I told her that I would break off contact with her as long as she was not able to respect me and my views. I would only speak to her again when she spoke to me in a decent tone. So I went home in discord and there was radio silence between us for the next three months. Although it was very difficult for me to do so, I was very proud of having stood up for myself. I had no idea why she was so sensitive about these issues. If she had spoken up, it would certainly not have come to this that day, because I would have been able to understand her exaggerated reaction. How was I supposed to know that my father had also developed a spiritual interest in the final phase of my parents' marriage. However, his motivation was very dubious. He had tried to combine spirituality and sexuality in a strange, very selfish way. And now my mother probably thought that I would follow a similar path to him. After three months, she called me and asked how I was. We talked for a while, and I noticed that she was trying very hard not to "lump me and my father together" anymore. The quality of our conversations improved again, and she even began to take an interest in my thoughts and opinions. She noticed that I didn't want to convince or convert her, but that I just wanted her to accept me. Then, through me, she met an extraordinary healer who worked with animals. Since my mother had now remembered her childhood dream of helping animals, she attended a few courses with this woman. And it was with this healer that something happened that made my mother see my talent with different eyes from one moment to the next. She attended another weekend seminar with this woman, and I happened to be there to visit, because the healer was now part of my close circle of friends. I sat down for a while and listened to what they were discussing in the seminar. Afterwards, the seminar leader came up to me and asked me if I had a few minutes for one of her participants. She had been suffering from itchy psoriasis all over her body since she was a child, and a conversation with me would certainly do her good. I agreed, and so this woman and I spoke for half an hour. During our conversation, it quickly became clear to me what the real cause of her psoriasis was. This understanding and the associated findings made the woman feel very relieved, and when she returned to the seminar the next day, her psoriasis had almost disappeared. I only got this good news in the afternoon, when my mother asked me, completely astonished, whether I had seen the participant yet. I said no and asked what was wrong. My mother explained to me that the woman no longer had psoriasis. I was very surprised and happy. huge for her, as her new insights from our conversation the night before had apparently been enough to bring about a spontaneous healing. My mother was much more impressed than I was, because I already knew then that you can help people to perform miracles themselves. It wasn't me who had healed her, but her own soul had made it possible. After our conversation, the woman had allowed herself to get well and say goodbye to the old, emotional pain. I was just lucky enough to be able to remind her of this. It wasn't long before my mother had a similar experience herself. She called me on Sunday and sounded terrible. She had developed a swollen cheek overnight because a tooth had become infected. She was in terrible pain, and the nearest dentist was quite far away, as she lived very remotely in the Eifel. She asked me if I could help her in any way. I concentrated and sent my mother strength for the healing over a distance of three hundred kilometers. I had the feeling that it was working and that I was getting through to her and told her that it should be better in half an hour. She should then just call me again. Which she did. She was completely happy and said that it was almost gone, although the left side of her face had previously been completely swollen, almost like a balloon. She said that she would never doubt my abilities again, which was no longer important to me personally. I believe that this energy transfer worked so well because it gave my mother an experience that would change her life. Because I am not a healer and probably never will be one in the classic sense. I see my job as supporting, comforting and supporting people in difficult situations. Those who are called to heal should heal. And yet it does happen from time to time that I am also able to trigger physical healing. And every time I am amazed by it myself. The changes did not stop. On the contrary, I had to say goodbye to many things, but as soon as I had done that, new things came into my life and I didn't have much time to mourn the old situations. With a heavy heart, I had to decide to leave the house that my husband and I had moved into years ago. I didn't want my life to end in isolation, even if that was a tempting idea for me. If I wanted to do what I had come to this earth to do, I would have to get out of this lonely idyll again. I moved into a shared flat where my new partner also lived and converted the adjoining former chicken coop or chick rearing house into a studio. At least I was now working in two ways, which meant that if someone wanted my help as a medium, I was happy to give it. Nevertheless, I still lacked the courage to finally part with my goldsmith's workshop and officially call myself a medium when someone asked me about my profession. My workshop gave me security and familiarity, even if I spent less and less time there. It was time for another week of training with the English medium where I had started studying two years previously. In the meantime, various practice weekends helped me to get more routine in terms of contacts with the afterlife and the classification of perceptions, but now it was time to learn the next lessons. And they were already waiting for me... I met some participants again who I had already met in the first week of training, and it was interesting to see how differently they had developed. A good friend of mine was also there this time, and so we had a fun group. When I came to the first lesson and entered the room, a thought suddenly occurred to me. I saw our English teacher and thought: This is your last seminar with her. I was very surprised, as this week had not even really started yet. So I parked this information in the back of my mind for now and concentrated on the things that there were to do and learn. My teacher was really strict, but I am glad to have had her as a teacher. She didn't sugarcoat anything, and she even threw participants out of the course who didn't stick to their limits. The crowning conclusion of the week was the topic of trance. Each of us was to try to get into this state following instructions. When it was my turn, I had an extraordinary experience. Not that I fell into a deep trance, but when the process began, I suddenly had a feeling that I knew very well from my childhood, but had successfully repressed until that moment. I didn't feel my body. huge for her, as her new insights from our conversation the night before had apparently been enough to bring about a spontaneous healing. My mother was much more impressed than I was, because I already knew then that you can help people to perform miracles themselves. It wasn't me who had healed her, but her own soul had made it possible. After our conversation, the woman had allowed herself to get well and say goodbye to the old, emotional pain. I was just lucky enough to be able to remind her of this. It wasn't long before my mother had a similar experience herself. She called me on Sunday and sounded terrible. She had developed a swollen cheek overnight because a tooth had become infected. She was in terrible pain, and the nearest dentist was quite far away, as she lived very remotely in the Eifel. She asked me if I could help her in any way. I concentrated and sent my mother strength for the healing over a distance of three hundred kilometers. I had the feeling that it was working and that I was getting through to her and told her that it should be better in half an hour. She should then just call me again. Which she did. She was completely happy and said that it was almost gone, although the left side of her face had previously been completely swollen, almost like a balloon. She said that she would never doubt my abilities again, which was no longer important to me personally. I believe that this energy transfer worked so well because it gave my mother an experience that would change her life. Because I am not a healer and probably never will be one in the classic sense. I see my job as supporting, comforting and supporting people in difficult situations. Those who are called to heal should heal. And yet it does happen from time to time that I am also able to trigger physical healing. And every time I am amazed by it myself. The changes did not stop. On the contrary, I had to say goodbye to many things, but as soon as I had done that, new things came into my life and I didn't have much time to mourn the old situations. With a heavy heart, I had to decide to leave the house that my husband and I had moved into years ago. I didn't want my life to end in isolation, even if that was a tempting idea for me. If I wanted to do what I had come to this earth to do, I would have to get out of this lonely idyll again. I moved into a shared flat where my new partner also lived and converted the adjoining former chicken coop or chick rearing house into a studio. At least I was now working in two ways, which meant that if someone wanted my help as a medium, I was happy to give it. Nevertheless, I still lacked the courage to finally part with my goldsmith's workshop and officially call myself a medium when someone asked me about my profession. My workshop gave me security and familiarity, even if I spent less and less time there. It was time for another week of training with the English medium where I had started studying two years previously. In the meantime, various practice weekends helped me to get more routine in terms of contacts with the afterlife and the classification of perceptions, but now it was time to learn the next lessons. And they were already waiting for me... I met some participants again who I had already met in the first week of training, and it was interesting to see how differently they had developed. A good friend of mine was also there this time, and so we had a fun group. When I came to the first lesson and entered the room, a thought suddenly occurred to me. I saw our English teacher and thought: This is your last seminar with her. I was very surprised, as this week had not even really started yet. So I parked this information in the back of my mind for now and concentrated on the things that there were to do and learn. My teacher was really strict, but I am glad to have had her as a teacher. She didn't sugarcoat anything, and she even threw participants out of the course who didn't stick to their limits. The crowning conclusion of the week was the topic of trance. Each of us was to try to get into this state following instructions. When it was my turn, I had an extraordinary experience. Not that I fell into a deep trance, but when the process began, I suddenly had a feeling that I knew very well from my childhood, but had successfully repressed until that moment. I didn't feel my body. more, but my veins felt as if they were filled with sand and this sand was slowly dissolving. It was as if I was literally crumbling to dust. I had often had this feeling as a child just before falling asleep, and it always frightened me because I didn't know what it was. I would then sing really loudly until I fell asleep. My parents thought they had a very happy child who was singing because he had had such a nice day. But that wasn't the case. And it was exactly this feeling of physical dissolution that I felt again during the trance exercise. I realized that as a child I had often been on the verge of a trance. It was important for me to build this bridge between then and now. When I was young, I didn't realize that I could control such processes myself. At the time, I simply tried to develop tactics to cope with these feelings and perceptions. Today I know that I myself decide what I allow and what I don't. I have free will and I am now aware of it. And it is precisely this knowledge that gives me a lot of security. I rarely feel fear anymore and that is extremely liberating. So I didn't experience a deep trance during this exercise, but an old circle was able to close for me. I found that much more enriching than a trance experience. But while the others were doing this exercise, I was able to see with my own eyes how a bright light spread around them and it was actually visible to the naked eye. It was brightest for those who really went into a deep trance. Finally, each of us was to receive a "reward" and our teacher agreed to go into a trance. We were all to receive a message from her spiritual helper. She was internationally known as a trance medium and you don't experience something like that every day. So I was really excited to see what would happen next. So she went into this deep relaxation and we waited curiously for our messages. When she began to speak, her voice sounded deeper and she gave each participant a few sentences to take with them. As I watched the scenario, something irritated me. She didn't start to shine as brightly as the students had in the previous exercise, and that surprised me. The following thought flashed through my mind: "What a production." I thought that it couldn't be a show at all, after all she was a well-known medium, so there was no need for something like that. The next thought immediately answered me: "She's only human." I decided to rely on my own perception, as we had learned all week. Now it was my turn to give my message and I was very curious to see what advice or what to say to me, because everyone else had already received really great, motivating messages. But things turned out differently. Despite her closed eyes, her face became very serious and she said: "Yes, yes, Kim. I'm sorry to have to tell you this, but you really are imagining a lot of things. Most of what you call perception is wrong." Then the group continued and the messages were nice and flattering again. I no longer understood the world and the other participants also had a big question mark on their faces because they had seen me for a week and we had worked together. So they had also noticed that I had mastered the exercises well. And our strict teacher would certainly have reacted differently this week if my results had been so wrong because she was anything but gentle and didn't mince her words. Somehow it all didn't add up. Completely depressed, I decided to give it all up. I was totally unsettled and the whole week and everything I had learned suddenly lost its meaning. When I said goodbye to the other participants in the afternoon because our week together was now over, I also said goodbye to another English medium who had traveled with us to support our teacher. He had also led some theory lessons, and we sat together in the evenings from time to time. He looked at me and asked what had happened to me, so I briefly described my dilemma to him. I told him that under these circumstances it would certainly be better for me not to continue in this profession. Then he looked at me very seriously and penetratingly and said just one sentence to me: "You are a good medium, OK?" Now I was even more irritated and decided to drive home first to digest and sort everything out. But already on the way back I got the first explanations for my teacher's behavior. My friend, who had also completed this week and who had really impressed me, well, simply said: "Did it ever occur to you that you were the only one to receive such a negative message because you were the only one to notice that she wasn't really in a trance? It is possible that she used her sensitivity for the wrong reasons. She wanted to impress everyone, and it worked for everyone except you. Perhaps she sensed your thoughts and wanted to send you back to your place as a student." I hadn't even thought of that myself. I looked at him in disbelief and said: "But why does someone like her need that?" My friend explained to me that he had already met a lot of capable people who couldn't control their ego. The unconscious urge for admiration prevails in some people now and again, and people with mediumistic talent are not immune to it either. I had to digest this view of the situation first. I would never have thought that one could use one's gift and good reputation in such a way. Up until that point, I had simply assumed that such sensitive people always do their best. Simply because they love people. I suddenly remembered the sentence that I had parked in the back of my mind at the beginning of the week. This is your last seminar with her. And the thought took on a very specific meaning. The longer I thought about it and allowed myself to think critically about my teacher, the more sense it all made. I asked myself what lesson I could draw from it and realized that I could learn a lot from what had happened. No matter what rank a person holds, I have the right to listen to my own feelings and perceptions. Because even a luminary can have a weak moment. Another, even more important lesson was that not only the bright side of a person grows when they develop spiritually, but also the side of the ego. And that was one of the most important insights for me, because I also work as a teacher today and I come across this phenomenon very, very often. The desire for admiration has nothing to do with sincere service to people. Since then, I have regularly checked myself for such hidden motivations and, to be on the safe side, I have also asked people close to me to tell me when I get carried away or develop another unpleasant, unhelpful side. After all, my family and friends are the ones who know me best and who I know I can rely on. I believe that no one is immune to making mistakes, because they are the ones who can ultimately learn the most from them. But you should regularly look at yourself critically and check from time to time whether your ego has "run away with you". Because that is a huge opportunity to develop and expand even more. Whether my teacher was in a trance or not no longer plays a role for me. She helped me, consciously or unconsciously, to recognize important things and thus to grow. The initial great uncertainty ultimately turned into even greater confidence in myself, and that makes me extremely grateful and humble. One person who was very important and formative for my entire development is my grandma Hilde. She helped raise me, and I spent a lot of time with her and my grandpa Herbert. She had set herself the goal of seeing how and who I would marry, and so she inevitably had to live much longer than my grandpa, because he died when I was eleven. She was always a very important conversation partner and a bit of a surrogate mother for me, because she was always there for me, even when things were difficult with my mother. She supported me, but on the other hand she didn't take responsibility away from me. She also played a major role in my growing up, because at that time my mother had literally disappeared in the jungles of Bolivia, and my father had already died. So my grandma supported me in this process, and I tried to be there for her just as she was for me. She was an incredibly funny person and many of her formative sentences still help me today. I could even talk to her about my gift and my spiritual interest. She took me completely seriously, and so we naturally talked about death and dying. I asked her if she was afraid of death, and she explained that she was not afraid at all. She knew that her husband was waiting for her and would pick her up when the time came. Before she fell asleep, she often had the feeling that my deceased grandfather was close to her and was stroking her hand. During the war, she had faced death so often that it was in between all horror for her. We often talked at length about the experiences of the whole family on my mother's side during the war. The terrible bombing of Dresden, the invasion of the Russians, etc. She mentioned in passing that there had been someone in this family with my talent before. This was a relief and interesting piece of information for me, because until then I had thought that I was the only "black sheep" in my line of ancestors. She told me about this person and suddenly I recognized her. It was the deceased woman who had regularly visited me as a child when I was in bed. Now I suddenly understood why I had repeatedly received visits from this unknown woman as a child and what connected us. Our connection was the same gift and she had already tried to support me back then, even though she died before I was even born. My grandmother made it happen and actually lived to see my wedding to my first husband. She was already eighty-three years old at the time, but very lively and full of life. Somehow I had the impression that she had already set her next goal: to have my first great-grandchild, because she already had eleven great- grandchildren from her other grandchildren. Now three years passed and instead of the birth of the great-grandchild, she experienced the separation between my husband and me. She helped me a lot during this time by talking to me a lot and for a long time. Nevertheless, she was sad because she liked my husband very much and when it came to things like the TV program, the two of them had always agreed. At some point she complained of abdominal pain and the doctor's diagnosis showed that she would have to undergo an operation on her intestines. She agreed. Before the operation she made her typical jokes with the anesthesiologist and survived the procedure without any problems. My mother, who lived with her, was with her and informed me afterwards that everything was fine. The operation had gone well and my grandmother was in good shape. In the evening, the hospital suddenly called and they told my mother that my grandmother was suddenly very ill. My mother immediately drove back to the hospital and called me from there. I told her that I would be on my way to them the next morning. So I left early the next morning because I had to drive about three hundred kilometers. About half an hour before I arrived at the hospital, I suddenly felt someone sitting next to me in the car, even though I was alone. I recognized my grandmother and immediately told her that she should wait to die until I got there. She replied that she was in a hurry and had to leave, but she wanted to at least say goodbye to me this way. It was just before ten and I couldn't understand why she couldn't wait another half hour until I got there. She disappeared again and I drove to the hospital as quickly as I could. When I got there, I asked about her and they asked me to wait a moment in an empty hospital room; they would bring her right away. Now I was unsure whether she had really died, because the nurse did not wish me any condolences or anything like that. Then at some point the door opened and my grandma was pushed in. She had a cloth over her face and body. They threw it down and left me alone with her. I looked at her and still wondered whether she was really dead, because she seemed very much alive, even though her eyes were closed. At that moment the door opened and my mother came in with tear-filled eyes. "Unfortunately you're late, she couldn't wait any longer, but I was with her. It was half an hour ago." It was exactly the time that I had noticed my grandma in the car. At that moment she actually died. After a while my brother arrived, who had had to travel even more kilometers than me to get there. We took the time to stay with her for a while, and the hospital even allowed us to do so without any problems. My mother told us what had happened that morning and that gallstones had caused her death. She was able to sleep peacefully because the doctors had respected Grandma's wish not to be kept alive. I told my mother and brother about the experience in the car and still didn't understand my grandmother's haste. My brother asked what date it was and suddenly we understood her haste. It was the third of October, the tenth anniversary of German reunification. There was a big celebration for this occasion in Dresden, the city where my grandmother was born and loved. Her favorite politician was supposed to give a speech at ten o'clock. Weeks before She had confirmed how much she would like to be in Dresden that day, because reunification had great symbolic significance for my family. After the war, she had suffered greatly under the division of Germany, and later they even had to flee and leave their beloved homeland. Reunification was a bit of a healing for her. And now there was to be a celebration in Dresden. My grandma had to be there, that was clear. And since she didn't want to put herself through the journey any more, she had probably thought of another plan to be in Dresden on time that day. Now we knew why my grandma died just before ten and was in quite a hurry. She had waited for me as long as possible, but I was simply half an hour late. Her death couldn't have been more characteristic of her life. Her funeral was the first for me in a long time. After the many losses, the situation had actually calmed down after I had started to consciously confront the subject of death. Through the many conversations with my grandmother, we knew exactly what was important to her for this funeral. I was sad, but I understood where she had gone and that she was doing well. So I didn't feel any deep sadness, just a little sadness because my life would now go on without her. The situation was much more difficult for my mother, because she had lived with her in the same house for the last few years. Now the day of the funeral arrived, and it wouldn't have been my grandmother if she hadn't made herself known somehow. My mother, my brother and I were standing in front of the decorated coffin in the chapel when my brother asked me: "Is she actually here?" I looked around and told him that she was moving towards the small, wooden pulpit. I said jokingly: "Maybe she wants to give a speech." A moment later, the pulpit steps creaked loudly for all of us to hear, as if someone were climbing them. Then I saw her standing there and my mother just said: "Well, that's typical." Because when my grandmother was in the right mood, she could entertain entire halls with her dry manner, which she had done with great joy during her lifetime. In this way, she gave my mother and brother certainty and comfort that she actually still existed in another way, because they couldn't see her visually like I did. Since her death, she has come to visit me in my dreams from time to time. She is simply there, but doesn't say much. That's not necessary, because everything has been said between us. I love her and she will always be and remain a part of my life. And when it's my turn to go back to the spiritual world, I'll see her again anyway. There are two other companions that I absolutely have to mention in relation to my spiritual development. They are my two dogs Lucky and Balu. They found their way to my side when I was still married to my first husband Markus and we lived in our idyllic little house on the mountain. They were probably our children. Today I am glad that I had these dogs before I had children, because I was able to learn a lot from the dogs before I threw myself into raising children. They taught me the merciless principle of mirroring, just as children do with their parents. These dogs brought things to light in me that I would never have suspected in myself before. They often tested my limits, and the first thing I learned was to act consistently, which is also known to be worth its weight in gold when raising children. Lucky and Balu raised me to be consistent and showed me that I had the strength to lead, something I would never have believed myself capable of before. They also took on important tasks in my work. Whenever people came to me in need of help, I observed the following: If a person was particularly depressed and hopeless, Balu would come, put his paw on the person's knee and offer comfort, which was surprisingly accepted even by people who were afraid of dogs. These dogs are very large in stature and doubly impressive because of their black fur. Balu's gesture seemed to me as if he wanted to say that everything would be OK. But when people came to me whose children had died, Lucky was ready shortly beforehand to greet them when they came through the door. To this day, I can tell from the way he greets people whether they have a deceased child or not. He then has a completely different look than usual and approaches them in a distinctive way. The age of the deceased child is not important. It can also be children who are still in the mother's womb. body. He simply sees them and greets the parents on behalf of their child. This also applies to children who have not yet been conceived. As soon as a soul has decided on certain parents, he perceives them. I became aware of this when my dog sat in front of me every evening for weeks and fixed me with this special look. I asked my current husband if he had any idea what could be wrong with the dog. We were at a loss, but a few weeks later we got the answer: I became pregnant and when I noticed it, my dog stopped looking at me in his peculiar way. Balu, on the other hand, helped me to pay more attention to my own needs. Whenever we were somewhere where I didn't feel comfortable and actually wanted to be somewhere else, it didn't take long before he vomited right at my feet. He showed me clearly that I didn't think it was a crap where I was. I learned to ask myself early on who or where I wanted to spend my time with and whether I really felt comfortable where I was. From that time on, Balu no longer had to vomit. These are just a few examples of everything I was able to learn from these wonderful creatures. Today, Lucky is the only one who still lives with us and still helps me when I work with people. At some point I will buy him a cap like the nurses used to have. Then he would finally have the right work clothes. Balu has since moved in with my mother. He decided this himself by simply not getting into the car one day when I wanted to drive home after visiting her. He made it clear to me that his job with me was over and that my mother needed him now. The last few months have shown how right he was with his decision. I would never have believed that dogs could help you develop so much as a human being. You just have to give them a chance and look in the mirror, which they represent in their own way. You don't have to humanize the animal or make it a substitute child. You just have to respect and value it as an equal part of creation. Then came the point where I happened to consciously see a person's aura for the first time. I was in a church with my ex-husband for some reason that day for a service. Despite our separation, we still had very good contact with each other, which has remained the case to this day. We sat on the pew and listened attentively to the priest's speech - the same one who had married us back then. Suddenly my ex-husband asked me if I could see the bright glow around the priest's head or if he had a problem with his eyes. I looked and saw it too. Although it was quite dark in the church, you could see a white glow around the man's head and shoulders with the naked eye while he was speaking. Then I remembered what I had learned in training with the English medium: people, or all living beings, are surrounded by an aura, also known as an energy field, which consists of different layers. One layer is white and shimmers through and is located relatively close to the body. During the seminar, I was the only one who had not been able to see the aura, and since then I have thought that this was not one of my talents. If I needed to know something about the aura, I had always asked my spiritual helper, and he would give me the information I needed. That is why I was all the more surprised when I was suddenly able to see the priest's energy field with no effort at all. During a later seminar with a healer, I finally got the crucial tip about how easy it is to see the aura. All you need is the daydreamer's look and you can see the aura. Unfortunately, no one explained this to me during my training. But as you can see, the knowledge that wants to reach you somehow reaches its destination. You can rely on that. I find it significant that we both had this experience in the very church in which we had been married a few years earlier. A topic that I had successfully avoided up to that point now made its way into my life. I was sitting at breakfast and listening to the radio. I only heard fragments of the report, which said that a twelve-year-old child had been missing since yesterday. I registered it and went back to my normal daily schedule. To start my work, I went to my workshop. Somehow this report was still buzzing around in my head and wouldn't let me go. As I was walking the dogs at lunchtime, I suddenly heard a child's voice in my head. It said: "Hello, I'm the girl you heard about on the radio this morning. I need your help." I thought to myself : Yes, definitely. You tell me the name of the perpetrator and I will call the police and they will arrest him. My sarcasm was unmistakable, because I was anything but happy that the deceased girl had contacted me. I had already had a similar experience when I was sixteen. At that time, a murdered child turned to me and wanted my help, but at that point I was too afraid of being sent to the nuthouse. And now another young person was standing in front of me and wanted my support. I asked her, not as sarcastically as at the beginning, what she thought I could do for her. She then explained to me in detail what had happened yesterday when she had disappeared. She showed me the daily routine in the form of an internal film, the routes she had taken and how she had met the perpetrator very close to the house where her family lived. At that moment I realized for the first time that the news hadn't mentioned anything about a crime. After all, it could have been that she had simply run away from home. She described the perpetrator to me in detail and I suddenly saw the crime through his eyes. I also sensed that he hadn't left home that morning with the intention of doing it. He also explained to me how the police could find him. He had already been convicted of a crime ten years ago, but for minor car offenses. He was also suffering from the fact that he had done something to the child and wanted to be found. That's why I got all this information from him. Now I could no longer doubt, because when I turned on the radio the next morning, I heard the report that the child's body had been found not far from where they lived. It wasn't long before the child contacted me again. She said: "See, I told you. Will you help me now?" I said I was willing to do what I could for her. But I wanted to know why she didn't go to another medium. There were certainly lots of people who would be keen to do such jobs. She told me that was exactly the reason. She didn't need someone who wanted to make a name for themselves, but someone she liked and who she could trust. What else could I say to that? She seemed to like me a lot and there are no arguments for likeability. The girl explained to me what I could do for her. I should give all the information to the police, which I dutifully did. I called the relevant police station rather naively and they assured me that they would follow up on the information. Somehow I sensed that the officer was laughing at me and wouldn't bother to check my information. He just said: "Send me everything again in writing by fax." I felt fobbed off and didn't understand how such information couldn't at least be checked. Two days later, the girl came to me again and said that I had to do something. I should write a letter to her parents in which I would record everything again and ask them to ask the police whether these clues had been followed up. I told her very vehemently that I would definitely not write to her parents because that would be an incredible violation of boundaries and, besides, I didn't even know where she lived. She asked me again and again and assured me that her parents would not misunderstand me. I was torn. On the one hand, I wanted to help the girl, but on the other hand, I didn't want to pressure the child's parents or, worse, hurt them. I said to her: "Fine, if you can get me to your address, then I'll do it." I thought I was very clever because I was sure that the girl wouldn't succeed and I would be fine. In the evening, I watched TV and when the news came on, they reported on the latest developments in the murder case. Suddenly I heard her say: "Now look closely and listen carefully." The street sign where the girl's parents' house was was displayed so that I could read it in peace. In this context, the presenter also mentioned the name of the place where she had lived. Now she said: "You write: To the parents of ..., street and place, and I assure you that it will arrive." I had really underestimated the little lady, which has been a lesson to me to this day. If a deceased person really wants something, then he will manage to achieve his goal. So I sat down and started writing. I apologized for even writing to them and tried to briefly explain myself and my situation and to explain. I wrote that I had already sent the police a fax a few days ago and enclosed a copy of it with the letter. I also asked her to ask the police again what had happened with these extremely specific clues. Whether they had already been followed up on them, as in my opinion the officers were investigating in the wrong direction. Then the girl wanted me to write a few personal things for her mum. She wanted to apologise as she had been a bit grumpy with her mother recently and the girl was very sorry about that. She wanted me to write to her parents to say how much she loved them. I sealed the letter, stamped it and asked God to forgive me if what I was doing was a serious mistake and actually posted the letter at the post office. That was a Tuesday morning. Two days later, when I was at my friend's house in the evening, the TV was on in the living room. I was standing alone in her kitchen when she called out excitedly: "Come quickly, they've got the perpetrator. Quickly!" I immediately ran into the living room and couldn't believe my eyes. That was exactly the man I had seen in my mind's eye. The police had suddenly changed their minds that morning and instead of looking in the sexual offense file, they had "strangely" included the file of offenders for minor car offenses in their investigations. And that was exactly where they had found the young man. In the later court hearing, this man testified about how exactly this crime had come about and that he was sorry for what had happened. He hadn't planned it. His statements really matched the information I had received and I don't need to say how astonished I was. To this day I don't know whether I was able to contribute anything to solving the case or whether it was all a coincidence. But for me it was a life-changing experience and a lesson in: rely on your perception. I am very grateful to the girl for being so persistent, because otherwise I would never have had this experience and would be a lot poorer. Over the next few weeks, it slowly dawned on me what God had planned for me, and I remembered my out-of-body experience when I saw the lights on the globe. It was as if a door to my future had opened for a brief moment, and I got a brief feeling of what was to come. I was overcome with fear and suddenly felt very small and unable to complete this task. I sat in the corner like a heap of misery and cried uncontrollably. I told my spiritual helper that I really wasn't asking for much. Just a completely normal life with a completely normal job. He made it clear to me that I would have to forget about that, because my path was different. I felt totally overwhelmed and left alone. "How am I supposed to manage that?" I asked him, not really knowing what kind of plan we were actually talking about. I had simply had a small foretaste in the form of a feeling, and that was enough for me. I could practically feel all the hopes that people would place in me, the expectations, the longings. I didn't want to know any more, because that was already a pretty large amount of information. I told my helper that I felt as if the angels had forgotten me here and simply left me behind on earth. I was filled with endless pain at parting. I had to be mistaken that I was destined for such tasks. He just said that I was by no means forgotten, on the contrary. I was in exactly the right place. I just had to bring the angels' help to earth and not believe that I was here without support. He said: "Bury your longing behind heaven, bring heaven to earth. You won't be alone for a moment, you just have to change your perspective. We need you, and it would be an honor for us if you would work with us and help us." My grief slowly subsided, and I felt that I was actually not alone. Suddenly I was certain that everything would only happen little by little anyway. I didn't have to rack my brains about everything I had to do. I would go step by step and grow with each task. I could accept everything that was still to come and was suddenly certain of this spiritual support. So I just said: "Okay, I'm ready to fulfill my plan," without even knowing it exactly. This experience changed me a lot. Since then, I have become more serious, but also more relaxed. I don't think so much anymore, but let a lot more happen. After this E experience was the first time that television approached me. To this day, I don't know how they found me, as I didn't have a website or do any other advertising at the time. The chapter of my public relations work began, and luckily I had no idea what that would mean for my life in concrete terms, otherwise I would have backed out. This request from television was about a child who had been murdered years ago, and they were still looking for the perpetrator. They wanted to try to find out more about the murder with the help of people with my talent. Until the show started filming, I only knew that it was a crime. Who, what or how was unknown to me. I didn't know who the second medium would be either. The idea of the show was to find out more about the crime and the circumstances in an unconventional way. They also wanted to test whether people with mediumistic talent would independently come to the same conclusions and conclusions. I found this idea very interesting for several reasons. On the one hand, I could perhaps use my talent to help shed more light on this case, which could potentially help the police (and the parents) in their investigations. On the other hand, I knew that media could independently come to the same conclusions. However, since I had never tested this myself with someone in such a concrete and verifiable situation, I was naturally very curious to see how I would handle this matter. So I flew to Berlin without knowing my final destination. I was picked up there and taken to a hotel. The next morning, the show's team drove me to eastern Germany, and I had no idea where I was, as I was visiting this part of Germany for the first time in my life. We started filming in a high-rise housing estate, and the production manager gave me a photo of a child of about ten years old. He told me her first name, and then it was my turn. I sensed the deceased girl, and she told me a lot about herself, her hobbies, and her family. She explained to me that she had lived in the high-rise building at number 6. There, a lady looked down from the balcony and she greeted her with: "Hello, Mrs. Müller." I went to the entrance of the building and there, on the doorbell of the floor where the balcony was, was the name Müller. I was really amazed and it continued like that all day. She showed me what had happened on the day she disappeared and also a lot of details about the perpetrators and the course of events. She also told me what she had liked when she was alive and who her role models had been. The TV team was just as impressed by the information as I was, because they knew that I had not received any background information about the case from them beforehand. They treated the second medium in exactly the same way as they had treated me and when the program was broadcast, I finally found out how identical our statements were. It was only then that I discovered who the other medium was with whom they had carried out the same tests as with me. They had kept us in the dark about everything until the end, but that had been agreed beforehand. I had only been told that they were satisfied with the results of the recordings. I was all the more pleasantly surprised when I saw how well we had worked independently as interpreters for the deceased girl. Even the police made a statement in the film about how they assessed these very specific results. Unfortunately, I don't know how far the investigations have progressed or whether they have perhaps even been completed. But for me it was a great experience and of course also a confirmation that these contacts with the deceased really work. And so my confidence in my work and my perceptions were strengthened once again. I also noticed how much fun I had working with television and how well I could combine the technical processes behind the camera with my perception. It didn't bother me when someone said: "Can you repeat that?" or interrupted me during contact with the deceased because the tape had to be changed. I can work very well under these conditions and it gives me a lot of pleasure. I'm not really that interested in how the whole thing ends up looking on TV. For me, it's just important that the team I work with respects contact with the deceased and takes this connection to the spiritual world seriously. It's no problem at all if someone personally has a different opinion on this topic. The Producer of this The producer of this show later explained to me that it was not a given that our collaboration was so straightforward. Most people with mediumistic talent set a lot of conditions before they dare to work with television. I felt that this experience with television would not be my last. I knew that this topic would come up again in my life, although I had no idea how, where and when that would be. My motivation was simply the fun of it and the opportunity to help people in this way. I continued with my work as before, and because of the broadcast of this show, offers from television came in now and again. However, I turned them down because I didn't like the ideas of the formats or they didn't match my motivation to help people. In the meantime, I had developed my own ideas for a show and preferred to wait until I found the right people for it. I wasn't interested in being on television at any price, but rather in how I could provide the greatest service to the spiritual world. In the meantime, more and more people came to me and I had a lot to do. Now the moment came when I decided to give up my old job as a goldsmith for good. I had only spent a few days in my workshop last year and realized that the time had come to make a decision. So I held a farewell exhibition and sold my entire workshop equipment, apart from a box of my favorite tools. It all happened by itself and that surprised me again, because experience has shown that it is not easy to sell a goldsmith's workshop. But within two weeks everything was sold. That confirmed my decision not to work as a goldsmith in the future. I was now officially working as a medium and was no longer ashamed of it. It had become my purpose in life to support people as best I could with my talent. I was even proud of my brave step of finally being there for people full-time and officially. Painting remained a hobby for me, but I was no longer a goldsmith, and I have never regretted it to this day. Even though I really enjoyed this profession and did it with all my heart over the years. Now my so-called wave dreams began. I had the first dream a few weeks before I was asked if I would be a guest on a very good talk show hosted by a pastor. I was offered the opportunity to do a show with me about death and the spiritual world. It was an offer that suited me and I knew that this topic would be treated respectfully. So I said yes, and after the show was broadcast I finally understood what my wave dream had to do with this public relations work. This dream showed me weeks before in a very symbolic way what would come my way after this show: a huge wave of requests for help from people who were grieving for someone. In the dream, it was a huge wave that built up in front of me and remained piled up until I was at a safe distance and could watch in peace and amazement as it crashed down. I would never have expected that this broadcast could have such an effect. With this broadcast, I simply wanted to show people the door to the spiritual world and explain that life continues after death. The reactions to this broadcast were so immense that, with the help of some friends, I spent the next two years processing the requests and developing a sensible system for how I could satisfy people's incredibly great interest in this topic. Because I had to and wanted to do all of this without the quality of my work suffering. That was a big challenge for me, because I couldn't be there for everyone at the same time. I had to learn that I couldn't help everyone directly, and that was initially a difficult situation for me to bear. I became aware once again of how important boundaries are and that I needed them more urgently than ever before. Because if I were to exhaust myself completely and then collapse at some point, it would ultimately not help anyone. So I had to make sure that I did not forget myself and still did my best to fulfil my task. During this time, it was also very impressive for me to see how great people's longing for hope and faith is. I experienced again and again that it was often enough to offer comfort and hold them for a little while. It became more than clear to me en showed how lonely most people feel, even though it would be so easy to be there for each other. Genuine interest in other people and, above all, love for them have become a rare commodity. And so this also became a conscious motivation for my task: to remind people how easy it is to love and to be there for each other again without forgetting or even giving up on yourself. My unplanned but desired pregnancy ultimately contributed to the fact that I did not work myself "to death". I was forced to slow down and take the life to come into consideration, which was not particularly difficult for me. Today I realize that this child announced its arrival six months after the talk show was broadcast and "settled" in me so that I did not overdo it. I am very happy that everything turned out exactly as it did. Because if I had been able to choose the right moment for my first child myself, it certainly would not have happened at that time. In the meantime, I regularly received requests from television for various programs. However, I had now developed a firm idea of what I would like to do if I wanted to work with this medium more often. But none of the offers matched my idea. My vision was to show people in a simple way that there is life after death and that you don't need to be afraid of dying because the soul actually lives on. It was important to me that people see that contact with the deceased doesn't have to be something occult or mystical and that it can be very helpful in dealing with personal grief. I wanted to give people back hope and take away their fear. But none of these requests had much to do with my vision, so I turned them down. Somehow I also felt that one day the right time would come for my dream. I just had to wait and until then overcome the challenges that were already waiting for me. Because they were supposed to prepare me for the realization of my vision, which I wasn't aware of at the time. One of these challenges was an offer that once again involved my gift and the search for missing people. They wanted to use missing people to test the extent to which my ability could help in the search. It was designed as an experiment. After the first phone call with the editor, I was convinced that it could be a good show, but I still felt an inner resistance to it. I formulated very clearly what could and could not be expected of me and how the makers of the show could best deal with the topic, since I had now gained some experience in this area. The editor and I were on the same wavelength and I had the feeling that he had understood what it was about and what was important. However, I did not realize that the editor had little say in the actual implementation. When I finally finished recording the show, I gradually understood why I had felt this inner resistance from the beginning. I had been presented with four missing persons cases, and the presenter only gave me the first name of the missing person. Then I began to tell what I had noticed about this person. Upon request, the presenter gave me a photo of this person and I continued. I had no more information about the cases, but that was what had been agreed. In the second step, I spoke to the relatives of the missing people and they could ask me questions. Up until that point, everything had gone as planned. But the producers of the show, unlike the editor, were only out to test me. They had no interest in really helping people who were missing someone terribly. The fourth "missing person" was a fabricated case that did not actually exist. They had taken a photo of a colleague, invented a first name and made up a story about it. An actor had also been hired to pretend to be the sad relative. It was actually no surprise to me, as my spiritual helper had told me weeks before the recording: "They are going to test you. There will be a case that doesn't exist." I found that exciting and knew that I could rely on my feelings. So I was sure that I would somehow sense it as soon as something was wrong. But it turned out completely differently than the makers of the show had imagined and planned. They expected me to say: "This case doesn't exist" after they had given me the fictitious first name. But since the spiritual world is not a mechanical system, When I was asked whether the woman was a woman who fulfilled our expectations, it happened like this: The presenter asked me: "Are you ready for the next experiment?" and I answered him yes. The next moment, the first name Monika (name changed) popped into my head and I even said it out loud. I described feelings that I associated with this name without having received any information from the presenter beforehand. At that moment he should have stopped the experiment, but he just looked to the production manager for help, who gave him a sign to continue. So he showed me the photo and I said: "Yes, that is the woman I see in my mind's eye." He told me that on his piece of paper there was a different first name than the one I had told him. The name he then told me didn't match my feelings at all and I hesitated for a moment. I decided to stick with the first name that I had in mind for the rest of the experiment. The program was edited and broadcast, and unfortunately my spiritual helper was right. He told me, when I was on my way back from filming, that they hadn't realized what great material they had in the can. I left it at that, and it wasn't until a year later that I realized what had actually happened. After the show was broadcast, I was initially confused and doubted my ability. But then I gradually got confirmation that I hadn't been mistaken about how it had been portrayed in the show. By chance, I received crucial information from the editor in charge - which suddenly cleared up the whole thing. We talked about the show again, which had been a year ago, and I could sense his dissatisfaction with the way it had gone. He said to me: "Now I can tell you how the fabricated case came together. We took the photo of our employee Monika, invented a name and story, and hired an actor." He mentioned the colleague's name rather casually, and we ended the call. Afterwards, I went into the forest with my dogs and reviewed the conversation again. And then it suddenly dawned on me. It was exactly the first name that had popped into my head after the moderator asked me if I was ready for the last experiment. This means that I told him the first name of the real person who was pictured in the photo without even having seen it: namely the employee Monika. The feelings that I had described belonged to her. Since this employee was alive, her energy was naturally the strongest and I thus received a lot of information about her as a person. Of course, I did not have the feeling that this case did not exist, because she existed in flesh and blood. This means that they should have stopped the experiment at that moment because I had already revealed the true identity of the woman in the photo. But this employee did not want what was going on in her emotional world to be shown on television. So they had to edit it in such a way that it could not be proven that people with psychic abilities can help in the search for missing people. When I realized all this, I was incredibly angry at first and didn't want to believe it. But then I realized that I can rely completely on my perception and the spiritual world. The gift that I had received in this way was phenomenal. It was the gift of regaining inner security and strength. Today I just think it's a shame that this situation was not clarified in the course of the program, because that would have proven that cooperation with the spiritual world works. But in retrospect I also know that this program was about something completely different than helping people. They helped me anyway, because since this realization I feel even stronger in what I do and how I do it. I have now come very close to realizing my dream and am benefiting from all the experiences I have had to date. I have now found the right people who have the same motivation as me, and so we are all pulling together. I am very excited to see what life still has in store for me and what services I can still provide to people and the spiritual world. I am happy for every experience that has allowed me to grow and continues to do so, and I feel so infinitely blessed. I am especially grateful to those who made things difficult for me, because they have enabled me to develop the most. I hope to be able to make a difference in the future too, and I am very happy about that. up. After initially feeling that my mediumship was a huge burden and a stigma, I am now glad that I think differently about it today. It is a gift that God has given me, and that is exactly how I feel about it today. 2, Answers to questions that are frequently asked. During my many years of work as a medium, I have been asked certain questions again and again. In this chapter, I briefly comment on the respective topics. Are the deceased well in the afterlife? In principle, the deceased are well in the afterlife. However, we must not imagine a material place - categorizations such as "good" or "bad" do not exist there. Rather, one is in a neutral state that allows the soul to reflect on and process the past life. Should we let the dead rest? Life in this world and in the afterlife are based on the same principle: the principle of free will. This means that if you want to make contact with the soul of a deceased person, this connection will only be established if all those involved actually want it and do so of their own free will. Coercion and pressure will not achieve anything here or there. How can you imagine the afterlife? The afterlife is a kind of "neutral zone". It is not far away from our material world, but rather wherever matter ends. The spiritual world exists parallel to the material world, it is just a little more transparent. Strictly speaking, it is just one step away. When can you make contact with the deceased? Basically, contact with the deceased is possible at any time, regardless of whether they died a long time ago or only recently. However, there are souls that need more time than others to arrive in the spiritual world. For example, if a person was given morphine for a long period of time before death or was seriously ill, it can take a while before they are available for a clear connection. They then simply need a certain recovery period. What language is spoken in the afterlife? There is a kind of "universal language" in the spiritual world. It works on the basis of thoughts and feelings. Just as thoughts are transmitted in our human body in the form of electrical impulses, one can also imagine the exchange of information in the spiritual world. The information is also sent out in the form of (electrical) impulses and received by the energy field of the other soul, where it is converted back into information. Do animals also have a soul? All material life has an energy field that is generally called a soul. This means that animals and plants also have a soul. However, there are different forms of it. For example, schools of fish have what is known as a "collective soul". They share a common energy field. Dogs, horses, cats, etc. each have an individual soul with a single material core, just like humans. Can the deceased give signs? There are various ways in which the deceased can make themselves known. One of these is the dream level, for example. There they can communicate with us easily, as our minds are "taking a break". Electrical devices, especially lamps, often react to the energy field of the deceased, for example by turning on and off without you having touched a button. The deceased can create the individual smell that they had when they were alive and sometimes even move objects. The way in which the soul can draw attention to itself depends on the state of consciousness of the soul. What do the deceased do all day in the afterlife? Since there is no time and no space in the spiritual world like there is here, this question does not even arise. The deceased are simple and can experience many years of our local calendar as a brief moment. And yet there are things that the deceased can do in the afterlife. They can reflect on their life, develop into a spiritual helper for another person (but not for a relative) or grow spiritually in other ways. Do the deceased see everything that we do? The deceased do not see us as we see. We humans primarily have our physical senses at our disposal, and we use them to perceive ourselves and our surroundings. The deceased, on the other hand, use the so-called "light" senses. They feel us, can perceive us on a thought level and see our energy field, which is not possible for most people during their lifetime. Can the deceased say anything about the future? The future is what we create ourselves today in the present through our thoughts and actions. It is not certain what will happen until we decide something or let others decide. This means that the deceased cannot make a binding statement about r future events whose outcome is not yet decided. Can the deceased lie? The deceased cannot lie in the same way that we humans can. There are those who want to sugarcoat one thing or another, but a good medium should be able to sense the difference when a deceased person tries to make a matter more suitable for themselves in order to look better. Can everyone connect with the spiritual world? Basically, everyone has the opportunity to connect with the spiritual world, just as everyone can feel. However, there are people who have more talent for it than others. It's like with sports, arithmetic or painting. In every area there are people who have more talent for something than others. And the same is true with extrasensory perception. It's like with any ability: talent alone is not enough. It requires a lot of training, education and discipline. Will someone pick you up when you die? It's true that you are accompanied on this unknown path. Some people already notice someone in the room while they are still dying. Others recognize their companion as soon as their heart has stopped beating. It is not certain who will pick you up, but of course you can express your wishes in this regard while you are still alive. Children are often picked up by their grandparents or their guardian angels. How do you know that you are dead? When people die in their sleep or their life comes to a very abrupt end, it can take a while for the consciousness to realize the new state. With a few exceptions, this does not take longer than a few hours. Because at the latest when they see their own body from a different perspective, the deceased remembers what happened before. Some also become aware of their new form of existence when other deceased people close to them meet them and explain the situation to them. Is it clear from the start when you will die? The time of death is usually not definitive. Before birth, the soul chooses one or more points in time by which it could have fulfilled its life plan in order to then return to the spiritual world. Which point it ultimately chooses depends on the lifestyle and whether all the important experiences of being human have been made. Is there a fixed life plan? Before you are born, the soul decides on certain topics that it will then encounter during its lifetime. That is why not everyone has the same tasks or talents. Everyone is equipped with what is necessary to go through and master their learning processes on earth. Nevertheless, it is up to us whether we feel like victims or creators, because experiences can be made in different ways. If a soul has perhaps chosen the topic of forgiveness for its life, it may happen that it will initially develop a great feeling of guilt due to its experiences as a human being. But this is the only way it can learn the quality of forgiveness. It is up to each individual how they shape the time between birth and death. How one arrives at one's insights is ultimately irrelevant. It is only important that you win them and understand their value. Do you meet other people who have already died when you are in the afterlife yourself? If you have faced life and have not run away from your tasks, the chances of seeing loved ones again in the afterlife are very good. However, if you try to shorten this path by committing suicide, for example, because you think you cannot live without a certain person, this plan will not work. Since there are different levels of consciousness in the afterlife, after your physical death you will sort yourself into where you were with your own consciousness at the end of your life. Is there reincarnation? Reincarnation is a logical fact if you take a closer look at the laws on which the processes in our living space, on earth, are based. Every winter and spring, nature shows us anew that there are and must be phases of rest in material existence. They are part of a cycle that keeps everything in balance. And since nature is the material mirror of our own creation, one only needs to observe this habitat carefully to know which principles underlie our spiritual existence. After all, matter is only the visible part of our thoughts and consciousness. Cremation or burial - which is more advisable? It makes no difference which type of burial you choose for the separation of body and soul. This process takes place regardless of what happens to the physical remains. However, it is possible that a deceased person may be annoyed reacts if a certain type of burial was very important to him during his lifetime and he has clearly expressed this. He can understand it as a disregard for his final wish if the relatives choose a different burial than he had previously wished for. Are there so-called poltergeists? Not all deceased people are prepared to look back on their lives after their death. They find it uncomfortable to recognize what went wrong during their lifetime, how they may have hurt others, and they do not want to take responsibility for it. Then they are somewhat stuck in their emotional detachment process and are not really in this world or in the next. In this intermediate state they can make themselves noticeable to us humans through loud knocking, creaking stairs or many other noises. They just clatter around a bit. Sooner or later, however, they have to accept the detachment process. If you have such a soul in your house, you should make it clear to them that they no longer have any business here and explain to them where their place is now: in the light. Because these deceased people are not really happy in this intermediate level. Can you be cursed? Since curses contain negative, spiteful and jealous thoughts, they do exist in that sense. But each of us has had negative thoughts about another person at some point and wished them something bad. Nevertheless, in such cases we do not usually speak of a curse. Strictly speaking, however, we should, because curses are nothing more than bad wishes for another person that we keep sending them in our minds. The healthiest way to deal with such spiteful thoughts or even words is not to pay much attention to them. Since energy is known to follow attention, we should concentrate on the positive things in life and accept that there will always be people who begrudge you something. There is no need to reward such situations with additional attention, because that is ultimately what the person who causes them wants. What is a medium? A medium is something like an interpreter between the here and now. A reputable medium can convert the information and impulses from the spiritual world into our local language and serves as a bridge or link between the seemingly very different levels of existence. What is the difference between a trance medium and a normal medium? Every type of medium "functions" like an interpreter or a channel. A normal medium perceives through his senses and passes on what he perceives in the form of a normal conversation. In addition to his senses, a trance medium also makes his body available to the deceased and gives up his consciousness of control in the process. You can imagine this as if the soul of the trance medium were moving away from its own body in order to make it available to the soul of the deceased. A real trance medium then speaks in a different tone of voice, among other things. In contrast, the normal medium stays with themselves and does not make their body available. The information can still be of the same quality. Do you have to prepare especially for mediumistic work? A serious medium should be able to make contact with the deceased at any time without having to prepare in advance. However, if the medium feels more relaxed and better if they meditate beforehand, then of course there is nothing wrong with doing that. But in principle this is not necessary for mediumistic or spiritual work. The only important thing is that the medium makes sure that they are in the best possible condition. You should never work under the influence of alcohol, after taking strong medication or other drugs, as your perception is then clouded. How do you know if you have mediumistic talent? Most people have the basic predisposition for extrasensory perception, but they are often not used. Mediumistic talent is like talent - if you don't encourage it, it will eventually atrophy. People who have a strong talent in this area cannot ignore it in the long run. They feel that their perception is more pronounced than that of others. It is then important to train this talent in order to learn how to deal with it in a healthy and sensible way. How do you recognize a reputable medium? A down-to-earth medium focuses on supporting, helping and accompanying relatives who have lost someone. They allow the deceased to "have their say" and thereby help to work through what has not been said or clarified. The medium thus contributes to good grief management. Future predictions or similar things are not part of the job of a serious medium. As a client, you should always pay attention to your feelings as to whether you feel comfortable with the advisor in question or not. Respectful criticism should be allowed, as should critical questions. A serious medium makes sure that no dependency develops between him and the person seeking contact with the afterlife, and makes himself redundant as quickly as possible through good and solid work. Excessive fees can also be an indication of a charlatan. 3, The spiritual world and its principles of order. It is not so easy to imagine the spiritual world - transparent as it is. At least not if you try to picture it in material terms. For a better understanding, it is a good idea to consult physical or chemical parallels. Although most people have never seen the atomic lattice of a substance with their own eyes, they can still imagine it well using a diagram. Strictly speaking, it is the same on a large scale as on a small scale. The laws are very similar and are also relatively easy to explain. In this chapter I would like to make the seemingly intangible things understandable and explain them as simply as possible. In this way, words such as the afterlife or the spiritual world lose their unnecessary "mysticism", which in my opinion is long overdue. The afterlife is nothing more than a living space that the majority of people do not perceive. And you don't have to, because you should pay attention to what you are doing. Strictly speaking, it is a protection so that nothing distracts us unnecessarily from the current tasks that we have to master. Body, mind and soul. Most people are familiar with these terms. But if you ask more closely, it is usually difficult to get a concrete explanation - at least of "mind" and "soul". Many people know the words by hearsay, but precise descriptions are rarely given. It is very easy to get an idea. Fig. 1 shows a simple diagram of how the body, mind and soul are arranged and how they are connected. The circles symbolize spheres. The body is located in these spheres. The sphere represents what is called the "soul". The space between all the spheres is the same as the "spirit". This means that the spirit is everywhere and is available to everyone and everything. The spirit is not material. The soul is located in and around the body. That is why it is ultimately wrong to say that the soul is in the body. It is more the case that the body is in the soul. Strictly speaking, it is the material core of the soul. Why do some circles in Fig. 1 have a body inside the sphere and some do not? The soul continues to exist after physical death because it is a physical fact that energies cannot simply dissolve. They simply change their state. This state is comparable to the different states of water: it can be ice, water or water vapor. That is why it is also possible to communicate with so-called "deceased". The energy field that surrounded a person during their life on earth continues to exist in the afterlife - with all the knowledge and awareness that the person has accumulated on earth. Only the body dies. The circles without bodies in Fig. 1, therefore represent deceased people. They differ from the living in only a few details: they no longer have a material core (body) and no ego, but the structure of the soul remains exactly as it was during their lifetime. The figure also makes it clear that we share the same spirit with the deceased. They do not exist somewhere far away from us, but rather their lives take place parallel to ours. In this world, therefore, there are the spheres (souls) with bodies, and the afterlife is the "place" where the spheres exist without bodies. The afterlife can be imagined to be somewhat more transparent than our world. Time and space no longer exist in our sense, since matter no longer exists either. This makes it easier to understand why some people can sense the energetic field of the deceased and translate this information into our language. These people are called "mediums" or "sensitives". If you now realize once again that we are all connected to one another through the same space, the spirit, then the word "connection" takes on a whole new meaning. Fig. 1 makes it clear that your own actions must therefore always have an effect on other people and souls. If you imagine the balls as fish and the spirit as water, then it becomes understandable that it has an effect on the others when one of the fish makes waves. (So it does seem to matter if - as the saying goes - a sack of rice falls over in China.) Ultimately, your own life is always influenced when something changes somewhere else. It is just a question of the force of this change and the time when you feel the effects. This applies to pleasant effects as well as unpleasant ones. The same applies, of course, to matters that you yourself set in motion. Because the waves that you yourself make naturally have an effect on the lives of others. The arrangement of the spiritual world. Every form of existence is based on a system or structure. The same applies to the spiritual world. Even if it is not material from our point of view, it still has a certain density, but vibrates so high that it is difficult for our physical senses to perceive it. With the help of Fig. 2, it becomes clear how one can roughly imagine this structure. Some people refer to this arrangement as hierarchy, but this can quickly lead to misunderstandings, as this word has a rather negative connotation in common parlance. It is more a neutral arrangement of light and energy. The basic structure of the spiritual world is made up of three primary principles. Two parts have split off from the divine primary principle: the "Luciferic principle" and the "Christ principle". In order for life to be possible at all in the material form as we know it, it needs these two opponents, which create a field of tension. This law is also evident in electricity, for example: energy can only flow when two poles are present. Light can also only be created when a certain tension has been built up. This means that without these two poles there is no movement and no flow of energy. The musculoskeletal system of the human body works according to the same principle. In order for an arm or a leg to be moved, two so-called "opponents" are necessary: a muscle on one side and another on the opposite. Between these two sides or poles, there is inevitably a "middle". This zone is always neutral, no matter what field of tension you are talking about. You can find these opposites everywhere in our material world: hot and cold, far and near, light and dark. Even our globe has two poles, which make all life in between possible. Thus, the globe is nothing other than the material mirror of the spiritual world and the consciousness that characterizes humans. The so- called "polar thinking" of wrong and right, of good and evil, also arose on the basis of these fixed components of everyday life. Other energies have developed from these two basic principles: the archangel energies. However, you should not imagine them as winged beings, but rather as forms of energy that have the quality of a certain color. When depicting angels, the wings simply symbolize that they are spiritual, not material beings. The archangels are something like "patrons" who are responsible for entire groups of people and certain topics. This area was also eventually subdivided again. The level of simple angel beings emerged. If we stick with the representation of colors, we are dealing with a wide variety of mixed colors on this level. This is also the level at which the souls of ascended masters and highly developed spiritual helpers are located. As you can see from Fig. 2, the spiritual world ultimately extends from simple spiritual helpers to the level of the deceased and into the material creation itself. Matter is therefore the visible side of the divine primal principle. That is why it is also correct to say that everyone carries a part of God within themselves. With every fertilization of an egg cell, the Big Bang that also created the globe is repeated, and each time a new, small universe is created: a human being! God as a source. The ideas of God are very different and strongly depend on the corresponding culture and history of a people. However, if the divine primal principle is represented neutrally, many different images of God and beliefs can be found in it. For all religions in the world, God is the symbol of a purifying and power- giving source. However, since humans function in the form of inner images, the brain is always looking for an image for emotional states. In the case of God, this has led to the creation of a variety of symbolic representations that are intended to illustrate the role of this divine source depending on the cultural background. Many religions have an image of a an authority, which unfortunately is not always conducive to a value-free image of God. A neutral image for this source of power would be, for example, a bright white light that has no particular shape. As soon as you connect with this light, the soul, which is also made of light, is returned to its original state. The light triggers a neutral state that feels like a cleansing for many people. The feeling of regaining one's purity and innocence, which is usually still natural in childhood, is made possible by a connection with this source. If you now imagine that God is an inexhaustible source of light, then you also understand that God cannot punish. After all, this would require a personified being that thinks and acts like humans do. You don't need a divine source to punish yourself; you can do it all on your own every day. Punishment is not in the Creator's spirit, but merely an attitude of the ego that prevents people from remembering their own divine and neutral state and being one with it. No drugs or other aids are necessary to achieve this state - on the contrary, they tend to distance you even further from your own center. Ultimately, you just need to allow yourself to think that every person carries this source of light within themselves and can access it at any time. Whether you let it shine within you and accept this gift is up to each individual. What actually stops people from living in this consciousness every day? Unfortunately, our parents play a large and formative role here. If you feel loved, noticed and recognized, it will not be difficult for you to feel this power within yourself and to use it for yourself. If your parents have taught you all of this, you will be able to accept love as an adult. And this unconditional love of your parents is very similar to the divine state. On the other hand, if you have experienced punishing, distant or even violent parents, you will develop the conviction in childhood that you are unlovable and inadequate. Such convictions make it difficult to accept this divine source and allow it to work. In this sense, you can imagine God as a good parent. He does not take important experiences away from people because he knows that they are enormously important for personal growth. After all, parents should not keep all suffering away from their children and "wrap them in cotton wool", because that way they do not learn to master life and face its challenges. It is important that parents are there and comfort when the child has experienced suffering or pain - and that is precisely God's overriding task. You find comfort, and this belief gives you support, just as children should find it in their parents. Why does God allow so much suffering in this world? Many wars and crimes are fought in God's name. However, this is usually an abuse of this source to achieve one's own ends or goals. People who are actually connected to this divine power would never use God's name for their activities in order to give their intentions meaning, greatness or justification. Humble, authentically religious people do not constantly talk about their "holy" and good deeds - they simply act accordingly. However, humans have been given another gift at birth: free will. Everyone has it, but not many use it in the right way. Many people understand "free will" to mean: "I do what I want." This is not fundamentally wrong, as long as it does not harm others. It is not God's plan to educate people by punishing them, but to confront them with the consequences of their actions, which are based on free will. The learning effect is much greater, as can also be seen in the upbringing of children. So God cannot prevent suffering in this world unless he abolishes human free will and ensures order himself. But what meaning and learning purpose would human existence have then? Again, someone would take over responsibility and leadership, and the human being would be a puppet and an executive organ, not one that thinks for itself. That would be convenient, but incredibly pointless to make such an effort for. The origin of the word "religion" once again clarifies the task that it was originally intended to have. The word means something like "roots" or "reconnection". Roots provide support and are responsible and important for a firm footing. So if you make sure that the soul tree is well rooted and that you are "down to earth", this enables a healthy, spiritual reconnection to about the divine primal principle. A tree is a beautiful symbol for this: it can only grow as far towards the sky as it grows parallel to it downwards into the earth. The roots of a healthy tree are always the same size as its crown. At the beginning, however, a seed first develops roots for a firm footing. For spiritual and mental development, this means: one cannot fully develop spiritually as long as one has not accepted and learned to love material life in all its facets. The same principle underlies the mentally and physically healthy development of people. Religion should therefore help people to find support in themselves through faith. It should not create dependency or feelings of guilt, but bring God closer to people and vice versa. Religion should strengthen people and remind them of their own divine existence so that they can draw from this source for others and themselves at any time. Because then people would also be more sensitive and mindful in their dealings with themselves and others. Much suffering would not arise in the first place. Heaven or hell? This question concerns many people and is therefore by no means unusual. Our culture is generally uncertain when it comes to dealing with death. Death and dying are still topics that people don't like to talk about. But we will all be affected by them at some point. It is all the more illogical that it is not openly discussed. However, this was not always the case. The origin of this polarized thinking can be found in our religion, among other things. Unfortunately, the institution of the church at some point created an image of death in which a Judgement Day awaits us after our physical death. The image of heaven and hell was created, and words such as guilt and atonement were linked to it accordingly. As a result, people developed the idea of a punishing and judgmental God. In order to withstand the Judgement Day, you have to be a good person. But there were and still are very contradictory statements about what exactly makes a good person. The answer was and is very dependent on the respective advisor or judge. There was no certain information about which actions would definitely take you to heaven and which to hell. Fear arose from this uncertainty. Unfortunately, many people have taken advantage of this culture of fear to manipulate others. Because people who are afraid are easier to steer in the desired direction. The possibility of exercising power is much easier with anxious and insecure people than with those who are not afraid of death. For them, death does not represent any threat and therefore cannot be used as a means of pressure. This manipulative principle naturally works in the other direction too: if an overly glorious picture of life after death is created and rewards are promised, people are again easily influenced and do not really perceive the opportunity of earthly life. This is evident, for example, in suicide bombers who are not afraid of death but also have no respect for life. They serve someone else's idea in the hope of reward in the afterlife. But this calculation does not work either, because such people also have to face the consequences of their actions after their death and look back on their lives. It is therefore important and necessary for many reasons to create a neutral picture of existence after death. Only this makes us free people who are able to take responsibility for our own actions. Jesus already set an example of love, respect and responsibility for people. There was no mention of punishment, guilt or retribution. He wanted to show us that punishment is a human construct and not in the Creator's interest. One more personal comment: I would like to make it clear that I am not an opponent of the church or religion. Faith and a corresponding community with which one can share the same attitude is extremely important, especially today. For me, however, a religious community becomes unhealthy when it harms others or when the free will of the individual no longer has a place. Angels and spiritual helpers It is important to understand the connection between angels and the spiritual world and what their specific tasks are so that one can use and understand their support in everyday life. There are various areas in the angelic realm to which they are assigned. This provides information about their areas of responsibility and possible uses. If one starts from the top of the hierarchy, the archangels would be the next ones to be mentioned after God, the Christ and the Luciferic principle (see Fig. 2, p. 99). They are also called the "Magnificent Seven". They include: Archangel Michael, Archangel Jophiel, Archangel Chamuel, Archangel Gabriel, Archangel Raphael, Archangel Uriel and Archangel Zadkiel. Each of them is assigned a specific color, which also provides information about the archangel's area of operation. The following table briefly summarizes the names, color assignments and respective areas of responsibility. You can imagine the sensible use of angel energies as follows: If, for example, you have problems setting boundaries in a healthy way, you should ask Archangel Michael for help. But not in the sense that he takes the task away from you, but that he helps you to learn the ability to set boundaries yourself. That would make sense in that this learning process empowers people themselves and does not make them dependent. It also corresponds to the optimal way angels work. The archangels are responsible for an entire group of people, as their energy form allows it and is large enough to divide themselves accordingly. And yet you can ask each and every one of them for help. An archangel cannot therefore be the spiritual helper of a single person, as he is, so to speak, the patron of an entire group of people. Unlike the archangels, every person has his own "spiritual guide", behind whom there is another group of helpers. This guide and his group are exclusively responsible for a single person. Some also call the spiritual guide the higher self. You can also imagine this group of helpers as follows: Suppose you came from a noble family. Accordingly, you yourself would be the nobleman, your spiritual guide would be comparable to the head butler, who is well informed about everything and yet always stays discreetly in the background. The group of helpers would symbolically consist of a gardener, cook, nanny, tutor, etc. However, this group of helpers is delegated by the head butler. This means that it is completely sufficient to just turn to the spiritual guide, as he guides the others and is always informed about everything that concerns the person. This spiritual guide is at the side of his protégé from the beginning to the end of life, regardless of whether he is perceived, consciously used or not. That is why it is sensible to build a relationship with this being so that he is not only used in an emergency, but the entire quality of life can be improved through this connection. The members of the helper group do not have the same presence as the spiritual guide. They are always used when their special skills are needed. New helpers can also join, and others say goodbye after a certain time. The spiritual guide, however, remains the same for life. In this context, it is important to mention that deceased relatives CANNOT be spiritual guides or helpers. They are too entangled in the history of the person in question and are therefore no longer neutral. Nevertheless, they can help and support their loved ones from the afterlife, but not in the spirit of the spiritual helper. Fig. 4, shows the arrangement of personal, spiritual support again schematically. The next question is, of course, what do these spiritual beings look like? They do not have a physical appearance like humans, but exist in the form of a light body. This "body" is flexible and moves as quickly as light. But once you have a human representation in your mind's eye after you have made mental contact with your spiritual helper, this only serves to understand what personality is hidden behind the helper: The spiritual helpers create a picture in your head so that you can imagine what qualities and strengths they have. Their area of responsibility extends much further than just helping you find parking spaces or lost objects. Of course, you can ask for such functional things to make your everyday life easier, but it would be a shame to limit yourself to that - the real strengths of your companions lie elsewhere: Spiritual guides and helpers are there to advise you. However, they do NOT make decisions for you. You have to do that yourself, but they support you in making the right decisions by "pronouncing" recommendations or pointing out possible complications, e.g. in the form of signs. The helpers know your human life plan and also have the task of guiding you back on the right path if you have strayed too far from it. For some spiritual companions, this is it is easier than for others, because people can be stubborn and obstinate to varying degrees, and the means they use are correspondingly different. If they are not given any specific tasks, or if you express specific wishes too rarely, the helpers simply carry out a kind of emergency program. They then try to keep the damage that the person causes through their actions as low as possible. The helpers then still serve the person, but more in the sense of damage limitation. If, on the other hand, you use the helper sensibly, you ask him (or her!) for help in specific situations. Because these spiritual beings only increase their efforts if you ask them to. The reason for this is quite simply that they respect the free will of the person. As long as you do not ask for help and express wishes, they hold back discreetly. They respect the person's decision that they want to do it alone. Whether this is always so easy for them is another question! So you shouldn't limit your wishes to material things, but rather ask that the spiritual helpers support you in difficult and emotional matters. For example, if you have family problems, you could ask that the situation be resolved and improved for the benefit of everyone involved. Or that the guide or helper gives you the decisive impulse as to what is the most sensible thing to do in the situation. But be careful with what you wish for: it could come true! And so the question arises as to how these helpers actually work in everyday life and how you can perceive them. It's just like with angels. They don't appear before us with trumpets and fanfares announcing important messages. All of these spiritual energies are very unobtrusive and discreet. They don't serve through well-staged appearances so that people know: "Oh, I've seen an angel or spiritual helper," but rather they carry out their task humbly from the background. Which is also much more effective, by the way, because such superfluous stagings would cost far too much energy. Such performances are saved for emergencies! Spiritual helpers work in the following way: If the person is not too stressed and distracted from themselves, they give an impulse for an action or an idea at the right moment that helps to solve a situation. Now you might think that these "inspirations" arise from your own thinking, but there is a noticeable difference between a so-called inspiration and self-constructed ideas. The constructed thought is much more strenuous and takes place in the head. The inspiration or "brainwave" comes spontaneously and suddenly from outside and costs almost no energy. You only have to pay conscious attention to it once and you will feel the difference. Sometimes the helpers also work through the person's emotional world, but this type of connection requires that the person in question is aware of their emotions and knows their own emotional world well. Otherwise, confusion can quickly arise. Angels and spiritual helpers sometimes work by simply "sending" another person who then helps to solve the problem that you are facing and contributes crucial ideas. They do not have to put themselves on the map to do their work, because as neutral, spiritual beings they are freed from this kind of motivation. It is the person who is looking for confirmation and would put themselves on the map with such opportunities. These helpers rule by serving, and their main task is to support and accompany people in their personal and spiritual growth. Nothing more, but also nothing less. Of course, I also have a spiritual guide and a group of helpers. I have felt him by my side since childhood and have steadily improved contact and communication with him over time because it was an inner need of mine. His name is Michael and if he were made of flesh and blood, he would keep women on their toes, because he has incredible charm, but is still very direct and extremely funny. He never loses sight of the essential things, is bursting with love for people and creation and is therefore perfect for my work! For a long time I simply called him my "dear spiritual helper", which worked very well. The correct term would be spiritual guide, but that word never suited him for me. These helpers don't attach any particular importance to names anyway, only humans do that. Pseudonyms or nicknames are also sufficient, with which you can address your helper without any problem, because he has long since known that he is meant. My helper has already created many a masterpiece by I had to do a lot of work to unravel situations that I had created myself through too much activism, but fortunately he has not complained about me yet, which I find surprising when I look back. Because in some situations I do hold my head in my hands afterwards and am briefly annoyed that I did not listen to my first impulse. But these missteps are part of being human and they are precisely the ones that help me develop the fastest, and my helper knows that too. I am infinitely grateful to have him by my side and am already looking forward to the moment we meet when I will travel back to the spiritual world. Spiritual world habitat For many people, the spiritual world is still difficult to imagine. But that is quite understandable, since the human brain has difficulty visualizing images from certain dimensions onwards. However, the brain is also constantly developing in terms of multidimensional imagination. A good example of this is the image that people had of our earth until recently. For a long time, people believed that the earth was flat. With growing awareness and appropriate measuring devices, it finally became possible to see that the world is more like a sphere. As a result, people and their imagination developed further, and it was discovered that there is a universe with a specific arrangement. We now know that there are many such universes, and this is not the last dimension that people will conquer. The same is true of the spiritual world as it is of the earth. It is multidimensional, and there are different levels of consciousness there. Just as on earth, different conditions prevail on these spiritual levels of consciousness, each of which offers different opportunities for development. Step by step and from life to life, the human soul grows. This constantly growing awareness also creates new bases for action and is thus the basis for continuous development and change of people, but also of their habitat. How can one imagine the spiritual, disembodied existence in the spiritual world? The soul structure, like everything else, consists of light and energy. You can imagine a soul like our earth as a sphere - made only of light. These "spheres" have different internal structures or sizes depending on their consciousness. Some have grid-like patterns and others have flower-like arrangements. The colors are also very different and each soul has its own rhythm. Some sensitive people can perceive this individual rhythm or even recognize the soul structure. Communication is telepathic. This is easiest to imagine if you take electricity and how it works as an example. One soul (sphere) sends out information in the form of an electrical impulse and the other receives it and converts it back into information. Through the exchange of information, souls can feed themselves with new knowledge and apply and use it in the next, earthly life. Through the sensory experience and application of this knowledge in earthly life, it becomes lived certainty and felt knowledge. The spiritual world is therefore the name given to this entire spiritual structure with all its levels and forms of consciousness. The afterlife, on the other hand, is merely one level of the spiritual world. The one into which our soul goes when our body has stopped living. Free will as the basis of life Free will offers people an important basis for their development: it empowers them to make their own decisions and thus create many things. It is not for nothing that God has given us creativity in addition to free will. But this creative power can only develop in spiritual freedom. A good example of this is painting. If you are given a concrete template of what you want to paint, you already know in advance what the result will look like. If, on the other hand, you have room for your own creative creativity, you create a unique picture with a strong charisma and the basis for developing new ideas is provided. It is the same with the development of people and their consciousness. If God were to take away people's power to decide their own actions, human curiosity, creativity and existence would be completely pointless. People would not be able to learn what it means to take responsibility if God were to take away their free will. For many, this is certainly a comfortable and pleasant idea, but it would certainly not be in the spirit of evolution. The amazing thing is that the Creator has faith in the Despite all the mistakes people have made, they still haven't lost their faith. And as long as God believes that people can still learn respect, consideration and love, people should hold on to this belief and do everything they can to achieve these goals. It's actually like raising children: parents don't lose faith in their children's abilities at the first mishap, but try to teach them how they could do better in the future so that they can grow up to be self-responsible and strong people. Parents invest energy, and if necessary tolerance, just as God does with people. This free will can be used to contribute to the positive development of humanity. You can start right now and start with yourself. Of course, you can continue to use excuses so that you don't have to act responsibly. After all, it's very convenient to blame others for what's not going well in your own life. Some people even blame the Creator when there's no one else to blame. The only catch is that nothing can move or change as long as you hand over responsibility to others. But of course it is up to each individual how they handle it. Since everyone has been given the gift of free will, it is also their decision what they do with it or not. It always makes sense to use this gift constructively, even if you will always make "mistakes" when faced with this challenge. But that is not tragic, the only important thing is that you try and always do your best. You can't do more than that anyway. The principle of cause and effect You often hear about this principle, but usually in a misunderstood context. The sentence: "Everything you send out comes back to you many times over" takes on the flavor of guilt in the wrong context. If you replace the word guilt with the word responsibility, however, it sounds better and allows for reflection. Guilt feels like a sticky mass that you can't get rid of; not even deep regret can save you. How should one deal with feelings of guilt until God forgives the sin? Responsibility, on the other hand, is no less serious, but it allows the possibility of recognizing mistakes, forgiving oneself and doing better next time. Of course, it is up to each person to decide how they want to handle this. The principle of cause and effect can also be found in physics, as Einstein so beautifully explained. Every energy that is moved or sent out has an effect somewhere. It is only a matter of time before the effects find their way back to the sender. The basis for this is the principle of balance. Everything in this world, whether material or spiritual, seeks balance, which in turn has to do with the earthly principle of polarity. An imbalance can exist for a certain period of time, but the "attraction of the middle" is stronger. So it is only a matter of time before balance is restored naturally. This can be observed again and again both in the development of the earth and in historical events. If a system has become too one-sided and unhealthy for people, it will eventually be destroyed so that it can then rearrange itself. This destruction can be brought about by social unrest, natural disasters or other events. The underlying principle can be illustrated very clearly as a scale. In this respect, there is such a thing as justice. The only question is when it will happen. Many people have lost faith in a fair balance because they often do not receive direct satisfaction. They then try to ensure this balance themselves, but forget that in doing so they are throwing something new into the balance and thus keeping it moving. A balance is created at the latest when a person dies. When looking back on their life, they experience several times in their own "emotional body" what they have triggered in other people and what they have had to experience as a result of their actions. This applies to good actions as well as bad ones. It is easy to imagine that this process is not a pleasant affair for those who have harmed others during their lifetime. But you can achieve this balance during your lifetime by taking responsibility for your actions and sincerely regretting if you have harmed someone. You can apologize to the person affected at any time and then you won't be "served" it when you look back on your life. The main thing is that the apology was sincere. This principle is reflected in both spiritual and material matters and has only one goal: neutrality. The meaning of life The soul decides before birth to face certain issues in life. There are souls who only undertake a few tasks and others who want to experience everything at once. Once the experiences have been made as a human being, they are stored in the soul as processed and experienced. This is also the reason why one is reborn. Since one cannot internalize all the topics relating to human existence in one life, there is the possibility of rebirth. The learning content is therefore spread over several lives, which also makes a lot of sense. There is another reason for this division. The quality of life a thousand years ago, for example, was different from today. It offered people different opportunities for development. Because the earth and humanity are changing and constantly developing, every time also offers different opportunities for growth. According to this principle, people gain new consciousness from life to life, as shown schematically in Fig. 6. The circle symbolizes the soul, and the "pieces of cake" symbolize the lives already lived and those that lie ahead. However, most people do not consciously remember the lives they have already lived/past lives, and that is a good thing. It is actually a protection so that you can concentrate fully on the tasks at hand. It no longer matters how or as who you have already lived, because the essence has been stored on the soul level and is available to you as a basis for action in this life, regardless of whether you had these experiences as a poor farmer or as a high priest. This means: If you experienced painful boundary violations in your last life and learned to defend yourself and set boundaries in the course of your existence at that time, then this awareness is still available to you today and you no longer have this topic on your list for the next lives, because it became conscious through lived experiences. Why is this sometimes arduous, earthly life even necessary when it seems to be easier in the afterlife? This question concerns many people, and in order to understand the meaning of life, you need to know what life after death is like in the afterlife. There is often a belief that everyone is happy there and that you can get rid of all your worries in one fell swoop. That is why there are people who can hardly wait to die. In this context, it is important to correct this myth and create a concrete picture of the afterlife. The idea of a carefree life after death is the motivation for some to end their lives violently or to let themselves go until death occurs of its own accord. Based on this image of the "carefree afterlife", it is understandable that a person would behave in this way in a seemingly hopeless situation. However, this bubble usually bursts very quickly. Because what you find after such a death is anything but carefree. The first unpleasant surprise is that you are still thinking, even though you are dead. The next, far more unpleasant, is that you go through a review of your life and see how your life would have turned out if you had faced the problem. You see what consequences your chosen death has had on your relatives. You can't describe this phase without worry, because there is no turning back. You can't correct your mistakes; you've missed that chance. But that has nothing to do with punishment or guilt, you are simply confronted with the consequences of your actions. And that is exactly what you have control over! If, on the other hand, you made an effort during your lifetime and did your best and faced the challenges, you will also be confronted with the consequences of this effort when you look back on your life. And you really don't need to be afraid of that moment anymore. You see what positive effects this effort has had on your own life and on other people - certainly a worthwhile sight! People who have had near-death experiences confirm again and again in their reports that life goes on after death. If such people consciously remember the experiences during the death experience, this life review is reported with many parallels regardless of culture, belief and age. Life is not about doing everything right. Ultimately, it is only important to make an effort and to admit when you have made mistakes and to think about how you could do it better in the future. After all, you learn a lot from mistakes and can act more thoughtfully and reflectively in the future. Your own awareness grows by making mistakes, which you can observe wonderfully in children, for example. If something doesn't work the first time, children try other ways to reach their goal. They don't question the goal, but the way to get there and solve the situation with incredible creativity. Provided you let them. Once you have finally finished your life review, a neutral state awaits the soul. You are simple. There is no longer any sense of time or space. You move through the power of thought and live from your memories. Unfortunately, you can no longer have new, sensual experiences in the spiritual world; for that you need matter and, above all, a body with sensory organs. This means: sensuality and thus also new, sensual experiences are reserved for earthly existence! For example, if you have never consciously smelled the scent of a rose, you cannot remember it in the spiritual world or gain this sensual knowledge there. For this, it is necessary to be human. It is the same with feelings: if you have not experienced the feeling of tenderness in life, you will not automatically know what that feeling is in the afterlife either. These are already a lot of reasons why it is worth consciously absorbing, using and appreciating life with all your senses. Because the more you learn and experience in this world, the more awareness and knowledge you will have available in the afterlife and for the next life. And if you now consider again what a process is necessary for a human being to come into being, it would be more than appropriate to reward this effort of creation with respect and appreciation. Otherwise, all the effort would have been in vain and that would be a real shame! 4, Contacting the deceased. Many people think that a medium has something like "X-ray vision" and can perceive all the thoughts you have. This is a big mistake and it has very little to do with the actual task of a medium. A medium is not a person who knows everything and who does not keep anything hidden from him, but someone like you and me. The only difference is that the medium has an increased ability to perceive. This is not used all the time, however, but only when he is working. So there is absolutely no reason to be afraid of people with mediumistic abilities, as they have their own burden to bear just like everyone else. Perhaps this chapter can help to correct this distorted image and make it clear what services mediumistic people can and should provide. For all those who, after reading this chapter, get a taste for it and want to practice and refine their perception, there are suitable exercises in Chapter 5 for all the topics covered in this chapter. How should a medium work? Many people confuse the job of a medium with the work of a fortune teller or clairvoyant. Comparing this is like comparing a baker with a butcher. Both are craftsmen and produce food, but that's where the similarities end. A fortune teller gets information about a person from the psychic energy body. Everything we have experienced in our lives so far is stored there. The fortune teller has the ability to read this "body". Unfortunately, however, they usually also make predictions about the future, which are deduced from this information and sold as actual future forecasts. Fortune tellers, people with mediumistic abilities and anyone whose gift cannot be precisely identified are generally referred to as clairvoyants. Strictly speaking, there is no such thing as clairvoyants. In comparison to a fortune teller, a medium is able to perceive the spiritual level in addition to the psychic level. Since the spiritual level can exist independently of our world, certain skills are needed for this communication. The following comparison shows the difference between the spiritual and psychic levels: The psychic level is like reading a book on a certain topic. You just have to be able to see and read to do that. The spiritual level, on the other hand, is comparable to discussing the same topic with a person. This requires knowledge of the topic, the ability to communicate and to express one's own thoughts and feelings. A medium is therefore an "interpreter" between this world and the next and must be equipped with the appropriate talents so that there can be any clear communication between the two worlds. In the best case, a medium uses all physical and mental senses to mediate between the deceased and the relative. All physical senses also have a spiritual equivalent. For example, one does not call it hearing, but "clairaudience" when speaking of the spiritual sense. These clairaudience senses have atrophied in many people, as they are not necessarily needed for daily survival. In extreme situations, however, they are still activated unconsciously. Remnants of them can still be found in our language, for example when we say: "That made me clairaudient," but very few people use them consciously. A medium uses these "clairaudience senses" consciously and can thus receive and translate impulses from the spiritual world. It is easiest to imagine these senses as antennas. The "clairaudience antennas" are somewhat longer and have a greater range than their physical counterparts. However, the clairaudience senses are not developed in all mediumistic people from childhood. In some cases they remain activated and in others they atrophy, so that they can only be used again through training. What is this sensory perception used for? If the medium has contact with a deceased person and this person wants to tell something about his life, his hobbies or habits during his lifetime so that the relative can recognize him, then the following is important: The deceased can use all of the medium's bright senses as channels, provided they have not atrophied, to communicate, for example, that he has drowned in a lake. He can then input the following to the medium: a picture of a lake the sound of rippling water the feeling of being wet the feeling of tasting water distinctive smells from the body of water or the area where it happened. However, if the medium only has two channels available, it can happen that he draws the wrong conclusions because the picture is incomplete and not fully utilized. This means that the more senses are available, the more concrete the sensitive person's statement will be. In addition, the deceased can only work with the knowledge and experiences that the medium has stored in his or her brain over the course of his or her life. This is comparable to a computer. If the sensitive person has stored many first names in his or her brain for some reason, the deceased can use this pool and "click" on a corresponding name on the medium and thereby activate it. The medium then only needs to say this name, as it comes spontaneously into his or her head. However, if the mediumistic person does not have a good memory for names, names will not be one of his or her specialties. Therefore, it is important for every person with such a talent to feed and supply this personal computer with new information as often as possible. This means that more opportunities for exchange between this world and the next are available and the statements become much more concrete. It is actually like learning vocabulary when you learn a language. Grammar alone is not enough, and the more vocabulary you have at your disposal, the more precisely you can express your concerns in the language you have learned. The next area that plays a very important role is the medium's emotional world. It is essential to keep working on your own personality in order to release blocked feelings. This is so important because emotions play a fundamental role in the contact between the deceased and relatives. For example, if the deceased wants to express how much he loved the relative, then it is important that the medium also knows, allows and can feel this feeling. However, if the medium is afraid of love and has problems feeling love due to their personal history, then this potential is not freely available to them. But this is precisely what could be the decisive and healing information for the bereaved. Various factors are important in order to achieve the best possible result when making contact. A connection is certainly possible even if not all components are present, but a medium should contribute everything that is their responsibility to this. Fig. 7 shows which interaction is important and that it is not just the skills of the medium that are crucial for an optimal result. The best result is achieved when all those involved have the necessary willingness to exchange information and are in good shape. The exchange between medium and deceased takes place on a spiritual level. The exchange between relatives and medium takes place on a physical level via language, and the connection between relatives and deceased orbenem should be the spiritual level. If all of this is in place, everyone involved will have a satisfied and good feeling after the conversation. However, as soon as one of them holds something back or is not "in form" for various reasons, this will influence the outcome of the contact. Unlike a fortune teller, a medium should not make predictions about the future. It should concentrate on its task of helping people cope with grief. It should help cope with the loss of loved ones and support the grieving process. Communication with the otherworldly level should be used to express things that could no longer be said during life. A medium must be able to support people in their grief, support them and give them comfort so that they can eventually concentrate on themselves again and be able to live again. A medium is not supposed to misuse their abilities to answer questions such as: "Is my husband cheating on me?" or similar. A serious medium is able to establish contact with the spiritual world without any aids and at any time. If "aids" such as alcohol, drugs or other things are involved, the effect is rather the opposite. The senses are clouded, severely impaired or distorted. It is therefore only logical that such factors limit the ability to perceive much more than they promote it. Contacts with the afterlife are not a parlor game for the pub and should not be played when drunk, as you are no longer attentive enough. In addition, such conversations deserve an appropriate and protected setting! Important basics for mediumistic contacts In order to do your job well as a medium, talent alone is not enough. A number of other things must be present for this talent to develop. It is comparable to all other talents. If someone has an extraordinary athletic gift, it must be promoted through training, discipline, etc. until it can actually be used. You do not need physical muscle mass for mediumistic contacts, but the nerve strands and sensory perception must be challenged and strengthened through constant training. Otherwise, as with any talent, you will very quickly reach your limits. As in competitive sports, it is important for sensitive people not to overexert themselves on the one hand, and not to take it easy on the other. As with everything, it is a question of the right amount. In order to find the right dosage for training and practice, it is essential to have healthy boundaries. Unfortunately, many people with mediumistic talents have hardly any noticeable boundaries because they believe that you don't need such things for spiritual work. This is a big mistake with far-reaching consequences for the medium and those around them. If you don't have healthy boundaries, you can't tell when you've had enough or are overwhelmed. Unfortunately, you only feel the overload much too late, for example after physical breakdowns or states of weakness. Without boundaries, you can't distinguish exactly which feelings or even symptoms belong to you and which to the other person. A medium should therefore always make sure to be centered and with yourself, because this is the only way to prevent abuse of the gift. But how can you feel your center if there is no "vessel" or framework that would define this center? You need emotional boundaries so that your inner center can be felt at all. Another problem that comes with a lack of ability to set boundaries is not being able to consistently say no. Now the question arises as to whether this is even important in mediumistic contacts. It is essential because if you are in contact with the deceased and want to end a connection at some point, then you have to be able to say no because there are very excessive deceased and also relatives who always want more, more and more. At some point the medium is so exhausted that they will definitely not be able to offer their services to anyone else that day. Who benefits from this other than the excessive deceased or relatives? A good medium has an emotional boundary and knows that they themselves decide when they have "office hours" and when they need time for themselves. Just imagine being harassed around the clock by the deceased and their relatives without being allowed to say "Stop!" ... It doesn't take much imagination to understand that in such a state you will eventually "go crazy". Or your body will collapse first. It is basically the same with the deceased as it is with the living: in order to be able to provide real help, you have to be firm in your personality and also pay attention to your own needs. If you help without limits and suffer with the others, If you help someone, you are already dealing with a helper syndrome. This type of help is actually just a service to your own ego. Empathy has a different quality than pity. True compassion enables a medium to really give support and support to relatives who have lost someone. If you are not able to take care of yourself, you cannot take care of others either. If you take away other people's suffering or even physical symptoms and act them out for them, the other person may feel better for a short time, but the problem is not solved. The other person cannot then gain the necessary, related knowledge. Basically, every person is able to make contact with the spiritual world. However, the quality of this connection is tied to certain conditions. A person who is in a good position to make contact would be one who: is able to set boundaries can differentiate his own needs from those of others uses his senses consciously and thus perceives consciously is capable of love is empathic (compassionate) trusts his feelings and respects them Now you might think: "That's asking a lot," but you can start by working on yourself. It's not about being perfect and being able to do everything, but about constantly developing yourself to optimize the result. After all, it's fun to discover and develop yourself without putting yourself under unnecessary pressure. A common misconception is the way in which a medium perceives the deceased. Many believe that the medium sees the deceased with their eyes and can then describe what they looked like, etc. However, so-called "clairvoyance" means something different. The sensitive person usually does not see the deceased with their physical eyes, but with their mind's eye. This means that an image is created in the mind - similar to the images that appear when you remember a dream - and the medium describes this image. This is what is known as clairvoyance. It works the same way with the other clair senses. When people say, "The deceased tells me" or "I hear...", you should not imagine that the medium is perceiving a voice from outside with their ear, but rather that it is a thought that they hear. You simply feel that this thought does not originate in your own head. So all clair perceptions take place in the medium's body; the impressions do not come from outside. The physical senses are necessary for the things that you perceive on the outside. Now and then it does happen that you perceive the deceased with your physical senses and not with your clair senses, but that is for other reasons. There are deceased people who want to be absolutely sure that you have noticed them, and that is why they use the material level to be perceived. For most people, the physical senses are less atrophied than the clair senses. That is why it is easier to use them and to perceive with them. The deceased sometimes take advantage of this. All these examples and descriptions make it clear that the human body is an important organ of expression. The deceased can show the medium on a physical level how they felt in certain situations in their lives. But to do this they need the sensitive person's physical means of expression and sensation. The sensitive person then only has to put his feelings into words and can thus describe to the relative, for example, whether the deceased felt pain during the dying process or not. It is important, however, that the medium only makes his physical sensations available, not the entire physical body. This could lead to the medium not being able to get rid of the symptoms he previously felt for a certain period of time, which ultimately does not help anyone. Inspiration or imagination? The biggest problem for sensitive people is distinguishing between an actual inspiration and an imagination. Training and experience are factors that bring great security. That is why it is important not to despair if you have once again ignored the right impulse and the desired success does not come. Because inner and outer security grows through PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE. Life offers enough opportunities every day to train your own perception. One of the most important distinguishing features between inspiration and imagination is the effort required. Inspiration is effortless and happens by itself. Imagination consists of many thoughts strung together that build on each other and finally form a result. This process costs significantly more energy and is anything but relaxed. These constructed conclusions take place in the mind and only draw on previous experiences. Inspirations, on the other hand, come from outside and draw on mental potential. This mental knowledge can also assess situations that it does not yet know and that have not yet been stored as previous experiences. You can imagine the way an inspiration works as if information were put into a funnel that is located in the head. If the funnel is open and not blocked, mental knowledge can get in and make itself known through a flash of inspiration or an inspiration. Constructed thoughts are more like having lots of letters in front of you and putting them together to form a word. You have to concentrate much more, and that costs a lot of energy. In addition, the horizon of thoughts is limited to what the person already knows. With inspirations, it is usually the case that you had not previously thought about the topic for which you need an answer, and suddenly, as if out of nowhere, the solution is there. Conclusion: The spirit contains all the answers, the mind or the ego does not. Inspiration: perception without having to have specific knowledge Imagination: conclusion/assumption that is put together from collected knowledge Inspiration and intuition Most people are familiar with these terms, but the role they play in media and spiritual work is largely incomprehensible. Inspiration would certainly be attributed to artists of all kinds, but one would not necessarily expect it to be of great importance to people with media talent. Inspiration comes from the Latin, from inspiratio, and means something like animation, breathing life, soul or spirit. That is, it is a creative force that brings something to life. If a person is inspired, they are a kind of channel between spirit and matter in that moment. In this way, spiritual knowledge can be made visible and can be used by other people. Painting, acting, singing, but also mediumship are just a few examples of areas of application for it. The person who is currently serving as a channel does not need to think and does not need to know anything about what he is currently giving form to. On the contrary! As soon as he thinks about it and tries to grasp it with his mind, the door to the spiritual, creative level closes. In relation to mediumistic contacts, this means the following: Strictly speaking, a medium does not need any information from the relatives about a deceased person in order to be able to make concrete statements about this person. The medium only needs to be inspired by the deceased to say certain things. The mediumistic person does not even need to understand what he is talking about exactly. It is enough if the relatives know what it is about and can do something with what is said. Inspiration means the passing on of spiritual goods by a person without it being filtered or controlled by him. The most difficult thing about it is not to think and to resist the urge to want to see the result already. But that is just a question of discipline, trust and practice. Intuition, on the other hand, is the ability to gain insights by looking at things or situations without having to think about them. So you suddenly have insights and know that they are correct without having to check them. But even if you did, they would stand up to it. The word comes from Latin, from intuere, and means to look at, to consider. So intuition is also very important for those with mediumistic talents. Regardless of this, most people would benefit from gaining insights by simply looking at situations. Ultimately, these insights come from the deep subconscious and it is simply a remembering of things that you already knew for a long time but that can only now reach your consciousness. Because there is still a lot of knowledge lying dormant in the subconscious that would be happy to be used. The thing about trust Trust is one of the most important foundations for mediumistic work. Unfortunately, this is exactly the issue that most people have a problem with. For the majority of people, their basic trust in life and their own feelings was damaged in childhood, which they then have to struggle with every day as adults. The main problem is often that the environment in which they grew up as children was not honest with themselves and therefore not honest with others either. As a child, however, they perceived the real, inner state of their parents. But if they say, "I'm fine and happy" out of self-protection, the child he feels something different, confusion arises. Should you believe what the parents say, or should you trust your own feelings, which say something different? As a medium, however, you need to trust your own feelings. This means that you first have to correct and clarify your emotional world and the image of your own childhood in order to be sure what you feel and perceive. Because if your own perception has been unsettled by the parents' unwanted self-protection, this is not a healthy basis for working as a medium or therapist. Basic trust is formed or damaged very early on. In the first weeks of life, the connection between mother and child shapes a person in terms of whether or not they can trust in life later on. If the mother is there and the child does not suffer from a lack of physical affection, love and attention in the first weeks or months, this person has a solid, emotional foundation for their life. He develops a conviction: "Everything I need is there and I am lovable." The person will later be able to transfer this knowledge to life and will not develop an existential sense of lack. You will then have a deep trust that life means well for you, even when things get difficult. And that is exactly what is important if you want to accompany people who are grieving for relatives. If the medium does not radiate a fundamental trust in life, it cannot provide authentic support. The support offered will seem contrived and therefore will not have the effect that grief counseling should actually have. What evidence can you expect? An important point that always provides material for heated discussions is the provability of life after death. With the help of quantum physics, scientists have now discovered that there must be something like an existence after life and that a non-material connection between people is also possible, regardless of how many kilometers or whether physical death lie between them. Since every medium works a little differently and has different areas of expertise, clients cannot expect the same thing from every sensitive person. Nevertheless, contact with the spiritual world should prove itself in a variety of ways. And that is what it does when there is a real connection. First of all, it is important not to go to a medium with certain expectations. You should know how this particular person works so that you know what is possible and what is not. A reputable medium can explain their own way of working and their method. You should not be afraid to ask about it, because it helps you understand yourself and you should always have enough time. For example, there are people with mediumistic talent whose strengths lie in being able to name the names, birthdays or age of the deceased. Others describe specific images and can describe places to which they have or had a certain connection in great detail. Another specialty is describing the personality of a deceased person. Some mediums can perceive the emotional attitude of the deceased to certain life situations and people very well and express it well. It is also possible to describe the circumstances of an accident or death, which is particularly important if there are still uncertainties and the relatives are still in a state of uncertainty. The following list contains the most important "evidence" that is generally possible in mediumistic contacts. But it is important to know that you cannot or should not expect all points in one session. Only in the rarest of cases is a medium able to name all points. There are reasons for this and this will be explained later. Information that a medium can receive from the deceased: Appearance during their lifetime Personality/strengths and weaknesses Description of the living space/living space during their lifetime Birthdays/memorial days, etc. Occupation/hobbies Things the deceased liked to do Things the deceased liked to eat or drink Habits or "quirks" Description of the illness the deceased suffered from Cause of death Feelings during the dying process Feelings that connect the deceased with the relatives How the deceased experienced his funeral How he sees his life now, in retrospect, his quintessence Of course, there are reasons why not every medium receives the same amount of information. Nor is it necessary to provide all of this evidence to prove existence after death. If two or three points have already been met and the correct information was received from the medium in this regard, life after death is already more than likely , because where else would the sensitive person get this information from if not from the spiritual level. Often it is the small, very personal things that provide the proof. It is therefore important that the focus for such a connection to the spiritual world is not exclusively on the evidence, because then the actual, healing meaning of such a contact is lost. The most important purpose should be the exchange between relatives and the deceased. One should use the opportunity to address and clarify all the things that have remained open with the loss of the loved one, because this is the only way to find one's inner peace. Evidence provides certainty, but unfortunately not deep, emotional healing. Why can't a medium provide any desired evidence? This question is justified if one considers the image of the perception of sensitive people. It does not just depend on the medium which information flows and which does not. The state of consciousness of the deceased also plays a major role. It is not the case that you die and then automatically become an all-knowing angelic being who is bursting with wisdom. After death, the soul of the deceased is in the level of consciousness that corresponds to the thinking that this person had before they died. Here is an example: If the deceased was an introverted person during their lifetime who had difficulty expressing feelings through words, this weakness will usually also be apparent in contact with the medium. The deceased then has difficulty communicating their feelings, and so the mediumistic person can only pass on the information they receive. Another example of this would be the situation where a deceased person committed suicide and has since realized that it was not the right way to end their life. In this case, the deceased may evade the question when the medium asks them about the cause of death. There are also things that you, as a spiritual being, don't like to talk about because you fear unpleasant reactions from your relatives. In such moments, the persistence of the medium is crucial. By asking specific questions of the deceased, you can get to the truth, but this requires a lot of experience and inner security. There are also deceased people who don't like the medium and therefore don't want to make proper contact. This can happen, and if you remember the deceased's human preferences and look at the medium using these criteria, then as a relative you can usually understand why the chemistry isn't right. If the deceased had problems with this type of person during their lifetime, then it is sometimes not surprising that they are not happy with the choice of medium. And of course this also affects the quality of the contact. It is only a shame if the medium is not confident enough to say: "It is not working well enough, let's leave it at that for today." Unfortunately, sensitive people often present it in such a way that the deceased does not want any contact at all. Sometimes the most bizarre reasons are conjured up as to why the connection to the deceased was not established, and unfortunately this only leads to confusion and worsening of the relatives' grief. A serious medium should own up to it if they cannot cover one area or another. That is not a bad thing, because no one is perfect. But it is bad and irresponsible if you cannot own up to your own lack of talent and then "blame" the deceased. Because with such excuses you can plunge the relatives into deep despair, and all just to make yourself look better. Making mistakes is human, even with a medium. A very rare form of mediumistic work is that of a painting medium. Such people are very rare, as the pronounced sensitive gift must also be accompanied by a talent for painting. After all, the inner images or feelings that they receive must be translated into drawings. Here, too, there are different variants. For example, there are painting mediums that draw the portrait of a deceased person while communicating with them mentally, without ever having seen this person before. Then there are painting mediums that can depict life and key themes in the form of a tree. The medium can use his drawing to describe precise details of life and show what the biggest problems are that the person has or had. The drawing also makes corresponding solutions visible. A connection to the spiritual world or the afterlife is therefore most productive when all those involved engage with each other as impartially as possible and do not have any have a precise idea of what is going to happen, because that way there is room for everyone and everything. It is like with normal conversations: if one conversation partner only wants to hear a certain statement and tries to pin the other person down to it, then the other person will eventually lose interest in the conversation. They do not have the feeling that the other person is interested in a real exchange and understandably will eventually disengage. This is exactly how it can be with the deceased. I have already experienced many such situations myself and therefore know them from a variety of perspectives. Of course, I have also met deceased people who had trouble expressing their feelings and I did my best to reach a satisfactory result. On the other hand, there were also cases where the deceased provided one piece of evidence after another, but the relative waited for a very specific formulation. Everything else was of no importance. I found this very sad for everyone involved, because nobody was really happy with the conversation in the end. Others, however, demanded more and more proof than they already had and said: "Just one more and then I'll believe it." But it went on like this until the deceased told me that he was fed up with the game. The relative should believe it or not, he didn't care anymore. Another very amusing and touching situation was the following: A young woman was trying to get in touch with her deceased father. It was a very nice and harmonious conversation, but I wanted to give her something very special from her father as she was suffering so much from this loss. After I asked for very special proof, the deceased showed me a picture of a kitchen cupboard and a jar that was in this cupboard. In this jar there were lots of different tea bags and I wanted to know what this picture was about. He explained to me that his daughter had the habit of transferring all the tea bags from almost empty packets into it. He would find it very impractical, as you could only get to the lower bags if you emptied everything. I described this scene to her, and she was completely beside herself. She said: "That was the most rewarding thing for me, because now I know that my father is really with me." Because she had only developed this habit after her father's death, and he could not possibly know about it. For the young woman, this statement was the most healing of the entire session, and I was happy that I could do her this service. When in contact with the spiritual world, you cannot avoid taking the step of trust at some point. I myself kept receiving evidence, but still could not believe that I had such a mediumistic gift. Then I realized that there was only one solution: either I would get involved on this level or not. The security that I desperately sought through the evidence was simply a lack of certainty and a lack of trust in myself and my feelings. When I finally understood that and was able to trust the spiritual level, I received a lot more evidence on completely different levels. But at that point it was no longer important to me. My motivation had changed and trust has been the basis for my connection to the spiritual world ever since. And I no longer strain this connection unnecessarily with phrases like "Prove it to me". Signs from the deceased Basically, all deceased people have the same opportunities to show themselves. Which of these they can best use depends on the development of their luminous senses. Basically, the following signs from the deceased are possible. They can... spread their personal scent make noises switch electrical devices on and off switch lights on and off make themselves physically tangible so that you feel that you are not alone in the room enable you to see their aura show themselves in dreams move objects In practice, however, not all deceased people have the same level of consciousness and therefore not all options for showing themselves are available to them to the same extent. The way they communicate depends on this. A few examples will help to understand this: If a deceased person did not have a strong sense of their body during their lifetime, they will have difficulty making themselves physically tangible for their relatives, because to do so they would first have to be able to activate this very quality in themselves. But since it is foreign to them, this option is not available to them. If the deceased was a person who had no connection to scents or smells, he cannot use this potential to make himself known to his relatives. Devices or light switches, on the other hand, can only be operated by those in the spiritual world who have a corresponding energy field. It must vibrate strongly so that the flow of electricity can be influenced. All of these examples show that souls have different possibilities and you cannot expect everything from everyone. It is important that the relative does not wait to be able to perceive the deceased with their physical senses. In very rare cases, one hears or sees with the physical senses, but one suddenly thinks one has heard that the deceased may have laughed. This perception takes place with the luminous senses. An important distinguishing feature of which senses one has just received is the following: If you were the only person in the room who perceived the corresponding signal, then the luminous senses were in use. If several people perceive the sound or smell, then it is the physical senses that have just been addressed and were in use. Many people get such signs, but quickly doubt their feelings and think it's more likely that they're a little crazy than to feel something that doesn't seem to be there. But it's easy to forget an important point: the body never lies, because it can't. This is evident, for example, in professional speakers who, despite taking many courses on body language, give themselves away again and again. The posture can only be controlled for a short time and quickly returns to the actual expression of the true, inner attitude. This means that if you physically feel that there is still something in the room, even though you are actually alone, then the body cannot artificially create this feeling through imagination. The body is an organ of expression that simply reacts to a variety of material and spiritual influences. However, you should be critical of all so-called "signs", because not every whistle comes from the spiritual world, but perhaps you just haven't screwed the thermos flask properly. You should retain a certain critical ability and not attribute every sound or smell to a deceased person. However, if you are in good touch with your own perception, you can feel the difference between whether a deceased person is involved or not. Before you, for example, label a flickering lamp as a sign from the afterlife, you should at least first check whether the bulb is properly seated in the socket. If everything is OK with the lamp, then you can assume that a deceased person was nearby. However, if you do not want the spiritual visitor near you because you are afraid, you have the right to vehemently send him away and banish him from the room. If you are decisive enough, it will work! Can animals perceive the deceased? In contrast to most people, animals have very well developed senses. Their luminous senses are also still well developed alongside their physical senses. It is therefore only natural that they can perceive the deceased without any problems. Dogs, for example, express this by suddenly looking into an apparently empty corner and barking, even though they were previously lying there or sleeping completely calmly and relaxed. Or they suddenly wag their tails happily while looking at a certain spot, as if they were greeting someone. Cats, on the other hand, are usually not so positive about spiritual visitors. They hiss or suddenly leave the place where they were previously sleeping peacefully. However, there are also cats that react happily to the deceased by suddenly starting to purr. The dream level. For many, this level is a good way to meet the deceased. This is not possible for all people, as not everyone remembers their dreams even though they have them. Most people do, however, and thus offer the spiritual world a wonderful opportunity to meet. The advantage over other forms of perception is that our minds have a break while we sleep and cannot get in the way of the inner images. This is why some souls from the afterlife use this platform to be with the bereaved, to show themselves or even to communicate. There are also dreams in which you process things, but there is a noticeable difference between the processing level and the encounter level when you wake up in the morning. If you have really met on a soul level, it will feel as if you had had a rendezvous in the morning. When you are processing dreams, you tend to feel powerless because you have actually worked. Very experienced people can ask the deceased or the spiritual helper a question before falling asleep and with a little luck they will even get an answer. For this method, however, you should use your own dream language. Even though many people receive this gift of an encounter in a dream, you should not expect it to always work. It is all the easier for the deceased to meet their relatives and show themselves, as there are no great expectations in the air. 5, Helpful exercises. It is well known that practice makes perfect, and mediumship should be no exception. In other professions, people also regularly continue their education, and this recommendation naturally also applies to sensitive perception. After all the theory, practice is all the more important, because it is only in this that you can see whether you can implement and use your newly acquired knowledge. Apart from the practice, the practical application is a lot of fun! All exercises can also be carried out with children without any problem. But be careful: frustration is inevitable, as most children will pull all the exercises out of their sleeves, quite unlike adults. If you feel up to this "defeat", then there is nothing wrong with practicing with children! You will not find any exercises in this book that show how to make contact with the deceased. The simple reason for this is that I want to prevent the misuse of these things. Experience has shown time and again that many people handle certain knowledge very irresponsibly. That is why I have decided against such exercises in this book. I hope that you can understand and relate to my decision. Sensory training The human senses provide the most important basis for mediumistic contact and spiritual perception. That is why they should be trained and sensitized so that they are ready for use when you need them. This exercise is designed to check how your own bright senses are actually developing. Exercise preparation: Sit down comfortably and have something ready to write with. Now concentrate on your imagination and you can check how difficult or easy it is for you to use your senses to recall knowledge you have already stored. 1. Clairvoyance. Now call up in your mind's eye the image of: a beach with palm trees. a golden yellow cornfield swaying in the wind. a beautifully decorated Christmas tree. a loved one. a campfire. a blue elephant. But really just the image, no appropriate sounds, smells or anything like that. Normally these images should appear very quickly in your mind's eye without much concentration. The faster a sense conveys an impression, the better it is developed. If it takes several minutes or doesn't work at all, then you know what you need to practice and sensitize. The first step you have just taken trains the sense of clairvoyance. In most people, this is well developed due to the constant visual overstimulation. Now follow the other bright senses in the same way. You can enter your results with the date in the lines below. If you repeat this exercise at some point, you can see what has improved in the meantime. Personal notes: 2. Clairaudience. Now remember the sound of: splashing water, a braking train, burning wood in the fireplace, pleasant music, a revving motorcycle. birds chirping in spring, But here too, the following is important: Please concentrate ONLY on the sound. It should be the case that these sounds resonate inside your ear, you don't actually hear them with your physical ear. If an image comes to mind, then concentrate again and repeat the exercise. Because if another sense joins in, they compensate for each other and the meaning of the exercise unfortunately becomes worthless. Personal notes: 3. Clarity of smell. Now remember the smell of: freshly brewed coffee. Christmas cookies. a freshly mown lawn. a cigar. Peppermint. a fragrant rose. It can be helpful to take a little air in through your nose to activate the clarity of smell. Otherwise, the sense of clarity of smell is one of those that is most likely to be atrophied, as we do not use it very consciously in everyday life, unless you work as a cook or in a perfumery, for example. Personal notes. 4. Light touch. Now imagine that you are: stroking your pet's fur, running your hands through warm water, letting sand trickle through your hands, stroking a lawn, touching a smooth wooden surface, holding the hand of your child or a loved one, This sense is also not very strong for most people, unless you use your hands often and consciously for professional reasons. Personal notes. 5. Light touch, complain, Remember the taste of: a lemon, chocolate, a peppermint candy, your favorite food, mineral water, a strawberry, Personal notes: Table 3 for entering the results (just tick the appropriate box): When training all of these senses, it is important to concentrate only on the particular sense you are currently practicing with. Of course, you can also use as many other images as you like to further sensitize yourself. In everyday life, you can train your senses at any time by consciously perceiving: What am I seeing right now? What am I hearing right now? What am I smelling right now? What am I touching right now? What does what I have in my mouth taste like? In this way, by activating the physical senses, the mental ones are also fed and supplied with information. This is beneficial when connecting with the spiritual world, because the sensory pool that the spiritual world can draw on is larger than before. You can also use any magazine to practice when you're at the doctor's or hairdresser's. Simply open it somewhere and activate a corresponding sense. For example: "What would the picture I just opened smell like?" You can see that there is never a lack of opportunities to practice. In summary, you could say: A sensual person is someone who consciously perceives and uses their senses to do so. This means they have a more intense experience than others, which of course also increases their quality of life. about fifty centimeters away from the object and focus it so that it is sharp. Then just wait and you will quickly see a white layer forming around the object or the person. It can also happen that you see colors. These are all layers of the aura that are visible to the naked eye. It is important that you do not focus on the object again out of sheer joy at seeing something, because then the effect is gone and you have to start again. For those who wear glasses, it is even easier: take off your glasses and look directly at the object, because you will not be able to draw it clearly anyway due to your poor eyesight. Personal notes: Another description for the look with which you see the aura is the famous "daydreamer's look." If you can create this at the push of a button, then you will quickly be able to see the aura of a person, animal or plant. It should also be said that this exercise can lead to headaches if you do it for too long, as it takes a lot of energy for the brain not to focus. Exercise 4: Feeling the aura. The aura can also be felt with your hands. Simply ask a friend to stand still and slowly move towards them with the palms of your hands. You shouldn't start too close to the body, as you may already be in the person's aura. Two meters away would be a good starting point. As you move towards the person, you will eventually feel a change in the palm of your hand. It can feel like: Resistance, cold air, tingling, pressure, hot hands, and much more. There is no right or wrong, no good or bad. Every aura has its own vibration and therefore feels different accordingly. Cold does not necessarily mean bad, it simply means cool. Personal notes: The image level, In order to work with inner images, something important should be clarified beforehand. There are people who receive predictions in the form of images. These correspond one-to-one to what will happen in the future in reality. Then you only need to describe and reproduce them. However, this is only the case for a few people and must be researched through constant observation and checking. Most people, however, see so-called "meaningful images". It is important to know how to translate and interpret these. A lot of information can then be extracted from these meaning images. For this you need a simple set of tarot cards. Those that are heavily illustrated are best. Exercise 1: Developing meaning images. Now concentrate mentally on a question that concerns you and on the word solution. Then draw a tarot card of your choice, turn it over and pay attention to which part of the image you notice first. You no longer need to think about the question. Now think about what this part of the image reminds you of personally. An event from your life or a feeling? Now formulate one or two key words for this personal memory and then recall your question. The key word provides the crucial clue to the solution to the problem that is troubling you. Don't despair if you initially cannot see the connection between your question and the key word. Practice and patience make perfect. Inner meaningful images are produced from what you have experienced so far. So you will only find the translation there. Ask yourself: "What do I personally associate with this image from my life?" And it is precisely this feeling or the insights that are linked to this image that are the solution or the answer to your question. Personal notes: Exercise 2: Partner exercise with meaningful images. Ask a partner to ask a question in their mind and concentrate on the solution that they have not yet found. Now connect emotionally with the person you are talking to and let a spontaneous image appear in your mind's eye. Now proceed with this image in the same way as in the exercise: formulate a key word from it. Talk to your partner about it and ask if they can do something with it. The exciting thing about it is that you don't have to know the question to answer it. Here too, practice is an essential part of success. The most difficult thing is not to concentrate on the question, but only on the inner image and what you personally associate with it. You need discipline to concentrate on the essentials. Psychometry as perception training. "Psychometry" is the term used to describe the energy of objects. Everything has an energy field and this is exactly what can be perceived through sensory impressions. Psychometric exercises are one of the greatest Sensitizing the body. The body is an important tool for making perceptions tangible. That's why you should improve and refine your own body awareness through exercises. Exercise 1: Color card test. Take at least four different color cards that you cut out of colored cardboard. Then take two of them first and hold them to your upper body one after the other. Give the color some time to unfold its effect on the body. If, for example, the red card makes your heart palpitations or you feel warm, remember that. Then hold the other color card to your upper body and wait to see what it triggers in your body. Then take both cards, close your eyes and shuffle them so that you don't know which card is in which hand. Then hold one of them to your upper body, but keep your eyes closed. Based on the physical feeling that arises, you should be able to recognize which color is on your upper body. After shuffling, you can also place the two cards on the palm of your hand with your eyes closed and see which color feels lighter and which heavier. There are many ways to practice with the color cards. Take different colors, put them on your knees, stand or sit on them to realize that each color has a different effect on the body - and you can feel it. Some people feel more in their hands and others when they stand on them, for example. Just try it out, because everyone is different. Personal notes: Exercise 2: The body as a decision-making aid. Another way to sensitize the body is to do note exercises. For example, if you have a decision to make and are torn, write each of your alternatives on a small piece of paper. Turn the pieces of paper over so that the writing is illegible and mix them up. Then put them on the floor and stand on the different pieces of paper one after the other. Wait a moment and see what feeling comes over you. Give each position a keyword and decide based on how you feel which piece of paper you felt most comfortable with. Only then turn the pieces of paper over and see what your body has answered. The results are always astonishing and show the true and unconscious attitude towards the issue that concerns you. Whether you then really decide on the matter in this way is of course your own responsibility. But it is worth thinking about the result at least once! Personal notes: Exercise 3: Seeing the aura. This exercise is useful for training your own ability to concentrate, and it is also interesting how easy it is to be able to see a person's aura with your own eyes. You can of course do this exercise with friends at home, but you can also do it in church, at lectures or with plants and animals. Whenever a person or animal stays in one place for a longer period of time, this technique can be practiced wonderfully. In order to be able to see the aura with your eyes, it is important that you do not "focus" on the object whose aura you want to see. Instead, look for a point that This is an area for media training. There are many books with exercises on this topic. Therefore, it is not necessary to expand on this area unnecessarily. Exercise 1: History of an object. Take a personal object belonging to a friend and hold it between your palms. Then concentrate on the question: "How did this object come to its owner?" Then wait and see what happens. Either you suddenly have a feeling about it or you get an image in your mind's eye. How does it feel? Like a gift, a sensible purchase, a gift to yourself...? Describe your perception to the other person and then ask them to tell you the actual story behind the object. Try it with objects belonging to several people. You will see that the results become more and more concrete. It is really interesting what you can sense. Personal notes: Exercise 2: Postcard motifs. Take three postcards with different motifs and put them in an envelope so that you do not know which postcard is in which envelope. Then shuffle the envelopes. Choose one and hold it between your palms. What feelings or images come to mind? Write down a few key words and only reveal the secret once you have felt all the envelopes. Then compare your notes with the images on the postcard. Such exercises are for personal training and checking, but on the other hand you learn a lot about how your perception works. Personal notes: The ego as a stumbling block. The ego, also known as the mind, switches on again and again when you are in the process of perceiving something. This is not malicious intent, but simply the result of years of training. If you perceive something and are not concentrating well enough, the mind simply fills in the missing points using experience. The easiest way to understand this is with the following example: You see an incomplete picture. The mind will now immediately complete and finish the picture. It will probably become a house. But many other pictures could now be made from it. Here are a few variations: Mountains, A diamond, A face with a pointed cap, try to mention the words football and chainsaw mentioned above anyway. If you have memorized them well beforehand, you will even incorporate these words without perhaps noticing it. The stories that sometimes emerge are sometimes stage-worthy. Those who speak a lot in front of other people for professional reasons usually have more difficulty with inspired speech than others. Don't give up at the first failure, but keep going. It's worth it! A few helpful opening sentences for inspired speech: When I came back from shopping the other day, When I got married for the first time, When I was still small, A friend recently told me, Personal notes: Exercise 2: Inspired painting. Inspired painting is like all inspirational actions: you need a starting point and then you can start. When painting, a good starting point would be choosing a color. Get your painting utensils ready and choose a color. Now start to fill the picture with this color and wait for the next impulse. Maybe you feel like you want to use a different color now. Don't think: "Oh dear, what will that look like afterwards," but just do this experiment. What happens when you paint without having any idea of what it will turn out to be? You can also be very daring and close your eyes. Let the result surprise you and don't make the mistake of judging it afterwards! Personal notes: All other forms of inspiration work in the same way. The hardest thing is to give up control. But what do you have to lose? So all you have to do is find a way in and off you go! Angels and spiritual helpers. You can learn to sense angels and spiritual helpers with almost all of the previous exercises. Nevertheless, there are a few that should be mentioned specifically because they can ensure a good connection to the heavenly companions. Exercise 1: Physical signal. Sit comfortably and close your eyes. Make sure that you are not disturbed. Ask your spiritual helper or angel to come very close to your aura. Your body will express this approach through a feeling. Simply notice what changes emotionally as soon as the helper or angel has come into your aura. All kinds of reactions can occur. From tingling in the head to pounding heart, a feeling of your hand being stroked to goosebumps, anything is possible. If it takes too long, repeat this exercise, because the body usually reacts very quickly to the energy field of the helper or angel, and waiting too long just leaves unnecessary time for guesswork. Your physical reaction should always be the same when you come into contact with him or her. If for some reason you feel fear or discomfort, then it is not your spiritual support that you are feeling, because that is never unpleasant. In that case, it is better to stop the exercise and repeat it another time. Personal notes: With this physical signal, you can now develop a yes/no communication between you and your spiritual helper. Agree that he or she will activate the physical signal if the answer to your question is YES. If the answer is NO, nothing happens. But make sure that you ask him or her a clear yes or a clear no question. The question must not be: "Should I do this or not?" Because then you will be confused. With this simple method, you can start to stabilize the emotional connection with your spiritual companion. Because every relationship needs to be nurtured and can only grow if you take time for each other. Exercise 2: I am your helper In this two-person exercise, you ask your counterpart to slip into the role of your spiritual helper or angel. After the partner has imagined that this energy field has been put over them like a second skin, all they need to do is describe how they feel and what characteristics they perceive in themselves. The partner can now describe the characteristics and strengths of the helper or angel to you by simply expressing his or her own feelings. You can also ask questions and, amazingly, the partner will be able to answer them. It is not uncommon for physically small people to suddenly feel huge during this exercise. End this exercise by removing the second skin from your partner. Thank each other for this experience. Personal notes: Exercise 3: Feeling angel energy. Write the name of an archangel of your choice on a piece of paper and hold it against your upper body. Let A star And these are just a few examples of how limited one's mind can be. The same phenomenon occurs in interpersonal relationships. You see a person and very quickly draw conclusions from previous experiences with similar people. You no longer perceive, but rather assume. Unfortunately, assumptions don't get you very far in media work, because then the contact is more like a cheerful guessing game. There are exercises that can clearly show this difference. Exercise: Assume or perceive. Ask a friend to sit opposite you. Now assume how he is feeling at the moment - based on what you know about him. The other person doesn't comment on this, and in the second step of the exercise you take him by the hand, close your eyes and feel what feeling you are experiencing. Then describe this emotional state to your partner and you will see that you are "more correct" with the second variant. The most difficult thing about all these emotional exercises is not the perception, but how you put these feelings into words correctly so that what you actually felt is expressed. But there is only one thing that helps here: don't despair, but practice, practice, practice! Personal notes: Inspiration. One area in which exercises are always a lot of fun is inspiration. You give up control over what you are practicing and let it happen. Many people know this from the so-called "inspired dance". There is no specific choreography, but you simply let the music or the sounds inspire you to move. There are many other forms of inspiration, such as: inspired speaking, inspired writing, inspired painting, inspired singing, The purpose of such exercises is to reduce the need for control, so that, for example, when in contact with the deceased, you don't have to think about what someone might mean, but pass on what they say unfiltered. Here are two example exercises: Exercise 1: Inspired speaking This exercise can be done alone or in a group. However, it is much more fun in a group or with children than alone. Stand in front of the group and ask them to say two words that seem to have nothing to do with each other, such as football and chainsaw. Then start immediately with an introductory sentence like: "Yesterday I went through the forest and..." Let the words flow and Simply let this energy work on you and mentally formulate a sentence like: "That feels like...". This way you know which area this angel is addressing in you. But one thing should be said: angel energies are not always beautiful, but they are healing every time they work. It is possible that old pain will come up. Then it is important that you do NOT stop the exercise, but give the angel the chance to successfully finish its work with you. Stay in this connection until you feel better again and maybe even have cried it all out. Healing has many faces. This should be taken into account when working with angels and their energy. Boundary exercises. Here you will find some exercises that will help you develop a healthy boundary. A boundary is essential for working with the spiritual world, because it provides a "vessel" for all perceptions. Exercise 1: Felt yes/no This exercise is important to learn what a felt yes and a felt no are. Because only a yes or no that is felt is authentic and is taken seriously and registered by others (including the deceased). You can do this exercise with a partner or alone in front of the mirror. Stand in front of each other and agree who starts. Then the first of you begins to say different variations and accentuations of YES. Try out the different ways you can say YES. Which is the YES you use most often, which is the one you least like, etc. Your partner just listens and gives you brief feedback on the various statements. How did this or that YES affect them: annoyed, authentic, questioning...? In this way, you get feedback that you will not get in everyday life. Then try to say a YES that you can feel with your whole body. It is helpful if you imagine a situation from your life that you can answer with an unconditional YES. Close your eyes briefly and remember the situation and the feelings associated with it. When you feel it properly, open your eyes and say YES with the energy you feel. Your partner will then give you feedback on whether the last YES had a different effect on him than the previous ones. Now do the same thing again with the word NO. First, all possible variations of the emphasis on this word and finally a felt NO. Here, too, it is advisable to imagine a situation that you can clearly answer with NO. When each of you has completed both runs, exchange ideas about what was easier for you: the YES, the NO, both or perhaps neither. Personal notes: It is important that you feel what you are saying. Because that is the only way you will really be taken seriously. And if your NO was not accepted as a child, then it is all the more important to strengthen and practice it now. If you do not have a partner to practice with, then you can of course do this process alone in front of the mirror. You can also experience what a deep YES and an authentic NO feel like on your own. However, it is more fun and more sustainable with a friend. You can just as easily find out from your dog or child whether your NO has a different effect on others after the exercise. If your dog or child did not really notice your NO before, it is quite possible that this will change after repeated practice. This example may make it clearer to you what this exercise is for. But it also means that in future you should ask yourself whether you want something or not before you answer or give orders. Pay attention to whether you stand behind your answer or not. Because if you say YES or NO just because you think you have to do it now, then everyone will notice that it is half-hearted. Exercise 2: Your emotional limit. This exercise helps you to get a feel for your emotional limit. Only when you feel your limits can you draw attention to them or sense when you are crossing other people's limits. To know when something is going too far for you, you need to know where your limit is and how it feels. For this exercise you need a rope that is about five meters long. Lay the rope out on the floor in a circle and stand in the closed circle (variant 1). Close your eyes and describe in your mind how you feel there. Are you calm and at peace with yourself or do you feel excluded and isolated? Is the whole circle too big or even too small for you? Is it a familiar feeling to have a stable, healthy boundary around you or is it a completely new feeling? Now open both rope ends (variant 2) and place them far apart so that the circle is visibly open. Stand in it again and notice the difference to variant 1. Do you feel comfortable or rather unprotected and at the mercy of others? Try to describe this state. How do the two variants differ? Now stand next to your circle (variant 3). How does that feel and is there a difference in feeling compared to the previous exercises? Which variant is most familiar to you, what do you feel most comfortable with? Make a brief note of these results, because then you can concentrate fully on the solution. Personal notes: In this exercise, the rope is the symbol for your invisible but tangible boundary. It sounds the alarm when a person, animal or deceased person tramples around in your spiritual front yard - e.g. with palpitations, butterflies in your stomach, pressure in your head, etc. The prerequisite for these signals, however, is that a boundary exists at all and the circle should be closed. This does not mean that you are a closed person, but you perceive what passes through this permeable boundary and decide whether you want to let it in or leave it out. If you feel comfortable with option 1, then you can usually say NO and perceive your own needs. You still sense other beings well, but do not take on false responsibility for others. If you feel comfortable with option 2, then you are most likely doing quite well as long as you are alone. But in contact with others, you very quickly forget your own needs and make the needs of others your own. This is exhausting in the long run and leads to difficulties, as it can be quite absorbing. Or you allow yourself to be absorbed quickly. It would be important to close the boundary. If you favor option 3, then you are most likely afraid of arguments and have a tendency to flee. If a matter becomes difficult, you distance yourself emotionally from yourself and your point of view. In this case, represent your point of view more consciously or decisively, and simply endure conflicts or tensions. Exercise 3: Partner exercise saying no This partner exercise follows on from exercise 1. It strengthens your ability to say NO and helps to anchor and consolidate this new belief again. Lay your rope on the floor in a circle. Open it at the front and your partner now marches through the opening of the circle into your mental front yard. Try to say NO, stop him from doing it or push him out of the circle. Is that possible or are you completely unable to act? Then close the circle again and ask your partner to march over your boundary again. Is it easier or harder for him now? Say NO again and push the person in front of your boundary. What does that trigger in you? Feelings of guilt, freedom, strength? Is it easy or difficult for you to push the person in front of your circle? This is really a good opportunity to practice saying NO. Then swap roles. Personal notes: Death as a natural part of life. Unfortunately, death and dying are still topics that people don't like to talk about. There are many question marks and errors, and that doesn't exactly help people to deal with the farewell to earthly life more confidently. There is still a lot of uncertainty. It is important to create understanding so that people can overcome and let go of the fear of this natural part of life. Grief as an important part of life. Sadness is one of many feelings that are part of human existence. If you watch how children deal with feelings, you quickly see the difference to most adults. Every emotion is part of a child's everyday life and immediately takes on visible features as soon as the feeling arises in the child. Once it has been sufficiently expressed, the child can then turn to something else and concentrate fully on it. Children do not differentiate between feelings. For them, there are no "good" or "bad" emotions, just what they are feeling at the time. However, this always assumes that the parents do not suppress this natural process through their behavior towards the child! The great advantage of this spontaneous way of life is that nothing can build up and children are therefore always free to do what they are doing. They can therefore concentrate and get involved in it accordingly. All feelings are states that make people alive and should serve as a compass for life. But this assumes that you do not suppress certain feelings because they could be unpleasant. The most painful thing of grief is when you suppress and repress it. Because then it looks for another way to express itself. This is usually much more unpleasant than it would be if you had faced this feeling directly when it arose. In order to be able to perceive life in all its facets and to make full use of it, we need feelings. After all, there is an important potential behind every feeling. However, if you suppress a certain emotion because it is unpleasant, then the corresponding potential is not available to you in a helpful way. All of this potential wants to find expression. If you do not allow this - like children do - in a direct and constructive way, then these repressed issues look for another way to enter consciousness. This can be in the form of physical or mental illnesses, for example; the personal environment can express it through its behavior, or unpleasant emotional states become entrenched and become a daily reality. Grief is one of the feelings that we try to avoid as an adult. We do not want to appear weak and would prefer not to be asked about it. Why is that actually the case? It would be much easier to express your feelings and the chance that you would then be comforted would be very high. But that is exactly where the next problem lies: many people no longer know the simplest way of providing help - namely comforting someone, giving them a hug and holding them for a while until they feel better. It doesn't matter whether you know the person or not. On the one hand, it is the shyness to approach someone and offer them this help unobtrusively. It can of course happen that the other person declines with thanks and you are confronted with the feeling of rejection. On the other hand, many people shy away from accepting the help that is offered or even asking for it. Most people have learned to fight their way through on their own. Unfortunately, the structure of a true community is no longer often found. Yet it is precisely this social network that could catch people. If you had the courage to express your own grief or sadness in the moment you feel it, it would not be able to control you so much. You would then be able to concentrate on yourself and your own life again. Grief does not have to be a permanent state, but rather a feeling that is felt in phases - sometimes more, sometimes less. Then there would even be room for joy. Joy and grief can exist side by side, just like anger and balance. The problem that many people are not aware of is this: the things and feelings that you try to avoid vehemently, you attract all the more. This means that despite all avoidance strategies, people will encounter all kinds of feelings anyway, because it is simply part of being human and of your own development. Without the feeling of grief, people would not appreciate what they have. Everything would be taken for granted, and there would be no gratitude. Conversely, allowing grief increases the ability to feel joy. A person who can feel sadness and accepts it as a part of life is able to feel joy and peace much more intensely than those who try to avoid it. True joy in life can only fully develop if one accepts and acknowledges sadness as a part of life. Feelings should not be divided into good and bad, but viewed and accepted as a whole. Then even seemingly unpleasant feelings lose their terror. The fear of death. Actually, the fear of death is more the fear of dying. Death and dying are viewed as one, which is wrong and does not allow one to overcome this fear. Death and dying are two different things that take place on different levels. Dying is the physical process that takes place until the body and soul have separated from each other. This is usually also the moment when the heart stops beating. Death is spoken of as soon as the soul is separated from the body and is in the spiritual plane. Death is therefore the existence of the soul after the physical dying process. If you explain it that way, most people are not afraid of death at all, but rather of the seemingly uncertain process of dying. Thoughts like: "Will I be in pain, will I be filled with fear...?" appear as soon as you confront it. Experience shows time and again that those who are at peace with themselves and have accepted death as a part of life do not have to suffer a terrible dying process. D The reason for this is very simple: these people do not resist this natural part of our existence and therefore do not experience great pain, even though they may even be very ill. Every inner form of resistance to something natural causes suffering or pain. This is already apparent in life and not only in the process of dying. This means that people can influence the quality of their death while they are still alive. If you make sure that you are at peace with the most important things and at least consider it possible that the soul will continue after physical death, then you do not need to be afraid of dying. On the other hand, if you feel guilty about something or if there are important, unfinished things, then dying is more difficult. However, there are also people who are afraid of death, or rather, afraid of what awaits their soul when the physical dying process is complete. This depends on the type of faith to which these people belong. Religious communities and cultures each create very different images of the soul's existence after physical death. There are those who take away the fear and actually portray death as a natural part of existence, and there are others who paint a very gloomy and uncertain picture. Ultimately, everyone has to find what makes sense for themselves. But when thinking about death and dying, one should not forget to look at nature and include it. It is the habitat in which one was created, and thus one is part of it. Why should the soul follow different principles than the habitat that surrounds us? The dying process and good support. In order to explain what meaningful support for the dying looks like, something must first be explained about the dying process and the corresponding dying phases. When exactly the dying process begins for a person varies greatly. This development can take several years, but sometimes it can also take place within hours or days. This depends on the state of consciousness of the person who is dying. There are people who have already made the most important learning processes in life and have repeatedly reflected on them self-critically. For those who have put off the necessary steps of consciousness and have repeatedly postponed important personal decisions until tomorrow, the dying process will be quicker than for those who have put off the necessary steps of consciousness and have repeatedly postponed important personal decisions until tomorrow. They will then have to deal with this in the dying process, and this state will last accordingly longer. This has nothing to do with punishment, but rather with knowledge that should be brought to consciousness so that one can continue to grow and make peace with oneself. The dying phases. The phases described below (also known from psychology) are not just limited to physical dying. Strictly speaking, one goes through these phases again and again in a variety of life situations. For example, in times of grief or when one has to say goodbye to something. After a long-term relationship as well as after losing a job that one did with joy. These so-called "dying phases" can also be referred to as detachment phases. One could actually avoid these phases by directly accepting a suddenly seemingly incomprehensible situation. This in turn requires complete trust in life and the knowledge that everything in life ultimately happens for your own good, even if it doesn't seem that way at first. Being able to see and accept life like this is a long process and not yet feasible for most people. You can't construct this attitude because you think it makes sense. It is only possible through deep faith and unshakable trust. Ultimately, extreme situations show whether you really think that way or not, because then at the latest your true attitude to life comes to light. So here are the dying or detachment phases: 1. Phase of denial. "No, not me" is a classic phrase for people who are in this phase. When they talk about their illness or their current situation, it is as if they were talking about a third person. It is an avoidance of dealing with the new, difficult situation. 2. Phase of rebellion and aggression. "Why me?" is a typical phrase that expresses anger about the personal situation. People who find themselves in this situation are angry and are at odds with God and the world. It is not easy for relatives to cope with people in this phase, because everything they do for the sick person is not seen or disregarded during this time. The patient only feels his anger and at the same time feels as a victim. 3rd phase of negotiation. "It does affect me, but..." are classic negotiation strategies to find a way out of the personal tragedy. The affected person makes passionate plans for the future, but massively overestimates his physical and mental capabilities. These are often acts of desperation, which is also clearly noticeable for relatives. 4th phase of depression. "I am powerless and don't know what to do..." are feelings that people express in this phase in a variety of ways. They direct all their life energy against themselves instead of using it constructively to improve their condition. They are solely the victim, which makes it very difficult for relatives to deal with them, because the path to resignation is not far away. 5th phase of acceptance. If the affected person has reached this phase, this is what makes it possible to move forward. The personal situation is now accepted, and everything important has been said. You can now live in the present and have made peace with your soul. Now everything is possible. Most of the time you go through these stages chronologically, but it can also happen that you barely notice one of them or that you keep jumping back and forth between two. The key thing is that you should reach acceptance at some point, otherwise you can't move on. You remain in this process until the last healing step has been taken. So it can happen that you spend more time on one phase than the other. It simply depends on the situation you are dealing with and how existential it is for the person concerned. 6. The dying process from the soul's perspective, The soul's perspective is also very important for a comprehensive and complete picture of dying and death. The soul knows the entire life plan and thus has a strong influence on the actual decisions. You can imagine this soul plan as a contract that states what you have planned for this life. People often don't consciously remember it, but instead accidentally find themselves in situations in which they can learn exactly what they had planned. That is why the soul must give its consent for a person's physical death to occur. If the soul is not yet ready, the person will not die, even though relatives have already expected it. Conversely, this can also lead to surprising situations in which people die suddenly, even though this should not actually happen from a medical point of view. The final decision is therefore made by each soul itself, and there are even people who still have this access and therefore sense beforehand that they will soon die. Strictly speaking, the dying process can be imagined like birth, only in reverse. Both processes require a lot of energy, which is why women giving birth, just like those dying, should be given a protected framework for this path. A material body is created after it has placed itself inside the soul. It is born from the mother at some point. When dying, the body goes through this process backwards, until it stops, and is then excreted or "born" by the soul. The soul is therefore what remains, and after a life with a body it rejoins the spiritual world. When exactly do the body and soul separate from each other? This separation often takes place at the moment when the heart stops beating. However, there are also souls, after serious accidents for example, that have already separated from the body even though the heart is still beating. This may be because they see the state of their body and because they definitely do not want to return to it under these circumstances because it is too badly damaged. But there are also others who take time to say goodbye to their body and their life. They are still connected to the body even though the heart has stopped beating. This may also be because they have not yet realized that they have died due to a very sudden death. But it usually does not take long for this realization to occur because they are picked up and accompanied by other people who have already died. So at the latest when the soul notices someone who has already died, it begins to understand and remember what happened. Some people already perceive deceased people in the room while they are still dying. This is not a wild fantasy, but important support from the spiritual world for those who will probably soon begin their journey. You can wish for someone to pick you up when the time comes, and you can of course ask several people to do this service. Whether they come is of course up to you. Of course, it's up to them. But one thing is certain: you won't be alone in the separation process! If there are no relatives in the afterlife who could pick you up, you will be accompanied by your spiritual helper in any case. This is mostly the case with children who die, as the families are usually still alive. But children enjoy divine presence in the form of angels at this moment anyway. For them, only the best accompaniment is good enough! Good and helpful accompaniment for the dying. You should only accompany the dying and sick if you yourself are not afraid of it. Unfortunately, this is not the case for many people who deal with it every day. That's why there is so little help when a relative is dying or you have just lost someone. It is all the more important that you as a relative know roughly what is important in such a situation and what you can do yourself. Many people believe that they are powerless and that there is nothing they can do. But there are many more options than you think. An important step when a person has received a serious diagnosis and death is no longer medically ruled out is the following: You should talk to the person concerned about their fears. You can ask: "Are you now thinking about dying or death?" Many people shy away from this in such a situation, although after a bad diagnosis the sick person hardly thinks about anything other than dying. But they also don't dare to voice their fears because they don't want to worry the person concerned. In fact, you spare each other, even though everyone's thoughts revolve around the same thing. And when the person concerned has died, you blame yourself for not saying anything. It doesn't matter whether the person ultimately dies of the illness or not. Talking about fears and death is just as important for an uncomplicated dying process as it is for a possible recovery. Because negative thoughts quickly take on a life of their own and are just as detrimental to healing as they are to a peaceful dying process. It is therefore important to have conversations about death and dying, especially in such situations, as they bring relief to all parties. However, if you sense that the sick person does not want to have any conversations of this kind and vehemently rejects them, you should definitely respect this and be there for the dying person in other ways. This quickly shows that the needs of the sick person are important and clearly show in what way and with what support they need. If it is clear that it is only a matter of time before someone dies and the person concerned is aware of this, then you should at least briefly address whether they have any special wishes, for example regarding their funeral. This may sound macabre, but if you don't do this, doubts will remain after the person has died as to whether you have arranged everything according to their wishes. This can also be very troubling. The person concerned, who knows that they are dying, has already thought about it anyway, but simply does not say so out of consideration. Another, but very important, point is whether a person wants life-prolonging measures or not. Often, despite advance directives, relatives are the best way of knowing whether the dying person's wishes will be respected or not. Relatives usually wait to ask such questions until the patient is no longer conscious. Then they don't know what would have been important to the other person and what they should do. All these doubts and questions that have not been clarified beforehand do not exactly help to deal with one's own grief in this situation. On the contrary, one racks one's brains, sometimes even blames oneself and misses out on one's own, important grief management. So there is a lot to be said for good and conscious support for dying people, as the whole situation, which is difficult enough for everyone involved anyway, is relieved in this way. There are a few other very helpful services that one can provide. Even if someone is unconscious or in a coma, one should speak to them as if they were conscious. Because contrary to what is often assumed, these patients notice a lot. Their physical consciousness may be switched off, but not their mental consciousness. In this stage, they perceive with their luminous senses, and some even remember specific situations later when they wake up. People can die at any time, whether they are ill or not. That is why it is important to accept death as a part of life and to live each day consciously. Declarations of love, apologies, thanking others, etc. should always be done when you feel like it and not postpone until tomorrow. Because you don't know what tomorrow will bring. That's what it means to live in the present, and you don't say to yourself afterwards: "Oh, if only I had..." If you notice that there are many things that have not been said and the person you are talking about is already dying, you should tell them everything that hasn't been said for a long time. Things like: "I think what's particularly great about you is...", but also: "What annoyed me..." should be expressed without being reproachful. You could also say what you are particularly grateful for. In very rare cases everything is said, even if it is just the famous three words... Some people who are dying also find it helpful to know that they are being let go. Relatives should therefore primarily represent the interests of the dying person as soon as they are no longer able to do so. A protected environment is important, but that doesn't mean that you have to sit by the bed all the time. Many relatives do this to make sure that they are there when the other person goes. So much pressure is not necessary, because dying people can shape the moment of departure as they need and want it. If they want to die alone, they simply wait until their relative leaves the room for a few minutes. Conversely, they also wait until a loved one is there and hold out until they arrive. As soon as the desired person has arrived, the heart often stops beating. Why does a person still die even though they say: "I want to live"? When you talk to dying people, the sentence "I want to get well again" is often heard. This makes it all the more incomprehensible for the relatives when this person then dies anyway. This statement has its origins in the sense of duty that the dying people feel for those left behind. Their sense of duty makes them say these words at this moment. They do not want to admit their true state and do not want to hurt their relatives. Dying people sometimes simply do not dare to say what they really think and how they really feel. The best way to find out how a person really feels about their recovery process is to perceive it emotionally. But no matter what they say, you should just be there and accompany them during this difficult time. End-of-life care is not there to satisfy your own helper syndrome. It is a service to people, regardless of whether they are family or a stranger. You should only give what is needed and be there as a discreet companion. No more, but also no less. Children and death. To get a complete picture of this topic, you have to look at it from two perspectives. One side is how children themselves view death and dying. The other side is the far more difficult topic - when a child dies... It is very important to explain a few things about it so that this seemingly unbearable topic can be less serious. How do children view death and dying? In contrast to adults, children still have a very natural relationship to death. If you allow them to perceive this and it is not disturbed by the parents' excessive fear, death is a natural part of the life process for children. When children experience the death of a person or an animal, they express their grief and then quickly go back to their daily routine. The prerequisite for this is, of course, that they do not associate death with a shocking experience of their own, such as the death of a parent that they had to witness. That is why it is easy to talk to children up to the age of six about dying and the cycle of life. You can explain the word "death" to small children if they ask about it. Because children have a natural image of life after death, there is no reason for them, unlike adults, to be afraid of it. If they are afraid of something, it is at most pain or making their parents sad. Many parents are frightened when their children use words like "dying" and "death" because they are afraid for their children. But it is important to understand that it is very important for the little ones to deal with this topic, just like with other areas. For them, it is just as important as friendship or questions about why people have belly buttons. You should be aware that the way parents deal with death and dying affects the children's beliefs. It would therefore be sensible to convey as neutral a picture as possible and to answer questions that naturally arise on this topic as best as possible. If you react to these questions with irritation or fear, it will unsettle the children and they will no longer be able to deal with the topic without fear. Adults can learn a lot from children in this way. At around four years of age, dying and death are naturally very present for little ones, and they can already understand that this is another dimension of existence. Because their bright, physical senses are still intact, children have a different perception than most adults, and this naturally benefits them when dealing with death. When children die. Most people have the idea that there is a natural sequence to death. First the grandparents, then the parents and then the children are next. However, this rule does not exist in nature. It is a human wish so that they do not have to deal with the fear of loss. Death is still a difficult subject for many, but the fact that old people die at some point is now normal in most people's minds. They have lived their lives and may have been ill. Under these conditions, death can be more or less accepted. When children die, however, you ask yourself: "Why?" They still had everything ahead of them... That is the common way of thinking, and that is precisely where the problem lies. People say that a life has been lived meaningfully if it has a certain number of years. From a spiritual and mental point of view, however, a life plan is fulfilled when the person has fulfilled the tasks they set out to do in this life. This has nothing to do with the number of years, but with how intensively and consciously a person has lived and whether they had many items on their life list. There are children who have learned more from their short lives and achieved more than people who live to be over eighty years old. The length of a life says nothing about its quality. So you can only understand the death of children if you say goodbye to the prevailing time thinking (time = quality of life) and only think in terms of quality of life. Sometimes less is more. Apart from that, the current life is not the first and the last, and so the soul experiences different qualities of life - of different durations. Losing a child is one of the greatest challenges that people can experience. It shakes up your entire worldview, and it is not uncommon for your own beliefs to be radically questioned. That is why it is all the more important to have the right support when you are faced with this profound experience. Losing a child has a different dimension for most people than if an older person were to pass away. The first thing that has to be dealt with is the deep shock of this personal tragedy. Many of those affected remain in this state of shock for several years because they are left to deal with the situation alone. Many doctors and medical staff are even more overwhelmed by the death of a child than they already are with the death. In most cases, unfortunately, there is no end- of-life or bereavement support, and so parents and relatives are left to fend for themselves. Even if a sudden accident is the cause of death, the police rarely provide the necessary support to deal with this shock. That would probably be asking a bit too much. That is why there are associations for "bereaved parents", institutions such as pro familia or other private organizations that offer their help to those affected in this situation in a variety of ways. But even there, there is a limit to how much help can be given. In order to really accept and accept the death of the child at some point, you need a deep belief that life goes on after death and a different perspective on death. If you know that life goes on after death, you also know that the child's soul is still alive and that it is not completely lost to you. Of course, it is a farewell, because the physical connection to the child no longer exists, but the soul of the loved one can still be close to the relatives. Strictly speaking, it is a temporary farewell, because at the latest when you yourself die, you meet again on a soul level. Now there are parents who suffer so much from the loss of the child that they do everything they can to enter the spiritual world themselves as quickly as possible. But this calculation does not work because, on the one hand, they forget their own tasks for which they came into this world and, on the other hand, they would hurt many others who still urgently need them - if, for example, there are other siblings or grandchildren. In addition, by committing suicide, one places oneself in a different place on the spiritual plane than the soul of the deceased child. This means that the soul The desire to meet the child again is not fulfilled. The death of children shows how authentic the inner strength really is and the quality of the relationship between the parents. Over sixty percent of couples who have lost children separate after a foreseeable period of time. It shows how close you really are or whether there was already something wrong before the tragedy. Other relationships gain strength, the spouses grow closer and give each other support and stability. When counseling someone in grief, the sentence is often heard: "You finally have to let go of your child." Unfortunately, this statement achieves the opposite, because for many people the word "let go" means something like forgetting, erasing. This idea is sheer horror for relatives who have lost a loved one. The basic idea is not wrong, but you should express yourself differently so that this serious misunderstanding does not arise. It would be much more important for all those who are grieving to eventually reach a state of acceptance, which does not mean forgetting or approving of what happened. You should simply accept at some point that the soul of the deceased gave its consent at that time of death. It is as if the loved one or the beloved child decided that they wanted to find happiness far away from their loved ones abroad. If you love someone, you inevitably have to let them go, even if it hurts. But love wants to see the other person happy and therefore has to accept decisions that change your own life. The death of a child is hardest for those who made their children the only purpose in life. If you have other things in life besides children, these are precisely what give you support in such a difficult phase. If you don't have them, you fall into the abyss because the only purpose in life that you had up to now is now gone. Then it is important to ask yourself what other things there could be that are worth living for. If affected parents and relatives are certain that the child's soul still exists and even receive proof of this from a reputable medium, this is a very good basis for coping with the farewell to the child. It remains a possibility to have a connection with each other, and this helps immensely in being able to concentrate on one's own life again. It is as if the child is far away abroad and you at least talk on the phone now and then to find out how the other is doing. This certainty helps to understand and process the difficult fact of loss. Losing a child is not a punishment, as many believe, but a huge challenge for everyone involved, which has to do with unconditional love and personal growth. From the children's point of view, their own death is actually nothing to be afraid of. However, there are circumstances that frighten the child and make them feel insecure. Most children who are seriously ill feel guilty towards their parents and other family members. They feel guilty and responsible for causing others so much grief and work. They are afraid that they will make their parents even more unhappy if they die. Sometimes they take on the parents' fear and believe it is their own. A child up to the age of six is not afraid of what happens after death, but only of the circumstances and of what their death will do to their parents. If parents have the courage to talk to their child about their own and their own fears, they will be amazed at what the little ones think about death. It is not uncommon for children to help their parents with their statements rather than the other way around. It is also helpful for dying children if relatives bring guardian angels into play, because children do not find this idea as absurd as most adults. It is therefore very important to make it clear to children that they do not need to feel guilty, but that their parents are aware that they are not so ill on purpose. Every grieving process has its own time and quality, and that is why there is no rule as to when you should be finished grieving. It is simply the case that some days you are sad and other days you can be very happy. All facets are part of life, even when you have to master the difficult challenge of having lost a child. I have already been able to accompany many parents and children in this difficult task, and one thing always strikes me. The parents and relatives need much more support during this time than the children. Do parents use spiritual contact with the deceased after their death? If you have children, they have a very good chance of being able to lead a more or less normal life again. If these people lack this perspective, everything remains dark and sad, and it is incredibly difficult for them to continue to manage their own lives. They have no hope anymore, and that is probably the worst thing a person can feel: hopelessness. I try to give this hope through my work and am happy every time I see parents of deceased children laughing heartily. Because that is what is good for the children's souls in the spiritual world and brightens them up. Phenomena in the dying Certain situations keep occurring that people report when a relative has died. The most important ones should be mentioned so that knowledge of these phenomena reduces fear and uncertainty. It is very irritating when a normal person suddenly has spiritual apparitions or other perceptions. The first thought that comes to mind is: "I'm probably going crazy now!" You're embarrassed to tell others because you're afraid of being seen as crazy. So you prefer to deal with it on your own and try to find a way to classify these experiences. The majority of people experience such phenomena, but because hardly anyone talks about it, everyone thinks they're the only one with such experiences. The most common phenomena that can be observed around death are the following: People suddenly tidy up important things and meticulously sort documents, provided they are still physically able to do so. Relatives see the person who announces their imminent death and says goodbye in their dreams. Relatives see the deceased as a white figure standing in front of their bed. Dying people report that people who have already died and who were once close to them have appeared to them. Pets change their usual behavior in a noticeable way. The doorbell rings even though there is no one at the door. Clocks stop exactly at the time of death. There are of course other means and ways in which dying people can make it clear that they are about to start their journey or that they can say goodbye, but that would take us too far. It is important to know that there are many such phenomena and that they occur more frequently than most people believe. Even when people have died, they can make themselves known in a variety of ways (as already described). If this spiritual form of contact scares you, you should tell the dying or deceased person to hold back because their behavior triggers fear in you. Since the deceased have no evil intentions and usually just want to let the relatives know that they are OK, it is enough to formulate your request mentally. Otherwise, these experiences serve to ensure that the soul lives on and that there can still be a connection between the bereaved and the relatives. This has nothing to do with being crazy, but simply with natural perception. You are only schizophrenic or something similar when you can no longer distinguish between the reality in the afterlife and the reality in this world. You should not give too much importance to the phenomena from the spiritual level, however. They are a part of our existence, just as material, logical life is. A healthy measure is appropriate. Near-death experiences Opinions are still divided on the existence of these experiences. Medicine says that these experiences arise from nerve cells that go crazy and therefore produce certain images. What is strange, however, is that people who have had near-death experiences can describe being in certain rooms or having conversations that occurred during the period of their unconsciousness. It is also noticeable that people from a wide variety of cultures find very similar descriptions for this state and that identical experiences even occur across cultures. The most common images and experiences reported when the soul leaves the body are: The affected people describe a tunnel through which they move towards a bright light. The affected people see their body lying on the bed and floating as if under the ceiling. From there they see and hear all the details or conversations that take place during this time and they can later, when they are conscious again, recount them in great detail. They find themselves in bright light, where they meet people who have already died, who often send them back to life. They see their life pass before their eyes and understand what has gone wrong so far and what they absolutely have to change and do. It is not uncommon for people who have had near-death experiences to experiences change a lot in their personality after they awaken. It is not just nerve cells that are going crazy, but existential experiences that leave their mark on people. Ultimately, these people have made a decision and come back to life to do something. Sometimes it also makes sense for them to tell other people about their experiences in order to make the existence of the spiritual plane more widely known and thus take away people's fear of death. In any case, this phenomenon shows that there are more things between heaven and earth than some people can perceive, and that each soul decides for itself when it comes and when it leaves. 7, Personal experiences, Touching encounters. In this chapter, I would like to give you an insight into the experiences that I have had so far as a medium during my work. I have been able to accompany and support many people and I would like to share with you some moments that were very touching for me. Whenever I think back to these situations, I feel the comfort that continues to come from them for me. All encounters are very special in their own way, but of course there are some that have had a longer lasting effect on me than others. One situation that still touches me deeply today was a session with a family that had lost their little boy. They already had another child, but they had not come to terms with the death of this little person. So we began the session and I told him how I perceived the little boy. I described the boy's typical behavior. The parents "recognized" their son, but the conversation was mostly between me and the father. The mother was quite quiet and passive the whole time. It was the father who asked the questions. The son did his best to prove to the parents that his soul, with all the knowledge he had of his earthly life, still existed. He told me about his grave, his peculiarities, and what was currently going on at home with his parents and grandparents. He wanted to show that he visited her often. At some point the session finally came to an end and we stood up to say goodbye. I had a strong urge to hug the mother goodbye. She was practically waiting for my offer and when I held her tightly in my arms she suddenly burst out and I had to catch her. Her knees went weak and all her inner walls collapsed. She let me hold her and cried uncontrollably. I was happy and relieved that she allowed it, because I knew that she would have to let her feelings run free at some point in order to one day overcome her grief. It was a situation without words and I was apparently the first person since the death of her child that she could impose the full extent of her pain on. I am still in contact with these lovely people today and I now know that holding on gave the woman more than words ever could have. In moments like these, I am glad that my personal faith and knowledge give me so much strength, because it means I can be there for people when they need it. One of the things I particularly like about my job is its diversity. There are so many reasons why people come to me that I can't imagine it ever getting boring. The sessions and the solutions that develop there are as varied and exciting as the people. For example, it is more common for women to come to me who are pregnant and want information about their unborn child. This is a very nice aspect of my work, because it helps women to strengthen their relationship with the child while it is still in the womb and to deal with any fears before the birth. I experienced an unusual situation when a couple came to me. The woman was about six months pregnant. When I asked her how I could help her, she told me that she had found out that her baby had a heart defect and that she was now having to make serious medical decisions a few months before the birth, namely to sign a document stating what should happen to the child immediately after birth. The difficult thing about the situation was that the family did not feel that the doctors' plans were good for the baby. They felt pressured and unsettled because they had been told that the child had to be delivered by Caesarean section because it was too weak to be born. The mother, however, felt differently about her child and wanted to speak to the child's soul through me. For me personally, it is the same whether I am with a a soul whose body is not yet in the world, or one that has already left its body. A soul is a soul. I could feel the child's personality very clearly and noticed such strength and serenity in it that it impressed me greatly. My perception coincided with the mother's feelings about her child, and so the unborn child had its say in this way. The child's parents both took the view that they wanted to give the child the chance to come into the world naturally and without a Caesarean section. They felt that their child was strong enough, and the unborn child confirmed exactly that. The most important thing was to support the parents in the decision they had already made, because they had already played through countless times in their minds which scenario would make them more guilty later: either bring the child into the world on a certain date and have it operated on immediately - with a chance of survival of around fifty percent - or let the child decide when it wanted to be born, welcome it first and then have it operated on. Whichever option was chosen, it was not even possible to predict whether the heart defect would heal to a large extent and thus no longer be so life-threatening. It was really a difficult situation, but the parents ultimately agreed to welcome the child calmly first and trust their instincts. We played through which scenario would make them think: "If only we had..." and it quickly became clear that they did not want to make any hasty decisions. So they waited for the next few months, and the heart defect did indeed become less serious. The mother gave birth naturally, and only then, after extensive examinations, was a targeted heart operation performed. The boy developed splendidly, and the couple were incredibly happy that they had listened to their instincts. The difficult thing about such situations is that parents have to consciously take responsibility for all eventualities, and many are afraid of that. But experience has shown time and again that you blame yourself the most if you don't listen to your instincts, assuming you feel your feelings as clearly as these two people do. You have to assert yourself, sometimes even listen to accusations, and sometimes you are completely alone with your opinion. Who else, if not the responsible parents, is in a position to make decisions for their own child? After all, they are the ones who ultimately have to bear the consequences of their decision. Even if they followed the advice of others that did not correspond to their own feelings. I am just happy that I was able to lend my voice to the little man, so that his needs and strengths could be taken into account in the parents' decision before the birth. A photo of him still adorns my office today, and I am happy every time I look at it. From this very young person, I would now like to move on to an old person who really impressed me. It was an old but very cheerful and mentally alert woman whom I first met when she attended one of my seminars. She was very funny and we immediately hit it off. We had regular contact over the next few years, and at eighty years old she called herself my officially oldest fan. She spoke very openly about her own death and how she imagined the afterlife. She had this natural attitude to death, but constantly suffered from pain in her legs and had problems walking. I was always a little surprised by this, as it seemed as if she was at peace with herself and her loved ones. But whenever I tried to ask and wanted to know more, she assured me that she had sorted everything out for herself and was looking forward to death. A few years later, she was getting worse and the cancer in her body was taking over. After medical treatment, she was admitted to a hospice and gave up her apartment because she thought she only had a few more weeks to live. I had a different feeling... She wrote to me now and then and we spoke on the phone every now and then. Whenever I heard her voice, I could clearly feel how firmly she was still connected to life, even though other people she knew always told me that the old lady would soon see the light tunnel and that she would surely die soon. When we spoke on the phone again, she asked me why she couldn't die when she had prepared everything. I told her how her words affected me. It wasn't enough to look forward to death, you had to also be finished with his tasks here on earth. I just had the feeling that there were still things for her to sort out, but she didn't want to hear anything about it. She had made up her mind that death would fit in perfectly with her plan right now, because she was ill after all. She never once considered that she could try to get well and put her strength into this process. In the course of our conversation, issues that she was very unhappy about came to the surface. She had a precise idea of her burial and memorial service. Her only son saw things differently, however, and made no secret of the fact that he did not like her ideas. He would do it the way he thought was right when the time came, he told her that straight out. If you knew her as a person, you knew how important this funeral was to her as a farewell party. But on the other hand, she did not have the courage to assert herself with her son. This disregard for her wishes was waiting for clarification with her son, but she continued to avoid confrontation with him. And so this suppressed frustration and pain had to find a way to express itself through her body. Her pain became more and more severe, but her mind was surprisingly still clear despite the morphine. She really had the opportunity to clarify things right up until the end. During another conversation, I asked her if she had already expressed a wish as to who should pick her up when she died? I told her that her deceased husband would certainly be there if she wanted him to. She answered very aggressively and said: "No, absolutely not! I never want to meet him again. I'm far too afraid of that, he hurt me far too much." I was extremely surprised by this reaction. I realized why she had never mentioned this chapter of her life before. So there was the next unresolved relationship. After I had this information, it really wasn't surprising to me that she had such a hard time dealing with death. On the one hand, the son who ignored and disregarded her last wishes and on the other hand, the fear of meeting her deceased husband. These are actually pretty unfavorable conditions for leaving this world in peace. At some point I received the news that she had finally died. I contacted her and wanted to know how she was doing now? She was still quite stubborn and did not want to look in the mirror, which would show her that she had had it in her own hands. But as I write these lines, I feel that she has calmed down. She has now realized that she was trying to avoid conflicts and that her body was resolving these conflicts for her in the form of pain. She has reconciled herself with God and is now finally in the state she so longed for. In any case, I will always carry her in my heart because she was an enrichment for people. This story shows that it is not enough to organize everything related to death and dying, to distribute the furniture and clear out the apartment so that the bereaved no longer have to deal with it. You also have to clear up your psyche and express what is burning in your soul through words or meaningful actions. Then nothing stands in the way of a peaceful death. I am constantly learning from the people who come to me, and just as each person is individual with their own story, new situations await me again and again that I have to master. A session I attended also made a big impression when a woman came to me with her adult daughter. We sat down and I asked what I could do for her. The woman said bluntly in a very aggressive tone: "I want to speak to my husband. He should finally say how he imagines I should cope in the future." Her words were full of accusations, and she made no effort to hide this in any way. The daughter was visibly uncomfortable after this introduction, but didn't say anything. I felt the deceased behind me and the first thing I asked him in my mind was whether he had committed suicide. Because then I could at least understand the woman's anger, even if the tone was quite inappropriate. The deceased said no and explained to me that he had died suddenly of a heart attack and that he had no desire to speak to his wife under these circumstances. I could understand his reaction only too well, but now I had the honorable task of making it clear to this woman that her husband did not want to speak to her in this tone and that he would not speak to her again. She was ranting like a madman, and I let her finish ranting. Maybe, I had the faint hope, it would make her feel a little better, because anger is often part of the grieving process and it helps when you let it out. She said things like: "Typical, just like when she was alive, coward,..." and it quickly became clear that she was really just insulting her husband and blaming someone for her own frustration. Her daughter started to calm her down and tried to get her to calm down. At some point she actually did calm down, but not because she had now realized that her tone made communication with her deceased husband impossible, but because she was now really insulted and therefore didn't say a word. I conducted the rest of the conversation with the daughter and tried to at least tell her a few helpful things about her father in this awkward and tense atmosphere. Because with her I had the feeling that she was actually grieving for her father, which may also have been the case with her wife, but unfortunately it was not noticeable in any way. After this session I could now well imagine what it was like when the husband was alive and the couple were at loggerheads. This story is a good example of how the deceased also have free will and use it. If for some reason they do not want to contact their relatives, then the medium or the bereaved cannot force this. So I am constantly challenged to deal with new situations, but mastering these situations allows me to grow more and more trust and security. A completely different kind of challenge awaited me when I held an event with around twenty people. I made brief contact with a deceased person for each person and passed on the most important information. Such events were always very nice and that is why they were very popular with people. There was a good atmosphere that evening too, and the first third went quite normally. Then I turned to a woman whose father had died. This father had been a strict Catholic during his lifetime, and his faith had always given him and his daughter material for heated discussions, as she thought more spiritually and was oriented in that direction. Now I sensed this father without knowing the story of the two of them, and he began to tell how he had experienced his death. He described how he now saw what he had believed in during his lifetime. Since he had been in the spiritual world, he had gained a lot of insight into his faith and now saw some things differently. This topic was very important to his daughter, and she was happy that he had spoken out about it. I pointed out several times that I was only passing on what he said and that it had nothing to do with my personal view of the Catholic Church. This was also understood correctly by all participants, except for one. We were all the more astonished when this one participant suddenly burst out and started to insult me out of the blue. It would be the last thing I would do to deceive people and abuse their grief to get money out of their pockets, etc., etc. (Which, by the way, was really far-fetched considering the entrance fee was twenty euros for four hours.) I watched this scene and the strange thing was that his accusations didn't annoy me at all. I gave him some time to get everything off his chest and then asked him if he was finished because I would now like to say something. I reminded him that everyone sitting in this room was there voluntarily and if he didn't like it he could leave at any time. Otherwise I would expect him to hold back out of respect for the others or to avoid such events in the future. I sensed that his real anger had only been triggered by me, but that I was not the cause of his outburst. He said that he would not leave the room under any circumstances. If I wanted him to leave, I would have to get two police officers to take him away. The other participants became restless and began to ask the man, more or less politely, to leave now. Because unlike him, they were interested in what I had to say. He enjoyed this complete attention and said: "I'm staying here now, and then Mrs. Jannes should contact my mother. Then we'll see whether she can or not." Before the other participants could attack the man, I asked my spiritual helper for strength and support, and then everything happened very quickly. I forbade him to use that tone. to speak to me and had a vote on who was in favor of the man leaving the event. The result was devastating, and I no longer asked him to leave, but told him that he had to do it now. Suddenly he jumped up, ran towards the door, I pressed the twenty euros he had already paid into his hand and wished him a good evening. The woman who had brought him to the evening apologized for his behavior. She had never seen him like this before. The dynamic that had ultimately built up against him had probably become too strong for him. My spiritual helper had also played his part, and so we were able to continue the evening without further incidents. It was very impressive to me that someone had insulted me - but it had not reached me at all, it had simply bounced off me. I was able to set boundaries without becoming as rude as he was. I had not lost my respect and admiration for him as a person, and had not let myself be won over by his power play. And that gave me a feeling of freedom and strength that I hadn't even been aware of before this experience. I was rewarded by realizing through this experience that the last few years of work on myself were now bearing fruit. That evening I included this man in my prayers because I thought that if you're so angry, you must also be very sad. And that's why it couldn't hurt to send him a few nice and bright thoughts. In order to gain confidence in your perceptions, experiences of any kind are worth their weight in gold because each one shows you how the spiritual world works. The most important thing is to realize that it's not the perception that's wrong, but what you sometimes make of it. A good example of this is an encounter I had with a woman who wanted to contact her deceased partner. Half an hour before she came to me, I sensed a younger, deceased man in the room who was so excited as if he was about to have his first date. I didn't yet associate him with this woman because I didn't know why she was actually coming to me. When she arrived and we started the session, I quickly realized that this man really was hers. When I asked him why he had been there half an hour earlier, he said that he definitely didn't want to be late. This meeting with his great love was far too important to him. She said that this was typical of him when something was really important to him. Then we talked about how he had died and what he had felt about it. I asked him if he had been ill, but he said no. I asked if it had been an accident or perhaps even suicide, and he said no to that too. Now I was a bit at a loss because I didn't have many ideas about how else someone could die. I asked my spiritual helper, and he told me that it had been some kind of accident, but not like I had known it before. His exact way of expressing himself was like in school: "We haven't had that yet." I told him that he should send me an image that I could use to describe the special nature of the accident, and the following came to me: I saw two brothers in a red sports car with an open roof driving quickly through a landscape like the Eifel, with the older brother driving. So I asked myself what this image reminded me of personally. Because you have to know that the deceased can only work with the pool of information that was stored in the medium's brain at some point. If the medium does not know the taste of a strawberry from their own experience, for example, then the deceased cannot use this experience for their communication. So I summarised: Two brothers who like to drive fast, with the older brother driving faster in the red car. And the connection to the Eifel was there. I was completely confused, but I described this summary of my image to her. The woman smiled and seemed to be able to do something with my description. She explained to me that her boyfriend had died for unknown reasons during a Formula 3 test drive. He was completely alone on the track when the car suddenly broke away and he lost control of the car at high speed. He was able to describe the dilemma he had experienced in the car to me in detail, and he also had a technical explanation for the defect, which had so far been missing despite an official police investigation. Everything made sense, and when the woman mentioned the word "race track," I suddenly understood the connection between my picture and the type of accident. It was like scales fell from my eyes. The symbol with the two brothers was a reference to auto motor sport. And that would have been a surprise to me as a die-hard Schumacher fan. and Formula 1 fan should have noticed immediately. The brothers stood for the Schumacher brothers, the red car for Ferrari, and they come from the Eifel region. And the older one is really the faster of the two. I could hardly have gotten more references to racing in one picture, but that's what happens when you "can't see the forest for the trees". Despite that one moment when I was on the line, it was a very nice session, and all the unsaid things between the lovers were able to be expressed. Because of the sudden death, which the woman had witnessed from the stands, there had been no opportunity for her to say goodbye to her lover. The session at least allowed them to do it in words and make up for a farewell. Now at least she knew what exactly had happened that day and how he was doing in the afterlife. Something that always amazes me is how much suffering some people can endure. A very touching example of this is a woman who came to me because she wanted to contact several deceased people. This is actually nothing unusual, as people often come to me with questions for several deceased people. But in this case there was a tragic peculiarity. All of those she sought contact with had died on the same day. They were people close to her who were returning with her from a holiday in the mountains. They had rented a minibus and had driven home together. The return journey had originally been planned for the previous day, but somehow the departure had been delayed until the following day. The woman with whom I had the session was very unhappy with this development, because she was the only one who had the inexplicable urge to leave the day before as planned. On the actual day of the return journey she was very restless and kept urging everyone to hurry. On the way home they got caught in a traffic jam in which nothing could go forward or back. She was very upset inside and wished they were home already. A few minutes later she knew why she had felt that way. A truck had come shooting up from behind, failed to see the traffic jam, lost control of its lorry and sped into the cars without braking. The minibus was also hit and mostly destroyed. When the woman came to, she looked around the vehicle and saw that everyone except her was dead or very seriously injured. Her boyfriend, who had been driving the car, died instantly. Her little daughter, who was sitting behind the driver, had not survived the impact either. Her friend's son, who was seriously injured, had not had a chance either. She had lost three people in one fell swoop. The dog, which had also been with her, had also disappeared. She herself had not suffered any serious injuries, but was still treated by a doctor. She had sensed the approaching disaster, but could not have prevented it. I was incredibly impressed by how calmly she talked about the accident when we had finished the session. I had tried to describe to her how each person had experienced their death, because the woman's worst concern was that the victims had suffered a lot of pain. But because everything had happened so quickly, I was able to reassure her about that. The grief over her child was of course the worst thing for her, but the deceased daughter did her best to explain to her mother why she had died that day. The mother was very sensitive and fortunately could perceive her daughter very well, which of course helped her a lot to cope with her grief. She decided to make something good out of this devastating accident. So she drove back to the scene of the accident and collected signatures there. This road was already known for its traffic jams on the way back and for being dangerous. There had been fatal accidents there in the past, but nothing significant had been done to make this stretch of road safer. The woman collected signatures for the route to be made safer and changed, and was even successful. So all these people had not died in vain, and that helped her to accept this sad chapter of her life a little more. When she was there again for the petition, she happened to get into conversation with a local resident. He did not know that she was one of the people who had survived an accident there, and he told her about a bad collision between a truck and the cars stuck in a traffic jam. It was exactly the event that had taken her daughter and friends away from her, but the man did not know that yet. Then he said that he had seen a lost child that day. I found a lost dog whose owner has not come forward to this day. She asked what the dog looked like and hey presto - it was her dog that had been lost in all the chaos. Who would have thought that at least a small part of the story would have a happy ending? I saw this retrieval of the dog as a glimmer of hope despite all the tragedy of this sad event. I often think of this woman and her story. I am still impressed by the bravery with which she faced her challenges. As happened to this woman, many people do not have time to say goodbye to their loved ones in peace. They are suddenly faced with a fait accompli and must first understand and comprehend what has happened. Others have more time but still suppress the fact that their loved one will die in the foreseeable future. Even so, a conscious farewell cannot take place. In the case of a young family, I was fortunately able to help the mother to deal very consciously with the impending death of her husband and everyone to experience the farewell very consciously. This was very important for the family, because it meant that everyone could resume their own lives relatively quickly after the husband's death, and none of them were left in a state of shock. The unusual thing about it was that the wife did not come to see me in person, but that we had all the discussions about this end-of-life care by phone or email. Because she lived far away from me and did not know exactly when her husband would die, she could not leave, especially as there were two small children to look after. Her husband, the father of her children, suddenly fell ill and collapsed into a coma. His brain was already severely damaged by the lack of oxygen. If he ever woke up again, he would remain a nursing case for the rest of his life. That much was certain. A few weeks earlier, the husband had made a comment that if such a situation ever happened to him, he would not want such a thing. At the time, his wife had no idea how quickly this would happen and how this scenario would play out. So she contacted me by email, without us having known each other before. In her email she asked me for help. She asked what she should do now and whether I could also contact people who are in a coma. I replied that that was possible and we agreed on a time to talk on the phone. During this phone call she explained her dilemma to me. She wanted to act in her husband's interest, but was not sure what he wanted now, since he was in a coma and could no longer express himself. I sensed this man's soul very quickly and he made it clear to me that he was also interested in a quick solution to the situation. He described his condition and the situations that had occurred in the hospital room. He did this to prove to his wife that it was actually him who had made the statements. After all, the wife knew that I could not have known anything about it. The man explained to me very firmly that he did not want to live under these circumstances. For him, a life in need of care was actually out of the question. Even if that meant that he would have to die and leave his beloved family behind. But the price of such a life in need of care was too high for everyone involved. The woman said that she was afraid of making the decision for him and having the machines that were still keeping him alive switched off. He answered very clearly, saying: "I already made the decision that I don't want to live like that and I almost died. If I had been left alone, I wouldn't be in a coma now, would I?" She understood what he meant, but told him very clearly that she was afraid of this responsibility. I made a suggestion to the woman and asked her husband whether he would agree: she could have him taken to a hospice, where he would have the opportunity to gather strength in peace and quiet to make another attempt to die. She could help him by showing him that she had accepted his decision to die. They could say goodbye to each other in peace and she would not be in the thankless position of having to have the machines turned off. If he changed his mind, he could wake up from the coma, otherwise he would have the opportunity to go with dignity. I asked him if he had the strength to try again and if he could do his wife a favour so that she would not end up in this difficult situation. He assured me that he would manage it, as he obviously did not want his wife to be put through the situation, would be even more stressful. So I explained to the woman that she should tell her husband, who was in a coma, all of this again herself when she visited him again. This felt very right to her because on the one hand she could comply with her husband's wishes, but still did not have to bear sole responsibility for this step. She went to the hospital and arranged for him to be transferred to a hospice. She explained to her husband what she was planning to do now, since she now knew that he was aware when she spoke to him. She asked him to make the decision himself and told him that she would accept his decision, no matter what it was. Because now she knew that he did not want to continue living like this. After the transfer to the hospice, I called the woman again, and during the call her husband described special things about the day of his transfer to me, even though he was still in a coma. He thanked his wife for her courage and said that he needed a few more days to gather strength for his journey. In the meantime, his children and other relatives could say goodbye to him in peace, which they then did. And so it took about another week after he was transferred to the hospice until his heart finally stopped beating. His wife finally informed me of his death and she was glad she had done so. She was very grateful to her husband for freeing her from the burden of the decision. He also thanked her and once again clearly expressed all his love for her and the children. Despite her sadness, she was very stable and what remained was the gratitude for having known and loved each other. It is incredible how big the difference is when people receive end-of-life care and when this is not the case. Accompanying relatives is at least as important as accompanying the dying person themselves. If you don't have this kind of support, you usually don't get over the shock caused by the loss so quickly. That is why an important part of my work is end-of-life care. It is always a blessing for me to be able to accompany and support people in this process. Many clarifying moments and healing conversations can still take place. You can consciously say goodbye and express everything that is still important to you. Even if it is just the three words "I love you". At least after death you won't have the thought: "Oh, if only I had..." There are always surprises in life and of course also during contacts with the afterlife. That's why as a medium you shouldn't have any fixed ideas in your head about what the next individual session might look like. Because, as is usually the case in life, things turn out differently than you think. A classic example of this was a session with a woman who wanted to contact her deceased father. So I asked her biological father to come to me in my mind and someone appeared. I described the woman's characteristics and appearance and whatever other information flowed. When I asked her if she recognized him, she said: "Yes, but that's not my father, it's my uncle." I thought I had made a serious mistake and apologized to her. So I asked again about this woman's father, and the man I had described earlier was adamant that he was the father and remained stubborn in my perception. When I told her this, she began to smile. "So it is," she said and told me about her suspicion that her alleged father was not her biological father, but she had kept this suspicion to herself until now. She told me that there had been many indications of this since her childhood and that she had heard something like this. The deceased, who claimed to be her father, provided all sorts of information, and his version of the story suddenly made a lot of sense in this woman's childhood. I asked her to please keep me updated if she found any evidence to support this suspicion, because I was now really curious. When I had already forgotten about this session, I received a letter from this woman in which she wrote to me that what had already been announced during our session had actually come true. She thanked him again from the bottom of her heart, because her world had finally been put right and she now finally knew that she was not crazy. Her feeling had not deceived her. Many people imagine contact with the deceased to be very mystical or abstract, but communication works just like earthly communication, only on a mental level. And other things in the world beyond also have parallels to our everyday human life. We all know the situation where you meet a person and knows that you have met her somewhere before. You recognize yourself. That is how it is for me with deceased people too. It has actually happened to me several times now that people came to me independently of one another and during the session it turned out that I had already made contact with the deceased for someone else. It usually doesn't take long before I remember where I know the person from. For example, I say during the session: "This woman looks familiar to me, could that be?" And the client then says, for example: "That could be, because my sister was with you a few months ago and also wanted to contact the same deceased person." It is really fascinating what I get to experience in my job and I am often amazed at some connections and events. One side of me is still amazed that contact with the spiritual level works like that and how everything is connected and interconnected. I think that when no part of me is surprised anymore, the time has come to stop this work. But hopefully there will be a lot of time before that happens! Psychic abilities and solving crimes For many people, it is a logical conclusion that clairvoyant or psychic people can help solve crimes. This idea is not wrong, but in reality this assistance looks a little different than you might imagine. The prevailing image is that a psychic person can empathize with a crime and then give the name, address or other details of the perpetrator. There are actually cases in which this works, and it has happened from time to time in the past. It has also happened that a psychic was led directly to the body of a dead person. But as already mentioned, this is not the rule! Now you naturally wonder why these are rather exceptions. It is a legitimate question, and in order to understand this phenomenon, one must consider how the medium obtains information about crimes in the first place. This quickly explains why the results are sometimes very specific and other times remain incomplete. A person with a mediumistic disposition can obtain information about crimes from various sources. However, it should also be emphasized here that there are mediums that are more talented when it comes to crimes than others. If a person has been killed in a crime, the medium can make contact with the deceased victim and obtain information from him about the perpetrator, the course of events, etc. Now, the victims' knowledge of the crime that cost them their lives varies greatly, because it depends on how consciously the deceased experienced and perceived the crime themselves. If they did not see the perpetrator at all, for example, they cannot describe him either, because these images could no longer be stored in their "personal experience computer." The same applies to crime scenes or locations where objects were found. If the victims do not know this environment from their lives, they cannot give the exact address or location. However, they can describe everything they see around them, which often helps to solve the case. A good example of this is the crime committed against a woman who did not know the place where her body lay during her lifetime, but was able to describe the surroundings in very good detail. She described the exact type of forest, what sounds could be heard in the immediate and indirect surroundings. She showed the medium pictures of the very special shape of a lake and of distinctive buildings that stood around the lake. In this way, like a puzzle, the individual pieces could be put together and combined and used with the clues already found. On the other hand, if the victim knows the environment in which the crime was committed, the deceased can usually name the location of the incident very specifically. This of course also applies to the description of the perpetrator. If a victim did not know his perpetrator but saw him during the crime, the deceased can at least describe the perpetrator. If the perpetrator and victim knew each other during their lifetime, this person is quickly identified or named. The easiest way to imagine this is to compare the descriptions that a medium can get from the victim with normal witness statements. A policeman who questions a witness is basically doing nothing different - the medium also questions a witness, with the small difference that he is no longer physically alive. A good medium, unlike the policeman, has another option: lets the soul of the perpetrator the medium can also see the crime through the eyes of the perpetrator - like a film - in their mind's eye. In this way, they can also sense the motivation that led the criminal to commit the crime. The medium then has access to the perpetrator's emotional world and images, which can provide a large amount of information about the course of the crime and the background. However, this "service" cannot be expected from every person who calls themselves a medium. On the one hand, it depends on the person's talent and on the other hand on whether they are able to deal with a topic such as murder. Because when you sense the motivation and mindset of a criminal, deep human abysses often open up. You have to deal with that. Otherwise, as a medium, you should avoid this field of work for self-protection. Another factor that plays an important role is the medium's personal wealth of experience. The deceased, i.e. the victim of the crime, is dependent on the medium's capabilities when passing on his information about the crime. This means that if the medium has stored many different images and scenarios in their brain through their personal wealth of experience, the deceased can also use and activate all of these things to communicate. However, if this pool is correspondingly small, the deceased's options are also limited. You can imagine it like an interpreter who translates between two people. If the interpreter has a very good command of both languages and knows a lot of vocabulary, the result of his translation will be very accurate. The communication or exchange can then take place in great detail and to the point. However, if the interpreter is not so experienced and only knows a few vocabulary words, he will have to paraphrase more and the translated result will not be complete, as he does not understand everything he is supposed to translate. After all, you can only pass on what you yourself have understood. Another way to get information about the course of events of a crime is to communicate with the medium's spiritual helper. However, this requires a clear connection between the mediumistic person and his spiritual helper. This is often not the case, and solving crimes is not usually one of the main tasks of the spiritual helpers. But if important information is missing, the medium can ask the spiritual helper for it. The following problem is crucial for the success of solving crimes: both the victim and the perpetrator must want to be found. Now you might think that every victim wants to be found and the perpetrators definitely don't. But that is not the case, and there are reasons for that too. Of course there are perpetrators who do not want to be caught and have no interest in taking responsibility for what they have done. But there are also those for whom the burden of responsibility of having a human life on their conscience becomes too great and who regret their actions. They lack the courage to turn themselves in to the police, and yet they still want relief. The medium will receive very specific information from such a perpetrator. Those who do not want to be tracked down because they do not feel any remorse or regret will only give vague statements to the medium. As far as the victims are concerned, there are also different views on the desire to be found. If a deceased person has a strong connection to their relatives, which is usually the case, they will do everything they can to ensure that their body is found and that they can be buried. However, if the family environment is very unloving, selfish or even violent, the deceased may be hesitant. If relatives or friends are involved in the crime, this can have a strong influence on whether the victim actually wants to be mourned and buried by them. An ideal condition for using a medium to solve crimes is when the perpetrator and the deceased victim want to be found. In this case, the information from both sides is so specific that it is not difficult to use it accordingly. Cooperation between the police and people with media skills It is easy to believe that cooperation between the police and people with media skills works very well and should naturally be part of the police's investigation methods. Unfortunately, the reality is different, although such a connection would be more than sensible. The reasons for this can be found on both sides, and it would be too easy to blame this lack of cooperation on the police alone. Most people think that the state authorities can do nothing, and you would lose if they followed up on tips from people with mediumistic abilities. That would certainly be the case if all mediums went about their work with similar quality and modesty. Unfortunately, many of the "spiritually oriented" do not have their egos under control, so an incredible number of crazy people call the police after a crime has been reported and say that they received information about the crime because, for example, they flew over the scene of the crime on a broom during the time in question. This is just a small example of the type of calls that the police then receive. If a medium who works seriously does call, it is very demanding that the police officer on the other end of the line immediately identifies this caller as a serious medium. Unfortunately, there is also not enough time to check all of these tips from supposedly clairvoyant people to find out which information would stand up to scrutiny and which would not. Another problem that the police have when using people with mediumistic abilities is the legal basis. According to the law, the testimony of a seer or fortune teller is invalid in court, even if a perpetrator could be caught on the basis of this testimony. In the worst case, a suspect must be released if it turns out that he was found on the basis of information from a clairvoyant. In contrast, the information given by an anonymous caller to the police must be investigated, as it is recognized by law as a basis for conviction. So a legal basis would first have to be created to enable officers to officially cooperate with people with mediumistic abilities. But then there are still personal reservations about this type of "information gathering". Many police officers believe or know about such phenomena, but understandably do not want to make a fool of themselves in front of their superiors or colleagues, as not everyone is convinced of such talents and it could be interpreted as a weakness. This is the reason why cooperation between the police and sensitive people only takes place unofficially and secretly. Fortunately, there are some officers who are still very curious and include all possibilities in their investigations. They simply don't make a big deal about it and use their free time for such spiritual excursions. If they do find something, they have to come up with an official explanation of how they came to this information. Ultimately, it is not very difficult to recognize a reputable medium. If the officer knew what to expect from the medium, he could check with a few questions whether or not it is a person who is actually in contact with the deceased victim. However, this requires some knowledge of how mediums work, and unfortunately this is usually not available. For the police and mediums to work together optimally, the following things would be necessary: A modest, honest and well-trained medium who is not interested in collecting the credit for solving the case, but who stays in the background. A police officer who is somewhat familiar with how mediums work. Respect and consideration for the other person's thoughts and activities. A legal basis that allows such information to be used in court. These are four points that may sound obvious to many, but unfortunately are not usually the case in reality. If the first three points are met, nothing stands in the way of successful cooperation. Personal experience in solving crimes I myself have had various experiences with the police in relation to my gift. There were both positive and negative experiences in how my ability was handled. I gained a deep insight into the processes of police work and also met so-called "clairvoyants" who do not exactly support the credibility of my profession. I was very impressed by my encounter with a convicted child murderer. One day I received a letter from an incarcerated man who asked me for help. He was very open and explained to me what he had been convicted of. He said that he was not the perpetrator of this heinous crime, however, and hoped that I could somehow help him prove it. He had seen me on television once and for some reason trusted me. Strangely enough, I immediately had the feeling that he was telling the truth, but I still needed to know a few things from him before I would put my skills at his disposal. After all, it was about murder. He answered my questions very promptly, and I decided to request a visit to the prison in question. The meeting which took place two months later, impressed me in many ways. I first had to go through a lot of security gates, which made it very clear to me how cut off these imprisoned people are from life. Permanent control and no intimacy, anywhere. I asked myself what would be the greater punishment for me personally: to be cut off from life, nature and loved ones, or not to have a single moment of intimacy? When we then met under the strictest guard, I was pleasantly surprised. I was faced with a polite and intelligent man with an open gaze. He answered my critical questions and I suddenly felt the dead girl next to me, whose death he supposedly had on his conscience. He showed me thick files that he had collected and studied over the many years he had been in prison. I asked him how he imagined working together and he just wished that I would ask the girl a few things about the events of the day of the crime. There were gaps in the investigation and only the girl herself could describe them, as there were very few witnesses other than her. He simply hoped that her testimony would clarify the open questions and that he could thus achieve a retrial. The deceased girl confirmed to me that it was not him and described the actual perpetrators to me. I described them to him. What I described matched his own suspicions and investigations. At the end of the hour I was allotted with him, he said: "Even if it is the last thing I do, I want the real perpetrators to be found. Because such a crime must not be repeated." In the meantime, we have written to each other from time to time and I was even invited to his wedding in prison, which I was very honored about. He and his current wife rarely see each other during the requested visiting hours, but he is not giving up on the attempt to achieve a retrial. If my gift helps him to bring the truth to light, then I would be very happy, because I have gotten to know him and his wife as very fine people in the meantime. Unfortunately, he is one of the exceptions, because the criminals I have come across cannot be described as fine people in the slightest. It happens again and again that police officers turn to me and ask if I can help them. I am then happy to tell them what the deceased tells me about what happened. Often the statements are so specific that they are easy to verify. For example, there is a missing person case in which it has long been clear that the victim has long since died. There are also suspects who have even confessed in the meantime. But since the remains have not yet been found, no conviction has been made. I have been approached by several people and asked if I could say something about the location where the remains were found. I described the place very precisely with the help of the deceased, and when I drove there one day, I was able to locate the location very quickly. The police officer who inspected the place with me assured me that no one had actually searched there yet and that the place would make sense from a forensic point of view. He wanted to ensure that a search was carried out there. Unfortunately, this officer was later undermined by his colleagues to such an extent that no search has been carried out at the location to date. I have already explained the reasons for this disharmonious cooperation a few pages ago. I am sure that the remains of this person will be found at some point. It is just a shame that time will pass for this and that others will probably fall victim to the perpetrators by then. In any case, I pray that something as horrific as this will not happen again. The most successful cooperation I have had in relation to a crime so far was with the mother of a young woman who had been killed. This mother had no reservations about my work and was thus able to make optimal use of the information she received from her daughter through me. The daughter was sixteen years old when she was killed and had a strong sense of justice even during her lifetime. It is therefore all the more understandable that she did everything she could to put the perpetrators behind bars. She had seen the perpetrators closely and was able to describe them very well. She told me names and places where she had previously encountered them. I knew this area a little myself and was able to recognize some of her descriptions. The mother did not give up and ultimately even stood up to the police, who thought she was crazy and made this clear. Therefore, the clues were aren't investigated seriously enough. The mother finally found the perpetrator on her own. He confessed to the crime and has since been convicted. Despite the clear evidence, which could no longer be dismissed, the mother had to listen to some comments from the judge about her. After the verdict was read out, he even told her that she should be glad that he didn't have her taken away in a straitjacket. It was the mother's clues that had led to the perpetrator... These are all incidents that show how complex this issue is and that it is not enough to just give the name and address of the perpetrator. Personally, I am happy when my gift helps someone and can contribute to finding the truth. Fortunately, I no longer have the expectation that the police have to take me seriously. If someone needs my help, I am happy to give what I can, but I am also just a small piece of the puzzle in a complex structure. Afterword. I hope that with this book I have succeeded in opening the door to the spiritual world for you so that you have been able to gain some insight. I am glad that this talent has given me so many opportunities to accompany and help people on their journey through life, because the areas of application are really very diverse. Like many other talents, this mediumistic gift is a service to people, and I try to make my contribution as best as I can. If everyone could make their contribution, then perhaps it is possible to imagine what effect that would have on our world. Personally, I am full of confidence that humanity will find the right path, even if it may not seem that way at times. Because one thing is certain: everything you give from the heart will come back in some form at some point. However, that should not be the motivation for your own giving. So it makes sense to think about the contribution you yourself would like to make to this world with all your heart. Because every person has something special within them that only they can enrich others with. Perhaps you are now curious about your personal potential... Help has many faces, but only one source: unconditional love. For me there is no doubt that the spiritual world exists, and I hope that this book will show why that is so. I had to and was able to learn a lot, and I hope that it will stay that way for a long time to come. Life is like a school in which God is the teacher, and we are right in the middle of it. So there is always something to learn or experience, we just have to be open to it. If someone thinks: "Life is not a game, but a struggle and a fight," then they should remember that you always have a choice, you just have to make it and do everything necessary to make the dream become reality and the present. The spiritual world is a level from which we can receive great help and support, but the responsibility for our actions still remains with us. We alone decide and thus determine the quality of our lives. My motto is: Even if it seems difficult sometimes, it is always worth making your contribution and experiencing happiness as a result. I wish you a lot of it and hope that you have now found suitable answers to many of your questions. Acknowledgements. When I lie in bed at night, I always say thank you for the day. That is why I would like to put my thanks at the end of this book. There are so many helpers who accompany me in my life and I would like to express my gratitude to all of them because, among other things, they have once again actively supported me in writing this book. Be it by proofreading, babysitting, listening, missing out on me and much more. Everyone has done this in their own special way and still does today. This certainty fills me with deep humility. A special thank you goes to my unborn child, who is due to see the light of this world in the near future. I am glad that he waited to arrive until I could finish this book! I wish everyone the happiness that I have had - and much more. The end. this was english google translated: